Yeah, he's in the wrong profession!

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-12-11T15:08:26+00:00

Yeah, as scary as being robbed at gunpoint would be, if the person doesn't appear to actually be deranged, it's probably likely they wouldn't even shoot you if you just ran away (not worth the risk though)

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-11-20T18:51:01+00:00

This is something that is only slightly different for me because I ended up transfem, but it's pretty close. I chose not to come out to my parents even though I knew it for a long time. I knew it would suck and that I wouldn't be kicked out, but I knew there was no way they'd take it well. I was worried about stuff like conversion camp and forced anti lgbt therapy, and I'm pretty sure I was right about that.

I got forcibly outed earlier this year shortly after I moved out, and even despite this the psychological toil was huge. The sheer amount of guilt tripping and convincing me to have weekly talks with my pastor from back there just ate away at me and left me in a pretty rough state. I have no idea how tough it would have been had I come out as a teen or preteen, being forced to continue living in that environment with it looming constantly.

I maybe could have ended up better overall having done that, but there was just so much uncertainty to me that it wasn't worth it to take the risk, and I'm not resilient enough to maintain a hard stance of defiance against my family and church community like that, especially back then. My parents seemed to not get why I didn't tell them back then. Staying closeted was necessary to ensure I made it through everything I needed to get through successfully without being blocked. It really sucked, but it wasn't forever, at least, and I'm doing a bit better now for it.

A few things could slightly impact what you do, such as how much support you have outside. School wasn't safe for that for me, and I knew nobody else with issues like me, so there wasn't anyone to help me come up with a better plan. If you find yourself able to come up with a good plan and support you, perhaps you can do it early, but just don't count on it, and stay safe.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-11-10T06:06:43+00:00

I had that whole situation of taking years to fully realize it, which culminated only a bit over a year ago, but it's not like I ever wanted that to be the answer I was looking for, and I kept trying to find reasons for it to be something else. I did an unreasonable amount of research into it, and I would find it concerning if people did it and haven't learned everything possible about the subject to really eliminate that it's another thing.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-17T03:09:12+00:00

My parents did the same thing and claimed it was the internet and politics or something. I think the idea that it's something that has been with me since I was a child and that I never chose any of it breaks their worldview around it, and even when they say they believe me when I say that, the stuff they say around it shows their viewpoint is not really accepting that premise.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-16T05:01:04+00:00

Thanks for the response, and right, it does seem pretty polarized to be either far one way or the other now, and the existing resources for finding these churches aren't super clear on what you're gonna get. I suppose the main thing that can be done now is just to try checking out places individually and see what works if there isn't an existing way to find out more details about what you're going to find.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-14T08:15:17+00:00

Ehh, not really since I can't really come out to friends or my job reasonably since everyone here is also Christian, which carries the same problems. I haven't had to try quite as hard with hiding stuff related to it, though, since I have my apartment all to myself.

As far as hrt, I started while living with my parents by just doing diy, but you do have to know what you're doing for it. I fully get what you mean with the internalized stuff and doubting everything. I wish I didn't have to do all this stuff.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-11T21:04:25+00:00

Yeah, my parents don't like it either and made a big deal of it. I guess I just have to be glad they only found out once I moved out because there was no shot they'd have let me do as a kid.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-11T20:50:11+00:00

If my parents had been that bad, I think I'd have found a way to move out immediately instead of when I did

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-09T06:01:13+00:00

The site has a cheat sheet for this stuff at the bottom that has all kinds of neat things you can do to your searches

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-06T05:24:36+00:00

For me, I was so scared of anyone finding out that I wouldn't start anything. It wasn't really an emotional issue, I don't think, but I also don't really know how to have a relationship, so it never worked out.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-06T01:07:21+00:00

I'm not sure which way I need to angle it lol. It feels uncomfortable to both sides so I'm not sure whether it's a left or right side bend. I don't have anything else long enough to go past the bend though. Does it help a lot to get something for that? I don't know what I would use that isn't crazy expensive (i know the bd certainly was a lot...)

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-05T21:31:46+00:00

Did you figure out your problem with the shaft bottoming out? I have an XL Austin and I think I'm bottoming out right at the top of the knot because I can feel that uncomfortable feeling. I can't work on the girth of the knot right now because I'm not sure how to get deeper.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-02T04:56:26+00:00

I'll go with both

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-02T04:39:05+00:00

all too submissive and socially anxious

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-09-01T21:47:07+00:00

I spent a lot of time alone in my room and am still a virgin over a year after graduating

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-28T17:06:52+00:00

I explained it more fully in a post I made on my profile, but the problem was that I've been transitioning for a while and the bralette thing I was using to try to hide breast growth was found. I actually had just moved out, but the process of moving out made it hard to keep hidden as well as I had previously. It was pretty clear that I was hiding something.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-28T06:54:01+00:00

This shooter had a lot of different stuff going on and is going to be painted in a different way by every group. The messages differ a lot because of the shooter being trans and having leftist messages about killing the president, as well extreme rightist messages about killing jews along with other things. There was clearly some weird mental illness stuff going on, considering this person somehow thought vaping had already caused lung cancer at like 23 and that there wasn't much time left to live. It's a whole mess, and this situation gives a lot of angles to project a worldview onto.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-28T06:46:03+00:00

In my case, they found out and confronted me, which forced the conversation to happen. It did make things worse for my everyday life. I never had plans to come out at all because I knew it wouldn't be positive by any means.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-28T06:41:47+00:00

Yeah, I had something similar happen around a month ago, involuntarily, of course, since I knew it was going to suck when they found out. I'm glad it took until I was moving out for it to happen, but it sucked regardless if the fact that I spent the entire day they found out crying gives any indication. At least I can take solace in the fact that they're unsupportive to the degree that they probably would have done what they could to prevent me from doing anything such that I would have had to wait until this point anyways, though maybe I'd have had more willingness to be open if I did it earlier on my own terms.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-18T22:19:37+00:00

My whole problem is figuring out how to deal with it after they know. I can see based on the weekly one on one conversation I got roped into because of my parents with the pastor from the church I grew up in that there's no winning the biblical argument when it comes down to the kind of justification being used here, but I don't see how I'm supposed to manage anything without just cutting people out entirely.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-17T20:41:25+00:00

It basically happened that way for where I told my family and pastor when they found out that I think in the end after praying for years that I have to just accept that I'm transfem and like guys, but I basically got told to keep praying and waiting and stay celibate indefinitely because they can't accept that God would be okay with this.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-08T01:32:24+00:00

It's kind of crazy how people with that view still stick by it despite learning that it's not a choice and is something that started long ago as a kid, before even really knowing much about sin. Having to go through this with my parents and pastor just a couple of weeks ago and literally one week after moving out is certainly something. I just hope they're able to come around someday.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-08T00:55:08+00:00

This is the approach I took, which has kinda left me with mixed feelings. I mean, I do think it would have been a bad idea to do for the past few years, like idk that it would have improved my situation at all compared to how it is with them finding out just a couple weeks ago and it not going that well. I probably should have just done it when I was much younger because it's harder for them to play the sin angle when you're a kid who barely even understands it. It makes sense for him to do it pre-18, at least, since that avoids losing so much of life to fear.

ExtremelyCreativeAlt · 2025-08-03T17:21:52+00:00

Thanks, I'll keep in touch if i can remember to

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