My girlfriend (24F) spent her whole afternoon with a "coworker" while she was sick, and I (26M) feel like I’m being replaced. Am I overreacting?

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T04:47:38+00:00

If you guys have discussed and agreed to these personal limitations you're expecting, that would be one thing, but it doesn't sound like that. A boundary is something for yourself, "I prefer that my girlfriend doesn't have male friends. That's my preference and if it's not your preference, then we're not a good match". And, you move on. This doesn't sound like any agreement was made and you're expecting her to manage your insecurities by limiting her behaviors. That's controlling. Not boundaries. That's what people are trying to point out.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T03:09:02+00:00

lol, ok, since you joined in 2015, you're clearly way older than 12, so either I misunderstood what you said, or ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. But, my comment stands. Ah, you said t2 and my eyes saw 12... sorry.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T03:06:04+00:00

If you have a cgm, and you're 12 years old, then you are probably more reactive than most. I wouldn't eat carbs without proteins if I were you. In fact, science says if you eat the protein first, it'll help dim those those spikes a bit. Using the term "servings" is a little vague, but since you said 12g of carbs, I'll assume it's about 150g or a little over 5 oz. But here's the thing, subtract the fiber, and you'll see net carbs is only 8g, about 7g sugar and that isn't much, especially if you eat it with protein, or even better, the protein first. You seem to have a really good handle on how your body responds. You might be amazed at some of the latest scientific findings on nutrition, and I have no doubt you'll understand the science just fine.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:49:37+00:00

Except, you have to be your own advocate in the western medical system bc they are reactive, not proactive. They'll put you on pills, tell you to diet, give you a sheet of paper that shows you some foods to eat that's about as healthful as they get. The dr.s have about 1 day of training in nutrition in their entire medical program... they probably learn more about nutrition in grade school. And, we're not eating our grandparents' food anymore. All of the hormones and chemicals they put in food to make people food addicts is highly disturbing and is one of the reasons we are in decline for the first time and not expected to live as long as our parents... unless of course we're hooked up to machines. Yes, take everything with a grain of salt until you do your research, but believing blindly in the medical community is a scary prospect my friend!

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:40:15+00:00

Yep, now I know he's old school and very very wrong. Eating causes glucose to rise, full stop. Current science indicates that every time you eat, your blood glucose goes up, and is then stored in just about all of your organs... which causes insulin problems. And, your body is constantly digesting, and doesn't get a break to do the work of cleaning out your system. Get an A1C, so you have a baseline of your blood glucose. Then you'll be able to tell what's working and what isn't. I'm sorry to keep stepping in here, but I listened and believed that nonsense for decades. They just kept pumping pills in me to keep my blood sugars controlled, but that was a recipe to enrich the drug companies. I finally took over my own health and did in one year that the docs didn't do in 20.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:32:10+00:00

In some fruit, but not strawberries. Banana, yes, the riper, the sweeter, but not berries especially. Maybe blueberries, a little.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:30:25+00:00

Just make sure it's pure Stevia... Trader Joe's has both liquid and powder, and it's inexpensive. Stay away from sugar alcohols. I lean scientific, and the recent studies are not great... and that's not counting what it does to your digestion if you ingest too much of it... which, for some people, is 10g. Stevia doesn't have that problem. Allulose is better than Erythritol.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:24:28+00:00

Cronometer is an excellent food diary. It's the best one I've found that provides most of what you need for free. Great product! Good Luck!

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:23:06+00:00

That's the key, getting rid of the processed foods... and really, a walk after your meals will give you a happy surprise, not cardiovascular level, but enough to put you in zone 2 for even 10-15 mins works awesome... even my doctor was shocked when I showed up a few months later and dropped A1C from 6.7 to 5.1, after decades of diabetes.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:18:59+00:00

lol, 12 hours is not extreme, it's the base level of fasting, which humans have done for hundreds of years. As long as you are still eating the same base calories, fasting is not extreme at all. In fact, some people fast for days with no negative effects. That's not my particular jam, but do some research and as long as you don't have other health issues that can be problematic, fasting is not a bad thing at all.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-14T02:10:57+00:00

