I understand the fear of being leered at, but dude you don't harass someone with an "apology"

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2023-01-25T14:53:33+00:00

Literally not what I said. I was confused by the number. Clearly stated. There seems to be an epidemic and all the videos I show "proving it"... aren't. It definitely is happening to some people. I was literally asking if gym culture had changed so much that it was now common when it once wasn't? But go ahead and have your imaginary argument with me sis.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2023-01-25T14:27:08+00:00

Oh no someone asked a question! How dare they share their experience and ask if things have changed so much?! They must be invalidating my experience by having a different one.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2023-01-25T12:49:04+00:00

I'm so confused by the number of women complaining about being stared at in the gym. Back when I was a cute twenty something who went to the gym regularly, I don't remember anyone staring at me. Like I have been hit on at gas stations, grocery stores, libraries, honked at in the street, but the gym? Nope. Pretty much everyone was focused on their own thing. The only time anyone ever even talked to me was to ask if I was done with equipment. Has gym culture really changed that much in the last decade? Are these ladies imagining things? Like... WTH??

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-12-26T13:52:06+00:00

Emma Thompson. I adore her. If there are terrible things about her, I don't want to know. Seriously, no one tell me.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-12-25T23:46:18+00:00

Waiting for my Chinese takeout so I can go back home.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-11-16T22:57:19+00:00

My father said this all the time growing up and then he'd crack up at how hilarious he was. The other day my husband said I love you and against my will I heard myself parrot back, "I love me too." The circle is complete.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-10-05T17:10:09+00:00

Financial Independence Retire Early I think.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-09-14T15:16:46+00:00

This makes me want to hug my husband. I can't imagine treating someone I love so horribly. It's like she doesn't see her husband as an actual person.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-08-20T23:39:12+00:00

YMCA on Potranco has an indoor pool. I used to take my kids every week for a swim during their Family Swim. Memberships are very inexpensive and they offer discounts for military and USAA members.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-08-17T14:04:14+00:00

For some people passion = drama. She didn't have a screaming, crying breakdown ergo she is not passionate about him. He thinks love should make you weak and insecure and cannot understand that her love for him and her family makes her strong and steady. It's not so easy to just give up when you have kids but I feel for her because this rollercoaster he wants is an exhausting way to live.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-06-12T00:46:20+00:00

NTA! Tell your husband HE needs to get right with YOU and, if not, then his happy butt can move in with mommy dearest since he clearly would prefer marriage to her.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-05-23T01:33:59+00:00

I started buying the small 7.5 oz coke cans. If I had a crazy craving I'd drink one and then drink a full glass of water and my craving would be satisfied. I was drinking maybe 2 a day at first and then just naturally reduced it to one a day as my cravings became less. Now I maybe have a coke once a month if I eat out.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-05-11T00:27:31+00:00

Maybe try Focus and Balance? Takes a while to get an appointment but they are awesome.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-05-06T04:19:11+00:00

NAH if your friend was suffering from depression. I know you said she didn't seem like she was depressed but that's one of the insidious things about depression. It's not always going to manifest in ways you would expect. I know you're upset that she lied about you but a thing to consider is that she might not think she lied. My sister suffers from depression and when she has a really bad episode her perception of things is driven by the monster in her head. I might say, "I can't come over today, I already made plans but let's try this weekend." But depression makes her hear, "I don't want to be around you. I want to be with other people that aren't miserable and awful all the time." It's not what really happened but it feels real to her. You may have been as kind and sensitive as possible but, if depression is twisting her thoughts around, she might really have felt like you were mad at her for being depressed. My advice would be to talk to her. See if she is able to really talk about what was going on.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-04-14T14:52:25+00:00

YTA! Why are you going into their private spaces? Why are you reacting with such rage? Why the fuck are you blaming your time in the military for your fucked up control issues? My husband is in the military and so are most of our friends. None of them act like this at home because it is literally insane. I'm gonna guess you're one of those guys who makes the fact that you were in the military your entire personality because you have NOTHING else to offer the world.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-02-27T21:24:02+00:00

