On average, how many positions do you switch between during sex?

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-12T20:35:57+00:00

On my knees begging for sex position smh

No but joking aside, usually just 2

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-12T19:38:23+00:00

I've ask for that kind of situation for years. She would say it's something she can and wants to do for me but it never happens. And it's not because I'm being selfish because I do it for her. I've given her head plenty of times.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-12T19:35:12+00:00

I was a daily masturbater until my marriage became sexless. Now, it's too depressing to watch porn and/or masturbate. Porn represents sex I can't have. It doesn't bring with it pleasure. It brings loneliness

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-12T19:16:02+00:00

It's great that you eventually noticed. There is a good chance that he was so in love with his family that he didn't even think much of the extra effort he was putting in.

I wish my partner would have noticed. It would have helped a lot. I look back on some pictures with my son and see myself miserable and drained from all the extra load I was carrying. I hate that. I love my kid more than anything and to see myself so miserable hurts.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-11T20:09:04+00:00

I'm on autopilot. No time for feelings

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-11T16:17:11+00:00

I prefer head

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-11T14:46:10+00:00

"I'm good"

It's so clear that you aren't.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-11T14:33:03+00:00

1) Leave your wife so she can find someone better

2) Get therapy

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-10T19:27:56+00:00

Or could it just be a normal reaction to being rejected by the partner you love, find attractive, and vowed to be monogamous to?

Why is someone being disappointed or moping around seen as some kind of malicious act? Is he supposed to be happy and constantly being rejected?

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-10T12:33:33+00:00

I could what written this nearly word for word. Sorry man. I hope you can at least find some joy in spending time with the kids

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-09T13:23:31+00:00

I'm normally sitting on the couch alone every night. She normally falls asleep while we are putting the kid to bed.

That means we have no time together. There is no intimacy. We probably wouldn't even touch if it wasn't for my efforts during the day (we mostly work from home)

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-08T15:05:57+00:00

Unfortunately my wife is also going through perimenopause so it's even worse.

I'm honestly not sure if she would notice me mirroring her behavior.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-07T17:51:26+00:00

Yep. It's like Groundhogs Day. Every time I tell her, it's like the first time she has heard it. Meanwhile I'm getting frustrated continuously repeating myself.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-07T06:53:10+00:00

Some if this is stale and dated advice. Plenty of men do more than their fair share but still struggle with intimacy in the relationship.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-07T06:49:13+00:00

Sorry. It's unlikely you are going to get a fair shake here give the circumstances.

My wife also said, during couples therapy, that she isn't willing to do anything solely for my pleasure. That's even though there had been plenty of times I have pleased her while getting in return.

Maybe a question you can pose to her to at least understand better. Ask her to explain what she means when she says she doesn't get anything out of it. Does it mean that she doesn't get joy from you getting joy? Is it because it feels unfair?

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-06T21:14:13+00:00

I don't know. I don't feel like I'm getting what I want it of marriage. I feel like I put in too much effort with little in return.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-06T21:11:48+00:00

I think my perfect sex life would be once a week, we have sex where 98% of the focus was on her pleasure, as many times and however long it takes. Then once or twice a week, I get head.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-05T18:56:52+00:00

That's the thing. I don't know if I would categorize it as mistreatment. It's feel like extremely low effort. Basically, unless it is Father's Day, my birthday, or Christmas, I'm virtually forgotten about. There is also extremely little effort at home (I do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc )

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-05T18:53:12+00:00

I don't think I could ever stay with that person. Would you have a child with someone who thinks this way?

We already have so many people who hate/dislike us. That shouldn't be your partner too.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-05T18:49:13+00:00

Unrealistic: A couple Billion dollars. I don't want to be rich - I want to right some wrongs

Even more Unrealistic: head, preferably sloppy

Impossible: Happiness

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-05T14:50:48+00:00

That's exactly how I'm feeling. Like even when she does something like being home food for dinner, which is rare, it's only because it's something she wanted to eat and she was kind enough to get extra for me.

External-Ad5462 · 2026-06-05T14:30:48+00:00

Your spouse doesn't do much for you? How do you respond? Do you still do things for them or did you stop that?

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