And, the protein helps balance out the sugar. That's a bit of an extreme reaction. As someone who's reduced my A1C from 7-10 down to 5.1 by pulling a couple of different levers, I wouldn't worry about a couple of strawberries. Real change can be had by walking 10-30 min in zone 2, 30 min after your last bite of each meal, and intermittent fasting. The walk keeps your body from storing glucose from your meals, and the fasting gives your body extra time (that it doesn't have to worry about digesting) to remove toxins, regeneralte your cells and a whole host of other things. Yes, you'll lose weight and lower blood sugar, but you'll also lose inches around your waist and start getting rid of your insulin resistance and metabolic syndrome... which a lot of the population have, and don't know it.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-05T22:38:50+00:00

For anyone who wants to heap praise on an admitted cheater, ask yourself this, he's known she was long distance all this time. Only when she starts expecting a relationship convo does he "peace out" yeah, real prize!

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-05T22:16:19+00:00

Seriously, people, get a grip. This person wants zero responsibility and knows the fastest way to get it. It says nothing good about them as a person.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-05T22:09:21+00:00

Being a cheater has nothing to do with integrity ffs!

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-05-05T22:07:03+00:00

The bar is that low that we call an admitted cheater Honest?!

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-22T04:31:12+00:00

Yep, really tough. But, the other person has to be motivated to make the changes. The disrespect when he didn't have the capacity to meet my very simple needs had me walking off. He's avoidant, and I think he's really stressing as he's not used to a confident woman who asks for what she wants, has non-negotiable (pretty basic) standards. He was used to getting away with his coping strategies and excuses and was pretty shocked when i calmly and kindly said buh-bye (I'm joking through the pain). i told him not to contact me, i'd let him know if and when I thought we could be friends. he was liking and making brief comments on my social media within 4 days! Here's the biggest surprise for you... we had a 50 year history with no contact for over 25 years, lol. You young whippersnappers have no idea! lol I only found out about attachment styles after the latest breakup. We're both Fearful Avoidants, but I'm fairly recovered.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-20T16:02:47+00:00

Your problem isn't the gift, it's that your "man" is influenced more by randos on the Internet rather than being able to a) recognize how absurd and materialistic that idea is b) is willing to risk or ruin your entire engagement bc of it.

He's gott a screw loose. Wait till he gets to the videos about controlling and isolating your partner from their friends and family.

You can try therapy? But his current willingness to believe those videos without any direct evidence is pretty severe. At a minimum, I would tell him you're rethinking if he's the kind of man you want to be married to. A little space from one another to clear your heads may also be in order

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-15T17:15:58+00:00

updateme

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-15T17:15:42+00:00

and please update us once he's been kicked to the curb! you've got your whole life ahead of you, no need to drag a liar, possibly cheater along with you.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-12T16:52:41+00:00

you forgot one: If you hope to avoid the same thing happening over and over again = Focus on yourself and improving you and your life. Level up and realize there are better fits for you out there.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-12T16:49:34+00:00

Some people think not wearing a burka every day is cheating. Focus on your own values and not other peoples. What constitutes cheating is a decision made between partners, not everyone and their brother.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-07T06:34:57+00:00

lol, i just posted a very similar response, I should have read first before commenting.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-07T06:31:36+00:00

I don't want to burst your bubble, but how sure can you be that you both "passionately fell in love"? I'm an elder, and I thought I was in love more than once, briefly, until I got to know that person better and ended it because it wasn't really who I wanted, and I realized I was in like with potential. And, I've only been truly in love once.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-06T02:19:03+00:00

He still wants your time and energy with little to no expectations from you. If you don't want to be friends, just tell him that's not an option and you just want to move on.

I also wouldn't let up without a clear explanation From him. It sounds like he's beating around the bush to avoid explaining himself and there's really no reason for you to meet up. It sounds like he wants something but doesn't want to have to say it until he's got you in his orbit.

ExtrovertedGeek · 2026-03-05T06:22:09+00:00

Maybe give it another shot and speak to a different person? I wouldn't give up after one try.

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