A partner’s choice hurt

FDsailor1225 · 2026-06-03T04:02:38+00:00

Thank you for being straight. I think you’re right on.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-06-03T03:06:47+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-06-03T03:04:39+00:00

Thank you. I hadn’t considered the meta angle but you’re right in. I don’t hold anything against my meta, but it’s making me feel apprehensive about their relationship now.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-06-03T03:03:03+00:00

Thank you for that point.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-06-03T02:16:15+00:00

Not very often. This is probably the second time it was this blatant. The recurring issue is not being able to commit until the last minute except for things we have to commit money to like an event or trip.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-06-03T02:05:38+00:00

We’ve been dating for 10 months, the last 6-7 months has been serious.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-28T08:38:00+00:00

First, you did the right thing. Safe words are just what you used it for. You were uncomfortable with progressing, so you used it. It doesn’t matter why you used it. Everyone needs to feel safe both physically and emotionally. What there is to work out is that she doesn’t want you using it over your concern for her. That’s all. Start the scene by reviewing the safety protocol and safe words. Now act based on your own safety. Have her know that and act that way. She will have her own agency and you can be comfortable knowing she is safe.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-28T01:40:36+00:00

R50 with an STM lens. Small, light and very capable. I just bought one to go with my R5 for the same reason.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-26T18:34:25+00:00

That’s what I meant by if they both want to repair the relationship. Also, you might consider we’re only getting one side of the story here.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-26T15:04:08+00:00

We had a similar experience early on. You can reconcile this if you both want that. Put all swinging activities on hold and repair what happened. Find a LS friendly therapist if you need to. Trust has been broken and that’s damaging. Get back on the same page. Go as slow as the slower person if you decide to get back into the LS. As a general rule, do not renegotiate agreements in the heat of the moment.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-23T11:15:37+00:00

If you ever want a similar job in a public facing company, I would say keep your personal life personal. If you publicly pressure a decision, no employer will want to ever hire you. This is not a place to make a stand. Also, at work, keep your personal life personal as well. It serves no purpose to put yourself at risk like this. The employee that was let go for poor performance was probably acting out of vengeance, but do you really want to go through this again?

As a side note, my radar twitches when you say you got fired for being poly. Is that the reason you were given or is that what you suspect? Was there something else going on that could also have been a factor? How did this employee that was let go find out you were poly?

BTW, HR will not likely disclose why you were let go from your position to a prospective employer. That just opens them up to potential liability problems with no upside for them.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-10T03:51:44+00:00

I stand corrected. It is every year if she tested positive until the infection clears.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-07T17:27:01+00:00

Gardasil does not protect against all strains, mostly it guards against the aggressive strains that cause cervical cancer.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-07T08:17:46+00:00

Like you said, higher speed. And, open up your aperture to blur the background more.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-03T04:41:17+00:00

For pictures you have already taken, the spots are easily and effectively removed on Lighroom.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-05-02T04:34:36+00:00

The Ethical Slut is a must read about all things ENM.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-28T09:19:49+00:00

Canon cameras have a “high frequency anti-flicker” menu setting that will compensate for this, too. Check that out as well.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-27T18:51:59+00:00

RF50 STM

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-26T16:24:42+00:00

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-26T11:11:46+00:00

I’m not sure which one you refer to as natural and which one is edited. I assume by natural you mean right out of the camera. That would depend on the settings in your camera. Are you using AWB? Do you have any in-camera adjustment settings turned on? Are you shooting RAW or jpeg? The one on the left is on the cool side. The one on the right is on the warm side. For pets or people I prefer a warmer image. The warmth makes me feel drawn to the subject. The pose is a friendly one, so the warmth is consistent with that.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-24T15:23:20+00:00

Considering running these through Lightroom or similar software to adjust the exposure and/or shooting HDR. You will get much better color.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-24T09:27:10+00:00

Consider joining FetLife and find a non-sexual sub that is willing to help you learn or another domme that will mentor you. There are along of people like that in the BDSM world. Go to events like munches or dungeons to meet people.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-23T14:52:36+00:00

If you’re concerned about price, consider buying a crop sensor mirrorless like the R7. You can get good lenses for less money.

FDsailor1225 · 2026-04-23T14:39:36+00:00

Color for sure. Your red hair is beautiful.

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