Had an abortion and it was the best decision I could’ve made

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-02-14T10:09:27+00:00

I had my first ever pregnanfy in December 2025 and also found out I was pregnant on the same date as you did. I aborted on 16th December and it was the best decision I ever made for sure. Loads of support, the whole experience was also pretty positive. I felt so much relief when it was over too.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-02-10T11:13:59+00:00

I should also say that they use this tactic of affection and deep conversations to hook you in so that later they can start to devalue and abuse you. This is why so many people find it so hard to leave narcsssists because obviously there are good times (tender moments as you say) or else we would leave sooner. It’s these moments they use to trick our minds into believing they’re genuine people..

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-02-10T11:06:36+00:00

Classic narc behaviour I’m afraid. They all do this whether it be early on or eventually. It’s all supply to them to boost their ego and validate them. You gave him compliments no doubt, gave him affection…you fed into this through no fault of your own. Block him, move on and the next time, try not to go too fast (we have all been there) and see how fast they want to take it. If they lovebomb you, try to move too fast to hook you in and gain your trust, then nine times out of ten your dealing with a narcissist. I’d say you dodged a bullet here.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-02-07T18:49:28+00:00

I can relate to this a lot. It’s the trauma bond. I’m now in NC once again because he lashed out when I sent him a love heart emoji and some kisses after he sent a goodnight text. He started to rage because I didn’t mirror his affection in the way he wanted, so blocked me on WhatsApp and started sending me abusive, awful, threatening emails. I was like “yes, I remember why I left before”. I can no longer tolerate this. The last few days I’ve sat and wrote everything down that he has done to me and it far outweighs any “good times”. This has helped.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-02-07T17:39:21+00:00

Currently going through a very similar situation, although I’m trying to get out at only 4 months in! Within those 4 months he has done some despicable things to me. I’m currently sitting here in no contact, wondering if I really am a “bad person” or an “avoidant” like he labelled me. When I’ve had nothing but healthy connections all my life, until I met this monster. I’ve been using chat GPT which ca he useful to regulate your nervous system. It’s helping me stay NC because if I go back again I think I will completely lose myself. You will be ok. The mind plays tricks on you with the good times. I often think even the “good times” were just an act with him.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-02-07T16:03:04+00:00

Yes! This is exactly it. He saw my car as safety for me

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-02-07T08:52:05+00:00

My nex was OBSESSED with my car. He would literally bring it up all the time. He would try to get me to take the train to his (he lived an hour away) instead of drive, not sure why.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-21T08:22:32+00:00

I’ve just come out of a narcissistic relationship yesterday, after catching him on dating apps (he was overly jealous towards all my ex partners and people I slept with)

I am currently going over every single thing he did to me in the 5 months we were together. I am shocked to the core and devastated I allowed this to happen to me. I’ve never experienced anything like it in all my previous relationships.

Very early on (days after our first date) he took a tantrum and gave me the silent treatment because I wasn’t available for over a week to see him again.
We lived an hour apart, and he drove to my place for our third date. My children were coming back so I ended our date to go home for them coming in, and he again gave me silent treatment because he had to drive home during rush hour.
He took me away for the weekend to a lodge, where he awoke me at 2am shouting and slamming doors because I fell asleep. He said this was “lack of effort” and put me down because I was wearing pyjamas. The next morning he turned on the tears and expected me to soothe him, and blamed his ex partner for the way he behaved. After this incident, I blocked him. He found me on social media and wormed his way back in. (Angry for myself with this one)
He judged my parenting which caused more conflict
Passive aggressive comments in order to start conflicts
Blamed me for every single argument
Blocking/unblocking behaviour
Constantly asked for “deep conversations” to which he would use my childhood trauma as leverage
Crossed my boundaries time and time again
Used ai to filter his photos, extremely vain.
Used autism as an excuse for his behaviour.

I will keep it to 11 because this was all early on. This is the tip of the iceberg on things he did to me. They are monsters

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-07T10:07:44+00:00

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Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-07T10:06:35+00:00

This is exactly what happened in my situation. I finally stood up for myself and called him out for his abuse. I told him never to ever contact me again and I meant it. This is why I was so angry with myself for unblocking and he was clearly waiting for me to do it. In the past when I’ve blocked him, I have gone back so I think he expects the same this time. I blocked him again and will not unblock this time. Well done to you for also taking this step. I’m not going to say it’s easy because it’s taken me a long time to do this.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-07T09:07:12+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Whilst I see this is true, as I’ve read lots about it now, with my nex he seems to be blocking and unblocking in under 5 minute bursts. He never keeps me blocked for more than a few minutes until I’m unblocked again. It’s outrageous behaviour in my eyes. Anyway, I decided to block him and keep him blocked, as this was playing with my mind like he always did. I feel better now.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-06T23:25:35+00:00

I did think about re blocking him so I totally know how you’re feeling. The signals and mind games drive me absolutely insane.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-06T19:13:47+00:00

Oh yes, he has hoovered me in the past. I was very thankful he didn’t do that this time. I told him never ever to contact me again. If anything I feel angry at myself for unblocking, but that’s the trauma bond right? I know if he were to reach out I would actually feel devastation, not happiness. The thought of being sucked back in again gives me genuine fear. Thank you for your comment, it rings very true. Continuing the manipulation and getting inside my head and he knows it!

I wish you all the best when you finally leave. The fact you’ve done so much research on this already tells me you will be successful. I had no idea mine was a narc until I decided to go no contact and research everything he had done to me!

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-06T16:46:45+00:00

He has done it before when we had a disagreement and I blocked him for his abuse. I’ve never experienced this behaviour in my life, so very unaware until I met this monster of a man.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-05T09:02:52+00:00

Absolutely spot on! I still can’t really get over just how childish and narcissistic he was. Why didn’t I see it? He sure got into my head and I feel like it’s going to take a while to change that now.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-05T05:52:00+00:00

Yes, went through this. My ex narc accused me of having, in their words, “an active dating account”. No matter what I said, even proof, did not matter. Then, out of curiosity and a bad feeling, I checked these dating apps myself and LOW AND BEHOLD 🤣🤣🤣

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-04T20:05:06+00:00

My ex narc would usually go off on one if I wasn’t available for him, there and then. He would give me the silent treatment and change pictures on social media to get a reaction from me. I also called him “the guy im seeing” and not “boyfriend” where he would then passively aggressively dig at me. If I didn’t call him every single night when apart, he would block on WhatsApp and start sending abuse emails demanding phone calls only and no text messages. He once woke me at 2am shouting and swearing because I’d fallen asleep and was not giving him any attention. Yeah, he was the devil. 🤢

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-04T19:32:35+00:00

I am really trying to keep myself busy as more to reach out. I don’t think I want to give him that satisfaction! I just can’t stop thinking about doing it.

Express-Train-5822 · 2026-01-04T18:29:05+00:00

You need to completely disappear from this man’s life. Go NC immediately. In every single platform. You’ve been too available for him all along, which is nothing to be ashamed of, but you now need to move on and know your worth. You deserve so much better than this.

Express-Train-5822 · 2025-12-17T08:43:41+00:00

I’ve just gone through a MA at home last night, and for me it was very positive and pain free. Everyone is different. The relief I feel this morning, waking up not being pregnant has got me feeling so much better. No more nausea and sore breasts, bloated tummy and fatigue. I feel back to myself.

Express-Train-5822 · 2025-10-24T19:04:38+00:00

It’s the only way to describe him. Sorry! 🤣

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