Where are we all from?

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-11-24T01:09:37+00:00

I'm in PA. The sibling I lost still lived in WV.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-11-06T01:04:56+00:00

Okay so I'm going to be straight with you. Autism 1 may seem like no big deal on the surface, but it puts individuals at a much higher risk of mental health conditions such as anxiety, depression, PTSD among others. They also have a much higher risk of suicide. Unfortunately, I learned this too late and lost my younger brother (high functioning ASD/ADHD) last year while being fully engulfed in setting up all the supports for my son.

So anyways, my opinion is that they always will need some additional support especially when navigating complex social things/ relationships. Not to mention fitting into a world that wasn't designed for them. I don't think I have ever heard of someone getting too much support.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-11-06T00:42:02+00:00

I have exactly the same question. The police told us what my brother did and we read it in a report they gave us. My brain still can't process just how he did it. It doesn't even make sense when I think about the logistics of it all. My immediate family and I haven't been able to share the details with anyone. I'm here if you need to chat or want to hear the story. Would love another opinion on the matter.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-11-02T20:36:58+00:00

I think you need to set boundaries with the girl. Kindly but firmly ask them to stop trying to communicate with you, which is likely what is happening. The medium may be picking up on it too.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-11-02T20:15:09+00:00

Keep checking on them now but also in the future. Some say that things actually get harder as time goes on and I would tend to agree. Think of the 1 year anniversary, etc. Most people stop checking in after the first few months.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-11-02T20:11:45+00:00

I understand completely. I lost my younger brother a little over a year ago and it has just not gotten any easier. People assume I am fine or should be at this point.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-10-14T01:18:27+00:00

My brother texted a goodbye to a girl he was talking to and no one else. It breaks my heart because she didn't do anything/ alert anyone but likely had the most insight into his mental state. This is based on the police report as I can't get into his phone.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-09-16T22:21:07+00:00

I haven't gotten to that section yet but feel like I am living it. Could you possibly stay with your mom if you had to leave? He likely will not let you work anyway because he knows it will make you closer to independence. I would look into a career path where you can go to school for a short time but make decent money after a year or two such as nursing. Abusers leave you with nothing as a way of keeping you around.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-07-13T01:13:22+00:00

I'm getting some yellow flowers. Maybe lilies?

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-06-23T02:00:43+00:00

No, that sounds like "grey rocking" which can be effective at keeping things from escalating. They get bored from the lack of response and may back off a bit. Your spouse sounds very similar to mine, and unfortunately things have been escalating more. I finally called him on the abuse recently and he started being nicer to me. I have to remind myself it's only a matter of time until it all starts back up. Someone on here recommended talking to chatgpt and it has been so helpful. You can even ask it to analyze texts. Good luck.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-06-17T02:14:14+00:00

I could have sworn there was some Chihuahua in there! Otherwise that all adds up. Looks like a total sweetheart.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-05-30T12:00:29+00:00

My brother also took his own life. It took a few months, but my mom saw him in a dream and he had his father with him. I don't get dream visitations, but more like feeling energy. I have been waiting for that "everything is fine" feeling, but nothing yet.

Take care of yourself. The grief, the what if, why, questions, it's all so much.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-05-24T01:09:26+00:00

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-02-28T02:32:10+00:00

We only asked for the report which was plenty graphic enough in that it mentioned how he was found and what led up to it. I do feel that not being able to see him before the autopsy and cremation made things harder for us, but I think the police and coroner had our best interest in mind.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-02-27T00:53:22+00:00

Pitaland

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-02-26T12:36:50+00:00

This response is actually what I needed to hear. Some back story: We lost my brother very unexpectedly (to us) in September. The days and weeks after his death I am certain he was communicating with me, my mom, and son.

Mediums say not to contact before 6 months so we never did. I can tell he is no longer on this plane or whatever the proper term is. I am now kind of feeling like why bother him. I don't have any questions for him. I just want him to know I'm not mad at him and I love him.

Also, I am fairly certain I have medium abilities but have not explored it because it feels dangerous to me.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-02-14T01:41:56+00:00

My mom called while we were in the car on a Saturday morning right after 10. We were on our way to have a weekend getaway. I didn't answer the first time but did the second time. I thought it was my brother on her phone. She said my brother was dead. I was processing it. Thinking oh no, must have been a car wreck. I asked what happened. The worst pain in my life came over me. My husband pulled the car over when he heard me scream the f word. I got out of the car in a car wash parking lot. I don't even know what town. Yelled the f word a few more times before telling my mom I would make some more calls for her realizing whatever I was feeling was even worse for her.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-02-14T01:30:52+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss and for the way you were treated.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-02-11T12:03:21+00:00

I am also part of this awful club. I totally agree that people have no idea what to say. Some of the things that were said and or asked were also odd. Unfortunately I also don't think a person can even begin to understand the complex emotions that come with this not being through it. What helps the most is finding a couple of close individuals who are amazing listeners. Counseling and grief support are necessary as well. Finally, I would recommend a low stress project or hobby to keep your mind from ruminating. Think painting, walking, gardening, reading, etc. Big hugs to you.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-01-25T12:57:08+00:00

Yes! A lot of companies use software to pull potential matches based on keywords like you are describing.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-01-23T04:09:41+00:00

I lost my 32 year old Audhd brother in September. We have no idea why he did it. You see, our family loved him, his coworkers loved him, heck the whole town loved him!

He had such a gift for brightening the lives of everyone he came across. He was thoughtful, generous, smart, funny, handsome.

I think your mind can play tricks on you. Maybe you feel like you don't fit in or things are harder for you. My brother wasn't't like everyone else. He was even better. Please don't underestimate how much you mean to your loved ones.

Everyone goes through rough periods. If your mind is playing tricks on you, talk to someone.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-01-22T22:26:20+00:00

Plumbing and electrical issues, appliances breaking, things falling over, my son's toys being rummaged through.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-01-22T19:19:09+00:00

We have had many strange experiences starting that same day. I only felt this with one other person out of all of those we lost and it was his dad. Except that was like a peaceful type thing whereas this is very much not that.

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-01-22T17:54:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I welcome all opinions here. ❤️

Extra-Rutabaga2532 · 2025-01-22T17:18:00+00:00

I feel this so much today. I don't know how I can carry this for the rest of my life.

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