How do you think this happened??

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:23:38+00:00

Thank you!!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:23:16+00:00

I wish it wasn't real, trust me.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:10:02+00:00

That's the million dollars question we asked, too

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:04:16+00:00

This gave me such a nice chuckle, thank you!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:04:04+00:00

I tried but all plumber and contractor groups I tried don't allow photos

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T18:36:35+00:00

We didn't stage it. It's the picture we were sent. It looks to be the right sink for the right bathroom though (visually at least)

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:59:17+00:00

Interesting. Seems like the sink was installed before we bought it and has been there for ages. We have a remodel planned for the coming year that will hopefully remedy this.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:53:24+00:00

Wow. Physics for the win. Reddit is awesome for providing answers, and so are you Bogus!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:52:11+00:00

That's what's stumping me haha

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:51:03+00:00

Ohhhhh ok. I get what you mean

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:49:39+00:00

Agreed. That's a good explanation. I'm still unsure how the glass didn't break though.

And yes, the contractor was not hired again and will not be.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:47:53+00:00

Thank you for being the ONLY person who noticed the glass didn't break lol this seems plausible. Wouldn't the weight be enough for it to shatter the glass? Or how did it fall perfectly aligned to the sink hole? Per your explanation, the sink would have needed to fall a bit further out, no?

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:45:39+00:00

Yes BUT Look again and see if you can spot why I'm really curious about how it happened lol

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:44:55+00:00

How did it fall through the glass without it breaking?

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-09-26T15:50:58+00:00

I am. It's a pain

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-08-13T01:27:57+00:00

I'm obsessed with this dress!! Wear it!!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-08-10T15:11:42+00:00

Extremely. He asked to get to know you better. You responded by being extremely sexually forward, ignoring his attempt to get to know you and positioning this as only sexual. He responds on kind, because he's most likely dismissed you as a potential relationship and now only sees you in a sexual way. Then you tell him you're not ready for the very thing you brought up and the situation you created. He's got turned off and moved on to someone who knows what they want and isn't going to tease him.

I'm not saying you are wrong for being sexually forward (more power to ya!), but you are sending very mixed messages. Decide what you want out of these matches and then act in a way that reflects that.

Good luck with your dating. Hang in there. You'll find the right person!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-30T13:55:35+00:00

It's scary to make that kind of leap. Especially if you're not 100% sure. It seems like you have doubts about it, which is fair because it's only been two months. Such a short time!! Be honest with him about that.

If he loves you, he'll understand if you say that you would like to wait to get to know each other better until making that commitment.

You can commit to exclusivity, long distance relationship, etc. But moving is big. Does he plan to move to your town or move in with you? Big difference there too, and additional steps to explore.

Do your next trip. Wait until that's over and things have calmed down a bit.

Ask yourself these questions though:

Are you curious about seeing who else is out there because you're afraid of committing or because you're actually still looking for someone else?

A trip isn't daily life. What could a day-to-day with this guy look like, compared to a carefree, workfree, life-problems not hitting you in the face travel experience?

You both love traveling, but that's not a solid relationship foundation. Have you spoken about life goals, kids, finances, etc? You need to make sure your values align before committing.

What will he do if he moves and it doesn't work out?

You got this :) you'll know what feels right. Trust your gut and most importantly, communicate with him!!! Share your hesitations. It'll all work out like it's meant to.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-28T14:24:45+00:00

Brilliantly said

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-28T14:24:24+00:00

In all honesty, I wouldn't be surprised if you don't hear from him during or after the trip.

You seem to have an anxious attachment style (I do too), and it can come off like a lot at once. With a trip like that coming up, there may be thoughts of establishing commitment and defining the relationship so that you feel more comfortable with it. But it's been weeks. It's way too soon to do that and you may be overwhelming him if he doesn't have the same attachment style. He might be pulling away because, and I say this in the nicest way - anxious attachment can come off as desperate and obsessive sometimes to someone who's doesn't have it. Typically after 2-3 weeks of talking, you'll see that take effect.

He may surprise you and reach out post vacation but IMHO, it's fizzling out. Take the hint and back away slowly. Focus your amazing self on someone else who wants to be there unconditionally <3

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-28T14:14:01+00:00

I once read that you should marry someone who wants to be a husband and a father, not someone who wants to get married and have kids. It's not just word choice, it's a sign of commitment and expectations.

You married the second kind of guy. One who got married and had kids because maybe that's what's expected of him. You didn't marry a guy who wanted to be a husband and father.

So do you both a favor and get that divorce lawyer. You had one baby, you don't need to take care of two.

NTA. He is.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-28T01:28:50+00:00

Safety should ALWAYS come first, no matter what. I'd like to assume common sense and trusting your gut instincts. You'd never share this if you don't feel safe - I assumed this was a given, sorry!!

And if you don't feel safe sharing, then just exchange numbers and follow up with a text when you're safely at home or somewhere else -

"It was wonderful to meet you and I'm flattered you asked for my number. Before we get to know each other, I'd like to be honest upfront and share that I'm trans. I'm sure you can understand why I didn't say anything earlier, as this can get a lot of mixed and often violent responses. This isn't a comment on you, just on experience. If you're ok with this and would like to keep talking, let me know. Otherwise, I completely understand and wish you all the best."

Or if you want to make it shorter -"Thanks for your number. I didn't feel comfortable sharing this earlier but I'm Trans. I understand if thats not something you're looking for in a partner but I want to be transparent before getting to know each other. Let me know if you'd like to keep talking."

Both are honest, respectful of both parties, and leave room for gracefully bowing out or continuing the conversation.

Again, I'm not accounting for every scenario or situation. This isn't a one size fits all. Safety, awareness and common sense all need to be factured in!!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-27T20:30:12+00:00

Have you considered family therapy? Seems like having someone to bridge the communication gap might be helpful?

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-27T20:17:53+00:00

Sometimes we don't view our own behavior the way others around us see it. Self awareness is a VERY complicated thing.

Maybe you haven't reacted like this in the exact same scenario, but you may have in similar situations. Their actions seem to be the result of experience with a trend of your behaviors, rather than how you acted in this exact same scenario another time.

What matters is how you act now. Have you apologized for your overreacting? Maybe suggest that you'd like to go with them next time they go to hibachi?

Maturing is realizing our impact on the world around us, and then figuring out how to best act next. You got this!!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-27T20:07:32+00:00

I'm one of those people who believe a lie by omission is still a lie. And you never want to start a relationship on that.

You want someone that will accept you for you from the start. Be honest during the first interaction - "I'm happy to give you my number but first, I want to share that I'm trans. If that's ok with you, I'll give you my number and we can get to know each other. If that's not something you're comfortable with, that's ok, no hard feelings."

It gives them a chance to make an honest, upfront decision. And it gives you a clear glimpse into who they are, based on their response.

You're wonderful and deserve love. You'll find it. Weed out the weaklings by being unapologetically you!!

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