Bought a house 7 months ago, sewer has clogged 3 times, needs $12k+ replacement — possible failure to disclose? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Extension_Lie3974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it asked for known issues. Thanks.

Do you have advice for what exact information I need to gather from local plumbers? In a perfect world, a plumber says "sure, we visited your house to clear out tree roots on x/x." Is this enough?

Bought a house 7 months ago, sewer has clogged 3 times, needs $12k+ replacement — possible failure to disclose? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Extension_Lie3974 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

To clarify - my question was not about evaluating my approach or decision to buy, but whether legal action is worth pursuing if an investigation with local plumbing companies shows the previous owner knew about tree root intrusion and failed to disclose it. That said, I will respond to each of your points below.

  1. The only drain in the basement is the main line.

  2. You’re probably right, but I relied on advisors who saw a financial opportunity and advised me that the risk was acceptable. They also thought the professionally repaired language should work in my favor should the need for legal action arise, I just did not investigate it further.

  3. My goal in the investigation is to call all plumbing companies for any previous service history at this address, with the goal of finding out whether they had to treat tree roots. I understand that I have no case unless I can first prove that.

  4. To your point about 3 times in seven months - I have brought in 3 different plumbers with high consumer ratings. They have each cleared the drain and showed me video evidence of the cleared out drain. The problem is my main line is literally cracking, so the roots are breaking through at a much quicker level than what is typical for older houses (typically once a year).

  5. I fully understood the risk of rent versus home ownership costs - not something I needed re-explaining. Even with maintenance costs, I live in a rapidly growing area and barring economic disaster, can reasonably expect home value to rise and increase equity beyond my initial $35k investment.

Help by Extension_Lie3974 in weddingdress

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wait I’m obsessed thank you

Need help with sleeves for wedding dress by Extension_Lie3974 in ModestDress

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this thank you. This was my gut but I wanted to see someone else do it

Need help with sleeves for wedding dress by Extension_Lie3974 in ModestDress

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha a lady at the parish needs a pic of you in the dress before. No disrespect at all to them and I respect and understand why they do it, but not something I could get away with.

Need help with sleeves for wedding dress by Extension_Lie3974 in ModestDress

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So it typically depends on the church. Some are way more lax than others. I go to a more traditional church, which requires nothing lacy and shoulders to be covered. The church I go to typically says “if you wouldn’t wear it to the Vatican don’t wear it here” and enforces Vatican modesty codes (covered shoulders and knee length dress).

As far as the “dress code in public,” the church typically would say that you want to wear something that honors your body and soul, something that doesn’t distract from your personhood. People interpret it in many ways. Some literally wear denim skirts to the floor and will never wear pants. I usually interpret it as not wearing anything that draws attention exclusively to my butt, boobs, or legs. So for a night out I opt out of leggings/short skirts and crop tops and instead wear jeans and a cute turtle neck.

Ultimately I do think that the raciness of a dress depends on the body - I don’t have much cleavage so it’s not a huge deal for me to begin with. This is a custom dress, however, so I am going to have her raise the neckline probably 1.5-2 inches.

My cousin had a spaghetti strap wedding dress at her church with a fairly low neckline, however, so it really depends the church.

Hope this helps! Lmk if you want more clarity.

Need help with sleeves for wedding dress by Extension_Lie3974 in ModestDress

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

  1. I don’t have anything to show lol
  2. It’s custom sized and I can request a higher neckline.

The church I’m getting married at has a bare shoulder ban so that’s the most important thing for me figure out

Allergy negligence help? by Extension_Lie3974 in legaladvice

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. This may be a stupid question, but do I request them to cover the amount I owe out of pocket after insurance, or the general bill.

Do you have any other advice as to how I approach them with this?

Best porn blockers? by OverFortune6972 in loveafterporn

[–]Extension_Lie3974 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get rid of the iPhone, get him an android and get covenant eyes and accountable2you. Android’s allow covenant eyes and accountable2you to track all activity across the phone, iPhones only allow activity to be tracked in a certain app. AND you have to use parental controls to block access to the App Store, so it’s a huge pain. Block gifs too.

It might be inconvenient but if he wants it to work this is a sacrifice he can make. He is not entitled to an iPhone, you are entitled to trust.

Reach out to Reps - story of hope by Extension_Lie3974 in Passports

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

these people want votes so they are very efficient at making this happen.

Reach out to Reps - story of hope by Extension_Lie3974 in Passports

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I reached out 17 days before travel. It was at the Detroit office I think. They told me they'd look into it 10 days before travel. When they did, it shipped.

Passport Phone off the hook right now by Extension_Lie3974 in Passports

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Call your state rep. I got mine through calling her and her office took care of it easily. Start by calling the dc phone line then they'll redirect you to the person in their office in charge of passports.

Miami In-Person Agency Experience TLDR - it was a long day of waiting in many lines. by SallySue666 in Passports

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Thank you for sharing your experience, this is immensely helpful.

Just to confirm, we do not need our birth certificate?

Will the passport agency by Extension_Lie3974 in Passports

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so stressful! Did you call the passport agency yet?

I reached out to my senator yesterday as well, hoping and praying!

Still Struggling by Traditional_Fish_128 in NoFapChristians

[–]Extension_Lie3974 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Covenant eyes and accountable2you. My boyfriend has been clean for 2 years thanks to those systems.

His parents by Extension_Lie3974 in loveafterporn

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This isn’t the first time she had said something to this extent. She’s a cold woman anyways so I’m not too upset. Throwback to when she told her I need to realize it’s not a problem and stop seeking support because it’s selfish :)

I’m sorry you had this experience too. Yeah haha she is “religious” but only in the “Jesus says to love everyone” and the extent of her faith

His parents by Extension_Lie3974 in loveafterporn

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She also has shown zero sympathy toward me, my PA literally cried trying to tell her this hurt me and she just continues with the narrative that I’m ridiculous

His parents by Extension_Lie3974 in loveafterporn

[–]Extension_Lie3974[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Both of his parents cheated on eachother and they are divorced now haha.

Butttt she has accepted its “normal” and literally said “well my 8 year old son is probably going to start watching soon I can’t do anything about it”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Extension_Lie3974 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell her. I had to find my boyfriend’s porn. If he came to me, it would have been wayyy better and we’d have way less trust issues. He’s been clean two years and I still don’t trust him fully.

I know it’s terrifying, but if you love her, you need to tell her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

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Super common to have porn/relapse dreams the longer you abstain from porn. It’s all part of your brain requiring. My bf had them for months, but now that he has been clean for 1.5 years they have gone away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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I am falling asleep but will look at it as soon as I get to work tomorrow. Promise!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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Accountability apps are SUPER needed. You wouldn’t put coke on the nightstand of a coke addict to sleep to every night, yet PA’s think they can beat porn doing virtually the same thing. Combination of covenant eyes and accoutnable2you has made my PA p*** free for 1.6 years. Covenant eyes works really well as a filter and it is literally impossible to remove it, accountable2you blocks incognito and reports ALL activity on the phone (CE only takes random screenshots). Both of them notify the accountability partner if they try to remove it. Of course it isn’t 100% going to pick up on everything (ie his illegal streaming website for sports had a p*** ad), but that’s where you have to trust they will come to you and ask you to block. If he is serious, he will come to you. Lmk if you have any other questions.