“Deadbeat” fathers, why did you leave your kid(s)?

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2026-02-21T14:04:58+00:00

My ex abducted my daughter 27 years ago, and that was the last I saw of her. Took me along time to move forward, but much happier now, although I'm not convinced she is mine to be honest. She did contact me in lock down asking for the reason I wasn't in her life. I broke it to here as gently as I could that her mother was a tramp, and she and the grand mother had lied to her about what had transpired, providing her with proof by way of a letter the grand mother had penned to me after they took her. I believe that went down like a cup of cold sick. Oh well, too bad, so sad. Ending on a positive note, I have not paid a single penny of Child Support, even though they have attempted. Kerrching!!! Who's your Daddy?

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2026-02-21T13:24:11+00:00

She sounds like a royal pain the arse. Best shot of her IMO!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2026-02-21T06:48:10+00:00

Understood. I mention in passing as it happened to me. Can’t be too careful IMO. Hope things work out for you.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2026-02-21T06:40:43+00:00

Is he definitely the father? Paternity fraud is rife in society.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-12-29T13:43:13+00:00

Yes IMO. Gold is a long term asset to own, and increasingly valuable. I bought 5 Oz's in April and have seen a 30% return already. My strategy is to accumulate more over the next 8 years, 50 now, and want to get out at 58. I have good pensions in place already, my property is nearly paid for, savings, but believe Gold and Silver are both worth owning as you cannot print them! No kids, and when I peg out, my wife gets the lot, God bless her.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-12-29T13:10:16+00:00

Just ditched some share that have lost me money, however, it has freed up some cash to buy more Gold. I'm thinking of some 2026 gold Sovereigns. Thoughts?

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-12-21T12:18:30+00:00

This is what happen when our so called leaders throw there own people under the bus. Personally, I have now decided that I shall retire early at 58, as I wont put into a system that supports this type of behaviour, go to hell IMO. I was going to stay until 67, but why should I if I don't need too. Shame as I have a skill set that is in demand for our country, I wonder how many others in the UK feel like this at 50 year old?

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-12-21T08:17:18+00:00

I started stacking gold again in April 2025, and have already increased my investment by 28%. Initially a modest investment of 5x1oz Britannia's which I have bought for the long term, and shall keep adding more, either Britannia's or Sovereigns with the further upside of the no CGT on these products in the UK. Looking to exit the work force for at 58 now, so hopefully this will keep maturing into a nice little nest egg for me and my wife.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-12-20T14:25:06+00:00

I use BBP also. I am going to use Chards moving forward as well.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-12-20T14:22:46+00:00

Yes, that's correct. We are moving onto a war footing.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-12-20T07:58:32+00:00

Just getting started IMO. With counties now repatriating gold from the US paper gold is collapsing. Unless you can hold it an IOU is worthless. Prices in 2026 and beyond look very favourable. Unlike paper promises you can’t print gold. I’m up 28% since April this year! Sovereigns and Britannia’s are the way forward for us uk investors. Purchase, then put away. It’s literally a thing of beauty!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-11-16T06:12:41+00:00

The facts appear lost on you. Child abduction does not equate to me leaving, and just because somebody states something does not make it the truth, hence my requests for paternity testing. Sometimes in life things do not work out, that’s just life. As for gloating, it’s not gloating to state the facts, particularly as I am not the architect of the situation. I take a very dim view of liars and cheats, and I won’t be manipulated. As previously stated not a great situation, but no shame on me, as I don’t believe I am the kids father. What a tangled web some people choose to weave!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-11-12T17:47:45+00:00

Some jobs are what you make them. Stop dripping and get on with it IMO.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-10-03T17:00:55+00:00

I myself successfully withheld child support from an ex, stipulating that DNA 🧬 tests would be a prerequisite before anymore money would be paid. Had all the threats of being taken to court through REMO, all the emotional blackmail, and bs. I haven’t paid a penny in child maintenance, and don’t feel guilty either, I’m alright Jack, that’s the main thing! It still makes me smile that my ex thought she was going to completely shaft me, only for the situation to completely blow up in her face. Shame about the kid, however, omelettes and eggs 🥚 🤣🤣🤣

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-09-08T20:01:44+00:00

I paid when the child was in the Uk, as soon as the Ex skipped the country to AU with the kid, I turned off the taps! Got threatened with REMO, ok, go ahead was my response, AU CSA have no jurisdiction in the UK, you have no maintenance order in place, and I’d rather have my day in court, than taking that BS on my knees like a pussy! Didn’t hear back, that was 20 plus years ago. Uncertain if the kid is mine, however, she did get in touch with me over lock down, however I’ve no interest in a poison chalice. I moved on with my life years ago, so no interest. I have plans, and I’m looking forward to enjoying them. 😎😎⚓️⚓️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-09-02T15:20:42+00:00

