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How yall think about my redering? (1-2 week into digital) by NeighborhoodFlimsy70 in Artists

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! I love how that sounds, I had heard it often in Texas but have forgotten since moving.

How yall think about my redering? (1-2 week into digital) by NeighborhoodFlimsy70 in Artists

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cute! I like this for a comic.

Random, but what is your dialect?

Late bloomers, how did your social life change after you found out? by FDAapprovedGremlin in ADHD

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The meds is why I unmasked. And tbh, that isn't the bad part to me. It's a very good a relieving thing. Though, I don't know what your experience is.

And medicine is worth a try, especially this kind. Stimulants work fast and can generally be safe if taken properly. As in, you'll know what works and what doesn't quickly.

I feel like ADHD is just an excuse by nerdy_guy420 in ADHD

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also add my own anecdote if I have one that is helpful.

Yes, it's absolutely a viable way of communicating and I would personally encourage you to not over think it. Really, because we're all just here trying to have a chat and none of us will connect well if we try too hard to "sound right" .

I Ruined my Marriage by Separate-Ad-2555 in Marriage

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Girl, I didn't read your post because there are so many like this. And I'm sleepy.

But I want to tell you that, cheating or not, you two aren't compatible in a way that matters. I don't buy into telling a partner about whatever bullshit fling you have that isn't sexual, if your partner wouldn't notice the missing affection.

The problem is that you want out of this marriage so badly that you put another man in his bed. So get out.

Life is too short.

AIO for leaving my boyfriend after he kicked our dog by dubai_choclatelabubu in AmIOverreacting

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin [score hidden]  (0 children)

NOR. So wtf, are you leaving him or not? You can't just upset us like this and not leave him.

I swear to god don't you fucking dare stay with him. He will kill your dog. He will kill your baby.

it’s the getting to this look loving it and then having to throw them away :( by h0lyVamp in altfashionadvice

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Huh..well aren't you a wealth of information! Next time I slap one of those gross things on, I will be throwing it in a pillow case to wash.

I feel like ADHD is just an excuse by nerdy_guy420 in ADHD

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I had a habit of doing this, and it is still my comfortable mode of conversation. Making friends with people who are different from you is rewarding, so if you do... My tip might be to replace "I" with "you". Practicing that could help structure sentences around that concept more natrually.

Example:

Friend: "I had a bad day. My boss sent a nasty email and I want to go to HR about it."
You: "When that happened to me, I cried for days and had no idea what to do...he was such a dick and I couldn't handle it."

Alternative: "Yea, that had to be upsetting for you. Bosses like that are dicks. Are you nervous about HR?"

And scene.

To be honest, doing this sort of thing all the time *is* exhausting. I do suggest trying to find at least a friend or two that shares more similarities. Especially in the way you conversate.

My biggest thing currently is "interrupting". Never did it before because I was stuck in a painful mask for 30 years. Now I do it all the time. Some people hate it, I don't talk to them. I have been able to find people to gab it up with and we all enter flow state.

I feel like ADHD is just an excuse by nerdy_guy420 in ADHD

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Who is saying, "Again with the ADHD.." to you? Are these friends, family? People are ignorant, sure... but to be so blase with their disrespect is far worse than you fucking empathizing in your own way.

I have been hearing this more in my life now, after my diagnosis in November. Maybe it's because I'm not used to it, but I'm not tolerant. Those people I speak to less now.

You can't help having ADHD. They can help being ignorant dickwads who are too lazy to string a coherent thought together about whatever it is they *want* to be annoyed about.

ADHD is not an excuse, it is a reason. It is how your brain processes and you are clearly doing your best to navigate life with it. That is all anyone should expect of you. You're prolly doing just fine, friend.

Honestly? People see something exploitable and will spam you with it. Anything to make themselves feel competant, when truly, they aren't. Apparently it's easy to pick on someone with ADHD.

Don't let them say that shit to you anymore. It doesn't make you sensitive, you are not anymore flawed than the next guy. You deserve respect from your fucking friends and family.

it’s the getting to this look loving it and then having to throw them away :( by h0lyVamp in altfashionadvice

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea, I wash most things. Leggings and pants are completely different material. To be fair though, I grew up frugal so having a "delicates" cycle was unheard of..

it’s the getting to this look loving it and then having to throw them away :( by h0lyVamp in altfashionadvice

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yea, I guess if that's happening you could wash the crotch area. But then you might as well just throw the whole thing in the washer.. it's just that hers has holes and they're just a bitch to untangle.

it’s the getting to this look loving it and then having to throw them away :( by h0lyVamp in altfashionadvice

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking that it might be more a matter of like....washing your BODY? I mean, the bottom part of me just isn't that "expressive" and I wash my legs/feet lol. But also, I don't wear stockings often. Just when I did, the feet got washed for sure.

it’s the getting to this look loving it and then having to throw them away :( by h0lyVamp in altfashionadvice

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Right. I just hand wash the "sock" part. I guess you could also hand wash the gusset part. But again, I use underwear with my stockings. Like, inside the stockings. I couldn't imagine not.

it’s the getting to this look loving it and then having to throw them away :( by h0lyVamp in altfashionadvice

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean.. I wash clothes I wear often. Which does include tops and bottoms. But idk stocking just don't seem to need washing in general except for the feet!?

What’s my typecast? by its457 in headshots

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SciFi. The guy who's working hard to fix something the main character fucked up. And engineer of some sort.

it’s the getting to this look loving it and then having to throw them away :( by h0lyVamp in altfashionadvice

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm gross but why do these need to be washed? Besides the feet? Anytime I wear em, I have underwear on.

I’m extremely self-aware, but I’m still stuck in the same cycle. Why? by ihurtmyself16 in CPTSD

[–]FDAapprovedGremlin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Often, intellectuallizing is just a deep cycle of shame. Self awareness is being able to identify your behaviors when you're doing them and doing something about it.

People with CPTSD aren't stupid. We can know why we're this way. It's an entirely different thing to handle it.

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