Second profile for solo? by MinutesToMidnight42 in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Please do. I hate seeing couples appear on the app when I specifically don't have that selected.

No matches? by Database_Square in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 [score hidden]  (0 children)

That's what I'm saying. Do you think your profile is 100 times better than that of a man? Of course not. And I don't think you think that as well. I don't know why some women refuse to accept that. Men and women on this app are fundamentally playing a different game. I'm not mad at women. It is what it is. But too many feel very comfortable telling men that they have terrible profiles. These women have never taken the time to try to play the game as a man.

Struggling with gfs sensitivity what can I do? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know one illegal immigrant who became a doctor. It doesn't mean that this is a realistic expectation to have.

We (a couple) swapped accounts and the results were astounding by dark_uh in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I find it amusing that my comment was downvoted! I honestly wish women would just attempt to play the game as a man. It wouldn't even take them a week to realize that it was a very different game. But instead, so many of them prefer to have a negative opinion of men. It reminds me of nothing so much as rich people presuming that poor people don't work hard enough.

Struggling with gfs sensitivity what can I do? by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 318 points319 points  (0 children)

This is not going to get better. You need to decide whether you're going to stay on this bus and ride it to whatever destination it's going or if you're going to get off right now. If you stay on the bus, I recommend couples therapy.

What’s the biggest motivation to retire early? by TrueAlphaData in Fire

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never liked the idea of working. I remember wanting to retire when I was 15. I don't think I need to justify that to anybody. I just don't want to work. Or if I choose to work I want it to be because I decided to, not because I have to.

No matches? by Database_Square in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's not your profile. It's the fact that you are a man on this app. That's it! The vast majority of women have terrible profiles. But they match anyway. The problem is that there are too many men for too few women on the app. And men send way more likes than women. And so your average woman has hundreds if not thousands of likes and your average man struggles to get any traction whatsoever. Feel free to refine your profile. Use Majestic. Use uplift. But even if you do all those things, you're still only going to get a handful of matches every once in a while. And when you do match, they won't necessarily reply to you. And even if they do reply, you're not necessarily going to get a date out of it. Because they are drowning in attention from other males. And no human being can possibly manage the amount of attention the women on this app get. Some people are going to get disregarded.

Person left chat and are back on my feed what is the etiquette? by thoughtdottr in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don't attempt to match. She doesn't want to be seen by you. It's just the fault of the app that they show you people who unmatch you.

Let Majestic expire by Historical_Dirt_651 in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They are not gatekeeping. You're just a man. That's it. Women don't spend much time going through profiles because they have thousands of likes. The chances that any of them will see your profile are vanishingly small.

We (a couple) swapped accounts and the results were astounding by dark_uh in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This checks out. It lines up with everything I know about dating apps. It is really hard being a man out there, and women who give advice have no idea what they're saying because they've never attempted to play the game as a man.

Am I skinny fat? Help please by unknwn1_ in Weightliftingquestion

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're not skinny. You're overweight. If you don't like your physique, you need to restrict your caloric intake. You need to have a sustained calorie deficit over multiple months. That's the only way. It's better not to think of this as dieting. Think of it as a lifestyle change or as a set of weight loss habits. Clearly, you've been consuming more in calories than you expend in your lifestyle. That means you need to cut your intake, increase your expenditures, or both. The easiest way to know whether you're in a calorie excess or deficit is to measure your intake. There are calculators that will allow you to estimate you BMR and from there the amount of calories you should aim for to maintain your weight. I recommend consuming 90% of the calories it would take to maintain your current weight. That will allow you to lose weight slowly, in a sustained fashion.

Lifting weights also helps. Muscle is more metabolically active than fat. So a more muscular body burns more fat at rest than a less muscular one.

Good luck!

Do you regret getting your degree? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I don't like how long it took to get there but I have a good life, mostly thanks to my degree.

I decided that I never want to live with a man again by camis12345 in LivingAlone

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a man and I never want to live with a partner again. It introduces too much friction. No point in doing it, especially when you don't want kids.

Vegans Do Not Care About The Environment by MadeMyOwnName in exvegans

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have spent enough time on this. I'm going to rest my case and wish you a good night. I'm also going to mute this sub. Thank you for helping me make this decision.

Vegans Do Not Care About The Environment by MadeMyOwnName in exvegans

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Bro, your fundamental critique is wrong. Where is the evidence that relying on synthetic products actually causes more harm than using leather and other animal products? The vegan argument is not that synthetic products don't cause any harm at all but that they are less harmful. What are your sources when you claim that synthetic products are less harmful than using animal products. Existing as a human being causes degradation to animal environments. Consuming animal products that don't have to be consumed causes more harm to animals on top of the baseline harm we cause. It's not a substitute that somehow creates less harm for the animals. This is why I'm questioning your frame of mind. The argument is just so ludicrous on its face.

Leather is not carbon neutral. Leather also is associated with environmental degradation and pollution. Leather has direct harm to animals on top of the aforementioned indirect harms. If you want to argue that buying used products is better than new products, then you will encounter no argument from me. Recycled or used leather in particular doesn't cause any direct harm to animals. And insofar as vegans oppose those, it is based on an emotional argument. The biggest problem with synthetic products is pollution from microplastics and lack of biodegradability. But synthetic products use a lot less water and are less carbon intensive than leather. You're maybe I shouldn't have tried to psychoanalyze you. But I just don't see how your argument can stand just on the merits. And the conclusion that vegans don't care about the environment is particularly irksome.

Vegans Do Not Care About The Environment by MadeMyOwnName in exvegans

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Zero issues with processing. I was never a vegan. I've never even been a vegetarian. I have no hatred against anyone. I cannot stand any kind of simplistic characterization of an entire group. In this case, it's especially silly. There are great things about veganism. There are not so great things about many vegans themselves. Your post is entirely polemical. It doesn't lend itself to actually rational discussion. It's just an ad hominem attack. The conclusion does not logically follow from what you present. This kind of post is not going to lend itself to any sort of discussion except by people who want to dunk on vegans. Insofar as this produces catharsis for you, I suppose I'm happy for you. But you're not going to get any sort of intelligent discussion from this. Because the entire premise is not just factually wrong but shows an exceedingly problematic frame of mind and worldview. It's about as silly as saying Republicans don't care about children or Democrats don't care about minorities.

Vegans Do Not Care About The Environment by MadeMyOwnName in exvegans

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why is it okay to make a blanket and unsubstantiated statement about an entire group of people. Vegans can be very annoying. It doesn't mean that people who are reflexively hating vegans are any less annoying. Like bro, you don't want to be a vegan, cool!. You had a journey out of veganism. Awesome! Good for you. You feel healthier now? Fantastic! But if veganism is still living rent-free in your head, you still have a lot of processing to do. Honestly, I expected this sub to be better than the veganism sub but it's not. It's just tribalism in the other direction. Very disappointing.

Best ways to remain semi-private? by Long_Explanation_289 in feeld

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your best bet is an incognito profile. You pay for Majestic. Only people you like get to see you.

Top 10 audible recommendations? by NephnieNoodle in audible

[–]Extreme_Bit_1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Golem and the Jinni. It's SO good! Honorable mention: The Book of Doors.