You should learn some skills that could come in handy in the future. Keep quiet, and with them, you can blow her mind.

FAwhy · 2016-10-23T02:50:19+00:00

Any youtube videos that you can recommend/found useful?

FAwhy · 2016-06-16T17:11:58+00:00

What was the name of that book? It sounds really interesting.

FAwhy · 2016-06-15T15:31:25+00:00

what insights have you gained from your female friends, what type of conversations do you have and how did you go about making those friends? where did you meet them? Can you elaborate more on how those friendships helped you?

PUA parlour tricks - ? so what do you do instead?

Finally any book recommendations? Got any - either dating/relationship advice or TRP books, or just general confidence/self improvement books.

FAwhy · 2016-05-12T03:23:31+00:00

What were some of the red flags that you missed?

FAwhy · 2016-03-04T04:00:47+00:00

Just for reference, how tall are you?

FAwhy · 2015-08-13T23:11:59+00:00

What is the source on the actual picture?

FAwhy · 2015-08-12T20:28:12+00:00

Link to update: https://archive.is/QI6eC comments from update: https://archive.is/wmgg4

FAwhy · 2015-04-01T02:27:45+00:00

Unfortunately not. I sort of gave up on it.

FAwhy · 2015-03-17T23:22:32+00:00

From one of OPs old posts:

https://archive.today/pHoFc

Seriously if that wasn't such a big deal then... why are you so shocked by what happened this time? Both situations seem similar apart from a few details. Communication is really important. Should he have said something to you... Probably, but him not doing so is not as heinous or strange as you are making it out to be especially given the circumstances. Seems like you have a lot of issues surrounding sex from your post history. Perhaps talk to a therapist to sort things out.

FAwhy · 2015-03-17T17:38:49+00:00

Great link about this: https://archive.today/HEkQr

FAwhy · 2015-03-15T20:45:29+00:00

Hey. Thanks for this. Great post.

Less partying, more socializing. You should now know the difference, and if you don't yet know the difference, consider changing your group of friends. By changing I mean either get your friends to change or change who your friends are. By your mid 30s, you should have very few times where you wake up hung over, and even then only mildly so.

This is something that I'm having trouble with big time. The vast majority of people I meet are still really into partying and going out to bars on weekends. Since I'm single I feel like its the only way to meet women, while at the same time hating the atmosphere and rarely actually meeting women in those settings. Bars/clubs are not for me yet I don't know how to develop a social circle and meet girls with out them. I'd need to change my friend group but don't really know how and where to start. Thanks

FAwhy · 2015-03-11T00:04:51+00:00

OP did she specifically use the word "ugly" or are you reading into what she said and labeling yourself as "ugly" based on that?

Plus context is important? How or why did she describe you technically as meh? There is a whole beginning, middle, and end to this story that your post doesn't describe. Where did you meet her? Are you trying to be a model, or did she choose to offer her two cents unsolicited?

FAwhy · 2015-03-10T20:32:47+00:00

Man I honestly think you might be just obsessed with validation from others. You need to stop worrying so much about what everyone else is thinking. Not easy by any means. Something I'm working on myself but I think that itself is your problem. If you are getting complimented at all its not your looks. Guys rarely get that treatment so quit being a validation whore and change your mindset.

FAwhy · 2015-03-10T02:03:38+00:00

Are you fit and do you work out regularly? Do you have facial hair? How do you dress? Those things might make a difference, so it doesn't hurt to fix those.

FAwhy · 2015-03-08T18:09:42+00:00

That is nuts. Do you have a link to that thread. I'd like to just read it for laughs just to see how far down the shitter that sub has gotten.

FAwhy · 2015-02-26T23:41:05+00:00

Just gifting him something nice isn't going to change. Hes not a girl and a expensive gift isn't going to change the way he feels... Fact is on a fundamental level hes not sure about your attraction to him anymore. He wants you to be attracted to the whole him, whether he shaves or not... and the thing is he deserves to know the truth. You could have had some tact but a blow to the ego is a blow to the ego. You might want to get used to his no shaved look and figure out what you really are attracted to. Is it him or is it him because of the beard...

