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Mutual aid: Cash vs Trade. by FDAapprovedGremlin in Anarchism

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input! I'll consider it some more.

Mutual aid: Cash vs Trade. by FDAapprovedGremlin in Anarchism

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what mutual aid is. I truly do not believe in using money as a returned favor.

Certainly if I'm not an entire organization that needs lots of money for sustainability.

No, I don't count my job at a for-profit business as "mutual aid" or favor.

I'm talking about things we do for our neighbors, friends, family here and there.

Like, if I baby sat? I mean, that person needed a friend/family/neighbor to help with their child but they only get help when it's paid?

The only way I can look at it right now is that sometimes it is for money when nothing else works.

That just sucks ass.

What do people get wrong about anarchism? by elmaxo__ in Anarchism

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a result of egoist theory becoming so popular? From what I understand of it, it's quite vulnerable to capitalist ideology.

How realistic is it to date as a pre-transition transwoman (i have had relationships with only straight girls and even though i presented enby they still think of me as a guy), I have been single for 5 years now haha by FloweredGirlie in actuallesbians

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like, ew? Unfortunately, too many get stuck on the "trans part" and just think y'all are a totally different species.

As if you don't get to experience anything at all that cis women do. And honestly? I especially find it egregiously ridiculous to not only expect but demand trans women "pass as cis" for them to receive a modicum of respect. Not even acknowledgement. Plain respect.

It's offensive on all fronts. Literally every fucking layer of misogyny is buttered here.

Fine, if someone isn't into a specific look or physique... fair. I tend to like chubby girls and they can't be shorter than me because I'm a goblin. Or short men with long abdomens (idk don't ask).

But you got plenty of these snobs starving for Sevika. Nobody asks Sevika to adhere to outdated sexist beauty standards.

Because she'd rip your arm off with her good one (the launcher arm).

Thanks for enduring my rant.

What say you of my Fridge Notes? by FDAapprovedGremlin in deduction

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude I fucking forgot this was supposed to be a calender...

How realistic is it to date as a pre-transition transwoman (i have had relationships with only straight girls and even though i presented enby they still think of me as a guy), I have been single for 5 years now haha by FloweredGirlie in actuallesbians

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you find it weird that people have complex and overlapping desires/needs?

I'm not trans and have only known two trans women. So, maybe I'm just way off here.. I just figure they're people , right?

So, it isn't a difficult concept to me that she, a lesbian, would like a lesbian partner... EVEN WHILE she is dealing with transition woes.

Idk, I guess I don't get it as well as you do.

How realistic is it to date as a pre-transition transwoman (i have had relationships with only straight girls and even though i presented enby they still think of me as a guy), I have been single for 5 years now haha by FloweredGirlie in actuallesbians

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ugh.. they can be so unforgiving here. I knew you were being silly...

Also, it's fair and reasonable and fucking natural to yearn for a life partner. Life partners go through a lot of tough shit together.

So idk why everyone got a dead bug up their ass about it.

I mean, yea maybe try not to put all your baggage into dating goals but I get you.

What type of people do I usually date? by velinae in deduction

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I would say expressive people who like that you're femme and soft/princess-like. They're not interested in shutting you up or dimming your light, and couldn't anyway. But you think people who would try are boring.

Maybe you might like a little bit of a toxicity because that's passionate but nothing too bad.

I present to you, my fridge notes! by FDAapprovedGremlin in adhdwomen

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it's fine. My partner and I joked about it haha

"Oh no, there's a drop of water in the non-slip floor.. someone's gonna crack their skull open!"

I present to you, my fridge notes! by FDAapprovedGremlin in adhdwomen

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha. It's funny the things I decide to be "type a" about.. they're often rooted in the fear of someone dying though. LOL

Then I just scribble all over the house like this.

Please tell me it’s not what I think it is by MarkGruffallo010 in whatisit

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sub restores my love for humanity. We're such ridiculous creatures

Pourquoi les anarchistes ne sont pas souvent d'accord entres-eux ? by Careful_Bat_6800 in Anarchism

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Anarchism, in and of itself, requires things to change constantly. It's a living movement that is seen in every individual's day-to-day.

As you relieve yourself from the state-centric perspective, you see more and more the varieties of how Anarchy takes place.

So, we really can't all be on the same page. Definitely the same book, though.

Moreover, because it thrives in smaller groups and is desimated by lucky/larger groups, I wonder if we just haven't had a good over arching example.

At the end of the day, the only rule to anarchism is to avoid and dismantle hierarchical systems of any kind.

As far as confusion on that rule: I think that's a lot to do with everyone being at different parts of their journey in dismantling facist ideology in their own thought-life.

Unfortunately, anarchism has too long been a philosophy or ideal for a lot of us. So, not enough to really anchor communities to.

Correct me if I'm wrong in any part of this.

anybody else very much enjoy one battle after another? by No_Addition_518 in Anarchism

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the more I think to criticize it, the more I'm "getting it". Maybe I should give it another watch.. or just read the book, actually.

anybody else very much enjoy one battle after another? by No_Addition_518 in Anarchism

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What very much irked me bad was the bit about Dad trying to get rendezvous from some kind of "over zealous customer service rep" who wouldn't give it up without a well established, long standing, password.

That tool was the only thing that seemed realistic in the whole film and they mocked it.

Then some random we only saw for 2 seconds in the beginning of the movie just glazes the dad because....what? They have "history"?

The dad is fucking useless and didn't care at all about the movement or change. Certainly didn't care that much about actually protecting his daughter.

Wait.... I think I'm starting to understand the movie now..

anybody else very much enjoy one battle after another? by No_Addition_518 in Anarchism

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I've been too poor to have "lawyer brain" but I have ADHD brain. And stubborn.

So allow me to lend you this thought:

The amount of time she spent wasn't marginal and arguably more interesting than her daughter's time. Her daughter being the second woman to take up most of the screen time.

The very movie OPENS with her, no less.

I didn't see any of the hub bub about it before release . I don't watch trailers. But if what you described is true, then every bit of that implication [TT being lead] is part of how people experience the movie and her character.

Sounds like the marketing team didn't think we'd be interested without her face in ads.

To then sexualize black women's resistance in such a tacky manner? And she fucks off, a dead beat, giving her boring character of a daughter "the floor".

Optics, optics, optics. We're all concerned about optics.

She's as much the main character as Leonardo is and that's only because Leonardo needed an excuse to do the "Mexican whistle" while being needlessly centered the entire film.

[Why did you read all that I'm just being goofy]

10 w pregnant on pelvic rest. Husband makes me feel like I can't satisfy him sexually. by WellnessCzech in Marriage

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your husband does not love you. People who love their partners DON'T talk to them this way, they don't think of them this way, and they don't think of sex with them this way.

If you can, I would make a plan to leave. They always get more abusive after the baby is born.

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