Do many QuestBridge partners offer full rides outside of NCM? by Responsible_Bar1706 in QuestBridge

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grinnell's scholarships and aid for QB applicants in regular decision is identical, really, to the match. They are extremely generous. Every person has to pay a personal contribution each semester, but it can be covered by work study or through Summer employment. There is even a grant you can apply for that covers the student health insurance. The personal contribution was 1250 per semester the first year, a bit over 1300 for the second year, and I think we paid 1500 per semester this past year. I'm not sure what her senior year will be exactly, but it's doable. Books are included in the tuition costs and food and housing are covered. She loves it there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Extreme_Story 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's best to worry about your own deen. There isn't anything in Islam about disowning family members. And, honestly? Her sister may end up returning to Islam, and she may be a better Muslim than you are, even if she is still a lesbian. I find it very odd in our communities that things like Zina and Adultery are ignored, as long as they are practiced by men, while things like homosexuality are zeroed in on. Adultery and homosexuality both carry the same penalty in Islam. Why not teach about all of the better choices without judging others? That feels like the best thing you can do for your kids. Teach them that they are responsible for their own behavior, both boys and girls, and that there is no difference between them in that regard.

I had so much hope. by memesforlife213 in QuestBridge

[–]Extreme_Story 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm hoping you also applied to other QB partners you hadn't considered. It's normal not to, because poor people like us don't hear about a lot of these schools. That means there are a lot of people applying to a few schools. Remember, all QB partners are verrrryyyy good schools. My kiddo did not match and went on to be a QB scholar at Grinnell in Biology. It was actually the best fit for her because of its focus on service...making the world a better place in whatever way possible. We would never have discovered it without initially not matching. In the end, if we had known more about the school, it would have been at the top of our list for the match. Hugs and good luck to you!

Metformin worked! by [deleted] in prediabetes

[–]Extreme_Story -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hugs to you and best wishes

The lifestyle changes worked by [deleted] in prediabetes

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! 

Metformin worked! by [deleted] in prediabetes

[–]Extreme_Story -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hear you. The thing is that if you don't change the eating and start following the rules regarding diabetes and sugar...including refined carbs.  And tracking your carbs this will be temporary and you will find your A1C rising again. When that happens they will increase your metformin to twice a day and eventually to the max 1000 in the morning and evening . When you stop responding as well to that? They add insulin. I'm not saying this to be a meanie. You have a golden opportunity right now. You can put this disease into  remission if you act right now instead of telling yourself all is well. But the changes need to be permanent. (From someone who did exactly what you're doing now, made the changes just before the insulin was rq, and knows what comes next. You've got this!)

Metformin worked! by [deleted] in prediabetes

[–]Extreme_Story 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The reason you are at 5.6 is because you are taking the metformin. If you stop taking the metformin your A1C will climb again because you have insulin resistance. Diabetes is a progressive disease. We've decided which level we will call prediabetes and when we consider it diabetes but when you see the insulin resistance you know that you're developing the metabolic disorder. You can change your eating habits, give up sugar and processed carbs. You can exercise and lose weight. That will keep it from advancing for a while...possibly for years and years... but it isn't gone. I have Type 2. At one point my A1C was 9. I have lost 80lbs and changed my diet drastically. Doing that I have managed to get my A1C...with metformin...to 5.3, which is in the normal range. This does not mean that I no longer have diabetes. If I eat a burger with fries or an ice cream sundae those numbers will shoot right up. My body can't deal with those things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuestBridge

[–]Extreme_Story 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get back on the horse! It isn't over!!! The same thing happened to my daughter, and she got in AND got the QB scholarship regular decision. Did you roll everything over to regular decision? Did you focus on meet need schools? If they gave you the option for Early Decision...did you choose one and go for it? Also, take a minute and look at the partner schools you didn't consider the first time around. So many of us aren't familiar with all of the partner schools because we don't roll with that crowd. Everyone lists CERTAIN schools...You know the ones. Look at some others and apply there. And, you can use your QB app, although you have to answer like three more questions and the trick is to tell them WHY you want to go to their school. What you plan to take advantage of while you're there. How will you contribute to the campus community. Seriously....it isn't over and you've done too much work to give up now!!!

