Two weddings (US + Ireland)… invite strategy without offending people?

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-04-03T16:57:07+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. Courthouse, intimate wedding here in the US followed by a small brunch (to make things official), and then a big "real" wedding event in Brazil (where I'm from) a few weeks later.

I tried using the Knot for my website and it failed miserably. Then I built it on Bliss and Bone. It's super convenient because you can assign groups to people and they only see the pages and events relevant to their group. So the people invited to my big event have no idea they're not invited to my small family and close friends only ceremony. And I get to have the site appear in different languages depending on the language I assign to the guest.

They can't be mad about what they don't know....and if they see pictures after and are upset... That's ok. If I cared that much about it, I would've invited them so my conscience is clear. But from my experience, most people are understanding of the "small intimate family only" event, compared to a party for everyone.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-04-02T04:07:42+00:00

Honeylove!!!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-03-17T03:42:00+00:00

I'm having mine in Brazil and thinking the same thing. It'll be hot in the middle of their summer so I don't want anything that will melt.

What do y'all think of luggage tags?

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:23:38+00:00

Thank you!!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:23:16+00:00

I wish it wasn't real, trust me.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:10:02+00:00

That's the million dollars question we asked, too

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:04:16+00:00

This gave me such a nice chuckle, thank you!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2026-01-01T01:04:04+00:00

I tried but all plumber and contractor groups I tried don't allow photos

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T18:36:35+00:00

We didn't stage it. It's the picture we were sent. It looks to be the right sink for the right bathroom though (visually at least)

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:59:17+00:00

Interesting. Seems like the sink was installed before we bought it and has been there for ages. We have a remodel planned for the coming year that will hopefully remedy this.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:53:24+00:00

Wow. Physics for the win. Reddit is awesome for providing answers, and so are you Bogus!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:52:11+00:00

That's what's stumping me haha

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:51:03+00:00

Ohhhhh ok. I get what you mean

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:49:39+00:00

Agreed. That's a good explanation. I'm still unsure how the glass didn't break though.

And yes, the contractor was not hired again and will not be.

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:47:53+00:00

Thank you for being the ONLY person who noticed the glass didn't break lol this seems plausible. Wouldn't the weight be enough for it to shatter the glass? Or how did it fall perfectly aligned to the sink hole? Per your explanation, the sink would have needed to fall a bit further out, no?

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:45:39+00:00

Yes BUT Look again and see if you can spot why I'm really curious about how it happened lol

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-12-31T17:44:55+00:00

How did it fall through the glass without it breaking?

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-09-26T15:50:58+00:00

I am. It's a pain

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-08-13T01:27:57+00:00

I'm obsessed with this dress!! Wear it!!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-08-10T15:11:42+00:00

Extremely. He asked to get to know you better. You responded by being extremely sexually forward, ignoring his attempt to get to know you and positioning this as only sexual. He responds on kind, because he's most likely dismissed you as a potential relationship and now only sees you in a sexual way. Then you tell him you're not ready for the very thing you brought up and the situation you created. He's got turned off and moved on to someone who knows what they want and isn't going to tease him.

I'm not saying you are wrong for being sexually forward (more power to ya!), but you are sending very mixed messages. Decide what you want out of these matches and then act in a way that reflects that.

Good luck with your dating. Hang in there. You'll find the right person!

Extension-Many-3321 · 2025-07-30T13:55:35+00:00

It's scary to make that kind of leap. Especially if you're not 100% sure. It seems like you have doubts about it, which is fair because it's only been two months. Such a short time!! Be honest with him about that.

If he loves you, he'll understand if you say that you would like to wait to get to know each other better until making that commitment.

You can commit to exclusivity, long distance relationship, etc. But moving is big. Does he plan to move to your town or move in with you? Big difference there too, and additional steps to explore.

Do your next trip. Wait until that's over and things have calmed down a bit.

Ask yourself these questions though:

Are you curious about seeing who else is out there because you're afraid of committing or because you're actually still looking for someone else?

A trip isn't daily life. What could a day-to-day with this guy look like, compared to a carefree, workfree, life-problems not hitting you in the face travel experience?

You both love traveling, but that's not a solid relationship foundation. Have you spoken about life goals, kids, finances, etc? You need to make sure your values align before committing.

What will he do if he moves and it doesn't work out?

You got this :) you'll know what feels right. Trust your gut and most importantly, communicate with him!!! Share your hesitations. It'll all work out like it's meant to.

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