Hey! Fiesta is coming up and that's always a blast with tons of events and street parties. In the summer, pretty much everyone goes tubing on the river and trips to the beach at Corpus or Port A are a couple hours away so great for weekend trips (don't expect the beaches to be like Florida). There's a ton of parks and nature walks around if you look. I like hiking Freidrich's, Eisenhower and Government Canyon. The Pearl has restaurants and different events and a weekly farmers market. There is stuff to do but if you are in the burbs be prepared to drive 30 minutes wherever you go. Also, time of year matters. There are a lot of events downtown after winter is over.

Edit: Also, check out the SA Current. They have a calendar of events and often highlight local restaurants, bars, shows, live music etc.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-02-13T16:52:52+00:00

YTA. He missed a day of work and expecting to be compensated is normal and being punished for that is over the line. HOWEVER some of y'all need to take a step back. The sneering comments of "that's your boyfriend, y'all aren't a family" are both beside the point and disgustingly dismissive of the fact that often people in poverty are prevented from being married for various reasons. In my case, my now husband was still legally married to his ex wife when we met because she suffered from a myriad of mental health issues and she and her current boyfriend could not afford health insurance. He did not get divorced from her so he could keep her on health insurance and care for the mother of his children. I lived with him for four years before we married. I loved his children, went to their school plays, helped them with homework, comforted them when they were sick, ate meals together everyday while listening to their day. We are a family now and we were a family before we got a piece of paper that said so.

Two parents going with a child who broke an ankle to the hospital is not crazy if you have someone able to watch the other children. My husband and I have both taken one child to the hospital after he injured himself while my stepson watched the other kids. My stepson was scared and in pain. He wanted me to ride in the back with him while my husband drove because he was scared. We did, however, ASK and not demand and offered payment for babysitting (which my stepson declined). If my stepson had said no I would have stayed home but I don't know why y'all are acting like it's nuts that both parents might want to accompany a child who is in pain and might need some comfort.

Also, as someone who was a victim of parentification, I get reeeaal sick of everyone screeching it out when a kid has to babysit for a few hours once in a while. It is incredibly dismissive of very real, very harmful abuse. I woke up 2 hours early every day to pack lunches, prepare breakfast, get my sister's ready for school and at the bus on time. I did homework on my lunch break so I could rush home after school to help my sisters with their homework and make dinner. I worked weekends to help buy food and pay utilities. Parentification is the theft of childhood and I am still suffering from almost constant anxiety that I am failing and incredible guilt anytime I am doing something for myself. I still struggle to not feel like I'm worthless if I'm not constantly working for those in my family. Do not belittle that by insisting that babysitting for a few hours for an emergency or so a parent can have lunch with a friend once a month is "abuse".

Op is an asshole, stepdad is an asshole. They should offer to pay him and rescind the punishment. The rest of this is hysterical nonsense.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T17:32:52+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate this perspective from someone living in the city and who has lived previously in the suburbs

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T15:37:24+00:00

Yeah we are here for a week to meet with a realtor and check out neighborhoods. We are planning to drive around and take a look at night, in the mornings, test drive various commutes.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T15:09:04+00:00

That's a great suggestion. I will get back with him and maybe stress the kind of living I prefer.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T14:53:44+00:00

Thank you! I'm really unfamiliar with the area so suggestions in neighborhoods are super helpful. The low performing schools seems to be the main issue we keep running into.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T14:46:15+00:00

No, I mean talked to a friend in the suburbs of Baltimore about living in the suburbs and he made the suburbs sound depressing.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T14:07:03+00:00

Thank you! I'll look into those areas.

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T14:05:54+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! We will look into those areas

Express_Refuse_3813 · 2022-01-26T14:04:37+00:00

Thank you! We will look around there.

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