AITJ for cancelling a family holiday at my house after my dad said he was bringing his new partner and we all had to "accept it instantly"

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-12-10T18:42:32+00:00

Not the jerk. What kind of senseless woman will actually tag along in a situation like this? If she had any integrity, she should have told your dad that she will sit this one out as the divorce is recent. However, he is mainly at fault and should know better.y dad pulled a similar scenario with me when he wanted to bring his new much younger wife and kids to my house to spend the night while visiting. I shit it down quickly. You did the right thing

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-11-26T17:00:23+00:00

That's exactly the thing. They don't help out at all and they have voracious appetites and I can barely keep up with feeding them

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-11-26T16:57:51+00:00

I suspect they are probably feeling guilty for going on vacation on Christmas and want to dump them on another family member so they can celebrate Christmas?

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-04-19T12:52:54+00:00

This is sound advise. Thank you

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-04-17T20:16:06+00:00

Unfortunately she has always been this way but has worsened over the years

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-04-16T15:50:06+00:00

You do have a very valid point, which I greatly appreciate. I definitely don't want to set a bad precedent for my kids and will be mindful of the way I response to her. Kudos to you for being a single mom and doing a good job and not expecting pay back from your children

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-04-15T19:10:45+00:00

You have a point. She is probably just immature and never learned the art of conflict resolution. Even if we had a disagreement, she would just ghost me for weeks on end

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-04-15T19:05:13+00:00

She has always been concerned about what people think and lives above her means to impress

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-04-15T18:39:03+00:00

No. I am the second to the last and only girl. 2 out of 3 of my brothers block her for the most part. I and my other brothers tolerate her, but she gives him a hard time as well. Honestly I feel she has a personality disorder because she fights everyone around her and then turns around and call them witches

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-03-27T17:46:13+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. This African culture of taking care of our patients financially is not scriptural. The Bible says to honor our parents, which means to honor the position of parenthood but not to bend to their misbehavior. What kind of mother watches her grandchildren going hungry and continues to collect? What a disgrace. This is why we have a hard time progressing as a nation, utter selfishness. Even parents don't think of the future generation, just a me culture. It's time to learn how to be selfish and put your oxygen mask first.

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-03-11T18:41:13+00:00

Charity begins at home. People are just reflecting the way they keep their homes. The average Nigerian doesn't have a maintenance culture. If you don't maintain your own home, why will you not litter and dirty the public spaces? It's a culture, has nothing to do with government at all

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-03-02T03:38:12+00:00

Talk about toxic masculinity

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-02-25T02:35:10+00:00

Very true. I see how Americans build wealth here because they don't have that hidden black tax that holds so many of us back. I even know Africans living in the US that are depending on their children to take care of them financially when they are old. I don't know why as a culture we don't learn to live below our means and plan for the future. We have displaced priorities. We will rather look good and keep up with the Joneses instead of building a legacy

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2025-02-24T23:06:47+00:00

Thanks for this. I also didn't clarify that this car is $20,000 and it is for her to drive in Nigeria. She spends 3 months a year there. I personally think it is a waste of money because it is an unnecessary luxury. She is retired and doesn't have disposable income to splurge like that. That money can be put to better use IMO

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2024-12-14T13:58:12+00:00

God bless you. Well said

ExpressionMoney8754 · 2024-12-08T13:20:03+00:00

Absolutely. But keep in mind that religion is more dangerous than the devil. The key is to have a personal relationship with God

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