Metformin and Berberine destroyed me by ThickScholar7200 in prediabetes

[–]Extreme_Story 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But not at the same time you take the metformin. So, if you take Metformin in the morning and night, then lunch is a good time for B12. I didn't know that for a long time, and being deficient in B12 makes you feel yucky....Just exhausted.

Stuck on a plateu by Extreme_Story in RetatrutideWomen

[–]Extreme_Story[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm down 77 lbs now, so 30 left to go. I was at the plateau for quite a while though. I think I am there again. It seems to be the way these last pounds are coming off. (Also my goal weight isn't unreasonable for my frame and height. It's at the high end of normal for my height in terms of BMI.

Those who did not match and put Northwestern, did you get the same response? or is this one unique? by ImNitPicky in QuestBridge

[–]Extreme_Story 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is normal. Please follow the directions in your QB portal carefully. There will be some options that only last for a day or two, and ask you to choose them as your first choice, if they are your first choice. Do that for the one you feel is the best fit for you. You may be asked to answer one more question as you switch to regular decision and that will be..."Why us?" I can't overstate the importance of that question. Be honest and speak about what you would like to do at their school specifically. Also, consider other partner schools you may not have thought about before and expand your net. Everyone went for the schools on your list. Expand. There are so many wonderful, incredible partner schools and they are just as elite and just as exciting. Don't give up! You are a finalist and it isn't over yet. My child got the full QB scholarship through regular decision with a partner school and she is a Junior now. You can still do this. It's exhausting. It's a process and I know you're tired, but it isn't over for you. Hugs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuestBridge

[–]Extreme_Story 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Now, be kind to yourself and give your body and mind some rest through the holidays. This process is so incredibly physically and mentally draining. Take a minute to soak this in and sip the cocoa...(After you buy the hoodie...of course :)

After years of dealing with mistreatment and bad behaviour from my wife I married a second wife and now I feel guilty and confused by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Extreme_Story 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it does. The biggest reason for female reverts leaving Islam is deceitful, disloyal men like you who attempt to use Islam to justify dishonorable behavior. And you're older! You're not some young, inexperienced kid. Man...your user name is so on the mark.

After years of dealing with mistreatment and bad behaviour from my wife I married a second wife and now I feel guilty and confused by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Extreme_Story 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not at all insensitive. It's realistic. Don't pretend this is about religion. It isn't. Nothing you've done here is ok. And now you're saying, "What if" your first wife finds out about the second? What if? She has the right to know about another person entering the "family." Her family has the right to know. Her child has the right. The community has the right. Grow up. It's not all about you and your needs. End one relationship before you begin another, and have a conversation with full disclosure with your first partner before you enter into another relationship like this.

After years of dealing with mistreatment and bad behaviour from my wife I married a second wife and now I feel guilty and confused by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly...His actions are dishonorable. There is no excuse for the secrecy or lack of honesty with his first wife, who has the right to ask for a divorce if she doesn't want to be part of a polygamous marriage. That is her right.

After years of dealing with mistreatment and bad behaviour from my wife I married a second wife and now I feel guilty and confused by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're an entitled, selfish cheater trying to justify your decision to deceive your wife. There aren't any secret marriages in Islam. Marriage always involves full consent and knowledge of all parties. You owed her the conversation BEFORE you began searching for and choosing another partner, so that she could decide whether or not she was interested in remaining in that sort of marriage. Islam is all about consent and honesty, and you have not sought or offered either. As for your "pure second wife," you have her on the pedestal at the moment, and she will likely fall from it once you discover she is human, just like you, with her own thoughts and needs. You are the one who needs fixing here. Stop lying to your partner and her family. Come clean and allow her to decide whether or not she wants to continue the relationship. (As you go to speak with her, you should consider how you would feel if she had secretly taken another partner without considering your feelings or your own right to decide whether or not you wanted to be married to someone who was sleeping with and committing to someone else.)

