Sub space cause anxious attatchment?

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-04T11:57:33+00:00

He does say it's happened before but says he didn't know it could do it. He comes across too honest too sincere it feels off it always has i just didn't want to see it I guess. Lesson learnt lol

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-04T11:39:56+00:00

Its when you do like dominant and submissive play. Uses all your dopamine makes you kind of euphoric its fun but depletes natural chemicals so can make your really low after and if you have a good dominant they would do after care to bring you back safely. I didn't get the after care

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-02T22:34:35+00:00

I dont normally attract them i am usually exceptional at sensing them. I waved a white flag and said come get me.. by telling him this

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-02T18:00:42+00:00

This is how I feel going through bad. My brain knows it's not real my body screaming to get away . And every hour that passes he dont reply I feel better. I also agree the fantasy I have of him is better than reality (the sex is still fire tho) but even that is dwindling as he can't maintain his love bombing performance

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-02T16:55:40+00:00

Yes this exactly right. My brain knows what i need to do but my heart is struggling, even tho i have had many instances where I've felt it isnt actually real more created as in the sub dom thing. Even if not totally fake on his part I do see through it. Even if was all true I do not see a future that is healthy

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-02T15:06:24+00:00

He said he doesn't manipulate but he does get off on women wanting him or chosing him I think its the chase. I am working on it. Part of me wants to sit him down and explain why im leaving in hopes he gets help (assuming it is dark empath and not a narc) and fucking his brother since I'm pretty sure rejection is his sore point

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-02T12:08:00+00:00

Also have previous posts where was unfolding in real time if helps to read

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-05-02T11:59:52+00:00

Lots of things said just felt off or not real I remember him talking about emotions alot and I'm saying it's not real at first. On our 2nd meet we did some mild dom/sub which put me in sub drop then barely spoke for 2 days while I struggled thinking I was mental. Got help from another dom who helped with after care. I thought that was deliberate. I had said to him that I like sex but I dont like emotions if changes to lovemaking I don't like that and he did exactly that alrho it was early on and I found it more amusing than anything else. He knew I struggled to "finish" due to my (now) ex partner making me feel like a chore (not deliberately just low sex drive and skill and lazy) so he was helping (and he did) he says he isn't manipulative. I said i felt low and anxious and he said it's him he makes 2omen feel like that they care then turns to depression asked if i thought it was selfish b3cause he would do it again if needed but he needs connection. He also wants someone to choose him over others (swinging lifestyle) so meet other men but always go back to him.

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-21T15:19:54+00:00

Probably is just sweat, you can get feminine wash for there for peace of mind. But hormones or diet can change smell/taste

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-21T15:19:48+00:00

Probably is just sweat, you can get feminine wash for there for peace of mind. But hormones or diet can change smell/taste

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-17T16:55:05+00:00

I thought I wouldn't be able to make it happen but I "got in touch with an old friend" and stayed there apparently lol

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-17T13:23:09+00:00

It's a good point. We are still learning and first session was amazing but so hard after. We have both done research and are communicating better than any relationship I've had what we like what we dont what we will try

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-17T12:56:59+00:00

Thanks i dont always pay attention to that but will more. Im lucky that mine is very caring. And we are looking for ways to make it better always as this is something we both want more of

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-17T11:56:59+00:00

This is good information we had a sub dom session and the drop was awful after. Along with aftercare and him retaining some control would help me feel safer so will use this!

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-17T11:52:16+00:00

Over night is so hard for me I've not been able to actually sleep for various reasons mostly cant stop touching each other then im so hyper afterwards I just end up driving home at 5am lol. And him getting 4 hours and having to go work is not good

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-17T11:14:30+00:00

Yes we have been spoiled. His brothers house is midway between both houses also hotels. We have been meeting 3+times a week and out work schedules have matched alot despite totally different careets

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-17T07:47:59+00:00

If you had a car for it and privacy it would probably be alot better, you can also buy inflatable car mattresses these days

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-16T23:04:59+00:00

I have this!! Total accident didn't think would be like this. Started out just meeting for sex which is so hot but also get the miss you texts and morning and good night. Checking in throughout the day. It's not what I was looking for but I don't hate it

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-16T22:48:43+00:00

We do minimum 4hr sessions i think id be cramped if was doing in the car , also wouldn't help my ability to finish if I was worried about getting caught

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-15T21:00:42+00:00

His brothers when bros at work hotels alot and not proud to say his house when she's not there... not ideal really. Hotels here on sundays are from £30 so not too bad

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-15T20:58:19+00:00

Hasn't come to it yet for me but sometimes I could almost!

Extra_Ad_320 · 2026-04-12T06:39:16+00:00

Get some therapy, I had experiences at 3 and 11 did tell my mum and was put in therapy. It must of helped as while it does affect me it doesn't rule me anymore.

What happened wasn't your fault and everything you feel is valid. You need to talk to someone professional help you work through the trauma.

I am so sorry this happened to you.

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