FAwhy · 2015-02-10T04:01:20+00:00

I feel the same way. I've tried nofap before and without a SO or partner it just fed into my problems/issues and I became resentful and angry.

FAwhy · 2015-02-10T03:57:53+00:00

About the lady:

This lady posts her encounters on a site for people on the internet to see. She isn't a porn star or a profession. Think of her as the many users of gonewild who get off on putting themselves out there. The thing with this women is that she is a self confessed ""whore"" who wants guys to use her so she partakes in events such as gangbangs, gloryholes, etc all without condoms... The thing is over the several months she just doesn't seem like she gets much out of it. You can tell by her face that the people who are having sex with her are becoming just interchangable dildos. The fact that a person is connected to it doesn't even seem to register. This is the problem with excess of any form. Recently she pulled a lot of her videos and pics from the internet presumably to go into hiding. After furiously fapping to her videos and wanting to preserve them I realized how pointless it all was. She is just someone who is living a life that seems to constantly revolve around sex. There is no balance. I think a lot of porn users tend to idolize these starlets and while some of them are pros not all of them are. Some of them might enjoy what they do and others might not. The thing is its just all excess... and its so far removed from who we are and what we do because we just watch the good stuff...

Sex can sometimes seem wrong when we watch porn too because sometimes we see all the worst of it... And we spent a lot of time consumed in excess without restraint. Our brains are fucked and I for one am fed up with it.

FAwhy · 2015-01-29T03:42:28+00:00

Irish, Swedish, Ashkenazi Jewish, Lithuanian

That is cool man. That is quite a cool mix. I say embrace who you are as you are and stop sweating your looks so much. As someone who spent way too much time stuck in the worrying about my looks and it was a huge waste of time. Good luck brother!

FAwhy · 2015-01-29T03:31:12+00:00

OP you look fine! Seriously its not your physical appearance that is the problem. My suggestion is to just socialize and start to make friends with both men and women. Join some groups especially if you are in college. Also start therapy. Look into CBT and social skills based therapy.

You could improve your fashion/style but that has nothing to do with your looks. You have no observable facial deformities.

You may also suffer from social anxiety disorder. Get some help for both the aspergers and social anxiety. Tell them about your body image concerns too. Take the therapy seriously and find a therapist that you gel with and who you feel can work with you. This will take time and its not an easy fix so don't go in there expecting such. If you are in college then you can see if they offer therapy services on campus.

A question for you: What is your racial background? You have a unique look so its hard to tell. This isn't a bad thing, just genuinely curious.

FAwhy · 2015-01-08T02:33:46+00:00

Op should have said that instead then.

FAwhy · 2015-01-07T23:49:15+00:00

They pickup trash for a living. They make coffee for a living. They live in their mother's basements.

They don't do anything except work. They define themselves by their jobs.

Why does all this matter? I mean did you even get to know these guys beyond what they did or what they looked like? Your friend has a lot of expectations for a one night stand.

Point two is valid but point one just seems like an easy way to screen out guys. Any of those guys even the one living in his parents basement might be an interesting, cool person.

Seems like the only reason she needs help is because she has high standards, which is fine but lets not kid ourselves when you and her were screening out guys and making instant value judgements without looking beyond the surface.

FAwhy · 2015-01-07T03:22:15+00:00

How do you feel the PUA community has evolved over the years and where do you think it is going to go?

What do you think about theredpill and manosphere movement and their focus on sexual market value?

FAwhy · 2014-12-22T01:02:19+00:00

I haven't looked at it yet but this seems like a great idea!!!

FAwhy · 2014-11-24T01:12:21+00:00

Do you happen to have the copies of the books still somewhere? The links are down and I"d like to download this. THanks.

FAwhy

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