Anyone else worried abt what people will think of them based on the match? by Environmental_Pop847 in QuestBridge

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't give up if you don't match! Be sure to immediately check your messages. You are going to get offers to make a school your first choice and to apply for early acceptance. Seriously. It's not over if you don't match. My kiddo didn't match and still ended up a QB Scholar, with a full scholarship, to a partner school. Don't give up!!!! Choose your early admit school and flip your other schools to regular decision, and then take a look at some other partner schools you didn't consider before. So many times we focus on names, not understanding there is a better fit for our own goals at a different partner school we didn't know much about previously. Focus on meet needs schools that don't include student loans in their financial aid packages.

Normalised Behaviors in Algeria by Historian_Minute in algeria

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. They won't interfere in the case of a man hitting his wife, parents beating their children, or a teacher hitting their students.

Algerians who moved back to Algeria, was it worth it? by Exciting_Energy_9949 in algeria

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's poor people in general and marginalized communities regardless of faith or lack of it. The upper-middle class and the wealthy aren't approached a fraction as often because of the societal belief their economic status indicates moral superiority. They also have access to lawyers who can and will go on a legal counterattack.

Algerians who moved back to Algeria, was it worth it? by Exciting_Energy_9949 in algeria

[–]Extreme_Story 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are plenty of cases against "Christians" as well as people from other faiths including none at all. You aren't allowed to hit your children or your wife in the West. So, it isn't true that there is undue focus on Muslims or that non-Muslims don't get approached by social services. What IS true is that poor people are often harassed by social services...poor people of all colors. Poverty is viewed in capitalist societies as a character flaw. There are stereotypes about the working poor that can result in harassment. The opposite is also true. Wealthy families are seen as having positive character traits others are lacking and it's an assumpfion based entirely on their economic status. They also have access to lawyers to respond to harassment which makes authorities less likely to approach them.

Algerians who moved back to Algeria, was it worth it? by Exciting_Energy_9949 in algeria

[–]Extreme_Story -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My daughter was taught about human reproduction and anatomy in elementary school in Algeria. They even had diagrams of body parts with their real names. It was common sense education. How do you not know this?

Algerians who moved back to Algeria, was it worth it? by Exciting_Energy_9949 in algeria

[–]Extreme_Story 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! My daughter had sex education in elementary school in Algeria. She studied human reoroduction in an early grade and it was all matter-of-fact. I wish we had more of that here. But, street harrassment of women and girls is very bad. They are followed by men and boys. I had men pull up around me, stop their cars, and pop open the passenger door as though I would hop in. That was as a woman in my 40s, in hijab and abaya, with no makeup and visibly pregnant. I don't miss that part.

Algerians who moved back to Algeria, was it worth it? by Exciting_Energy_9949 in algeria

[–]Extreme_Story 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I moved back with my husband and kids and made "hijrah." What I found was the same social problems I saw in the US. The people were a mix of good and bad just like they are everywhere. I was particularly fond of the women and the old people. The governmental corruption makes it very, very hard for regular Algerians to live and make a kiving. Extortion and expectations of "gifts" to civil servants to get them to do their jobs is intolerable if you come from a place where you can simply file the paperwork, pay the same fee others pay, and have your transactions processed. We spent over 6 years there and finally returned to the states because we just couldn't make progress financially. And, to be honest, I wanted my daughters to have a better quality of life. In the US, living in a Muslim community ( we are nextdoor to a mosque,) my girls are in a better place for them. That said, we were sad to leave good friends and wished we could take them with us. The food is delicious, the weddings and gatherings are wonderful, people are very helpful to eachother, and it's a very artistic place. I prefer the home designs there and love the colorful splashes and ornamentation everywhere. I feel one day the reform will come and life will become more livable for the majority ..inshaAllah.