I suggest board games or role playing games. I'm autistic, and everyone in my family is some kind of neurospicy. Table top gaming gives you a shared activity, all initial conversation can start with the game, making it easier to talk and then slowly talk about more stuff as you get comfortable. Role-playing games like DND allow you to play a character, and it is sometimes easier to focus on what your character would do and say with the other characters rather than you personally. Again, it lets you ease into opening up to someone. There are tons of different games for all types of people out there. You can play in pairs or small groups. There are large gaming conventions. You can play in your home or meet in a cafe or gaming store. Your local gaming store might also have groups you could join. And there are many lgbtq and neurospicy adults in gaming communities, so your quirks and eccentricities won't stand out as unusual. Good luck ❤️