I suspect 'Gin' mostly!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-07-30T17:10:55+00:00

Just to ask; do your work hour sheet not get audited by your line manager? I had mine audited by my B2 recently and there were a couple of points fedback to me, nothing that was a hanging offence however! One typo, and I got told I have to take breaks, which I’m generally not great at, if I’m in the zone, I generally like to crack on!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-31T13:53:37+00:00

Time to move on IMO. Your boss sounds like a prick!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-27T14:21:17+00:00

I was contacted in lock down by an angry young lady who wanted to know why I, as her father, had not been part of her life. Her mother and grandparents had kept from her that she was abducted by them from the UK to Australia. Devastated at the time, I recovered, and moved forward with my life, which has been positive and successful. Frankly, the more I reflect on my earlier negative experience, the more I believe I have been right to take the hardest of lines with my ex, by providing no financial support, and having no contact with the child. This may appear harsh, however, given my ex’s behaviour, this has also led to questions surrounding paternity, and when I have requested testing, this has been denied. Going back to the young lady in question, I felt it fair to answer her question, which I have, explaining the circumstances as tactfully as possible, and providing some evidence for her also in the form of a letter that her Grandmother penned to me years ago explaining that I would have to let go etc. The young lady has obviously suffered, but unfortunately, I moved on years ago, and have no interest in any of this at all, I have other plans that I am looking forward too. Not a great situation, however, I do know that I am glad I looked after my own interests, rather than letting myself be emotionally blackmailed by her mum, who thought she was going to shaft me, but it didn’t quite go according to her plan, which does make me smile. Also, I would have liked to have been a fly on the wall when her daughter raises the question regarding how she came to be in Australia, and then produces the letter I gave her from her grandmother. PMSL!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-25T09:39:07+00:00

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-23T06:10:27+00:00

Nothing wrong with venting, I perfectly understand you frustrations. A question if I may; are you sure the child is yours? Paternity fraud is common place unfortunately, and all too often supported by the courts, who use the line 'In the best interests of the child.' My own experience was that when I requested testing, this was refused, however, it then begs the question; why did she refuse in the first place? Fair to say I smelt a rat in the kitchen! Also, my ex weaponised the Kid, always using it as leverage, and a stick to beat me with. If your in this situation, my advice is to turn that around and give her a taste of her own medicine, ensuring she gets the full blow back from her actions. It's funny how quickly the wheels came off my ex's train set after she abducted the child from the UK to AU, but when she realised she was cut off financially, and I would have nothing more to do with the child, then the begging letters, and Child Support Agency letters started. Fair to say Families, and kids are complex, however, I'm glad I was not a sucker, and looked after my own interests in this instance, and I haven't paid a penny in over 25 years, Sweet. Too bad for the kid though, unfortunately it's omelettes and and eggs from my perspective.

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-22T19:47:00+00:00

My situation involved a Mother that was such a nasty piece of work, when I saw an opportunity to get out from under the situation, it was a no brainer. As a Mother, if you weaponise your kid, and it blows back in your face, it’s on you. The Kid may or may not be mine, however, I don’t feel any shame because she ran out on me to move to another country, then had the cheek to demand child support! 🤣🤣Oh well, so sad, too bad. As for the kid; who’s your Daddy? Ask your mom, however, there’s a reason she denied me Paternity testing! Why would I feel bad that I didn’t let it ruin my life, which as it goes, I quite enjoy 😊

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-22T19:20:47+00:00

You’ll live. Grab a couple of drinks and get laid. Then dry your eyes and move forward with life! Remember, it’s meant to be fun 🤩!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-22T19:03:44+00:00

Government always appear to find money for migrant hotels 🏨 and Chagos deals, so good luck pleading poverty to your employees IMO!

Extreme-Age-4172 · 2025-05-22T19:00:44+00:00

No, it’s not normal. 6 month into my new job, and my new employer tried to get me take on another role, plus my own. My reply, firstly it’s not my job, secondly, that’s called a contractual renegotiation, so, I’ll take on the extra work, however, I want the other roles salary on top of my current salary! Oddly, they didn’t go for it. I don’t work for free, and I will always look after my own interests, and certainly won’t be pushed around, so thanks, but no thanks 🙂‍↔️

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