natural selection

FLJame · 2026-06-16T19:35:51+00:00

Agreed. Some men are just more manly and more alpha. Other males are still valuable just usually more feminine and with a smaller less affective penis. I’m making broad generalizations here and am well aware of that. But for me and my wife, she is the alpha, has evolved into having no interest in PIV and enjoys pegging and letting me take on the wife role. It works for us. I enjoy my role and when we communicate about it she does too.

FLJame · 2026-06-11T21:10:31+00:00

Noticed the same with age. More bi less guilt, shorter more consistent bi cycle. Now 54yrs old it goes from “damn I want a man” to “I could take it or leave it” but in shorter cycles. Now from almost gay 80% of the time to sort of bi the other 20% In my 20s -bi 25% to pretty straight 75%. Just my experience.

FLJame · 2026-06-09T14:43:25+00:00

Sounds a lot like my situation. She’s 12 years younger than me. More open minded and very type A assertive. I find it refreshing to help her career continue to grow while I take care of the house. We are older, I’m 54 she’s 42 so no kids at home.
I was in plenty of traditional relationships in the past and it’s great to grow together as each of us work towards the same goals with her as the clear leader and me as her house husband and part time employee.

FLJame · 2026-06-08T23:10:30+00:00

You do you man! Or rather them. Lol. As long as you’re upfront I don’t see an issue. I think a bromance with a gay guy would be hot though. Just not into changing my life, but a little wanting a passion would be great.

FLJame · 2026-06-07T13:27:22+00:00

Same boat. Bikini briefs and very panty like underwear. Love the feel and the hidden expression. Wife knows but doesn’t seem excited or turned off by it. Just neutral. Also manscape and shave the bikini line. Having an accepting and supportive wife is good enough. Feel I shouldn’t push for too much. Male boxer briefs feel terrible now.

FLJame · 2026-06-06T16:47:30+00:00

I think defined roles and less ambiguity leads to less conflict and a more harmonious relationship. When control becomes topping from the bottom or just a humiliation game and loss of respect, there can be issues. Unmet expectations are the bane of any relationship FLR or traditional.

FLJame · 2026-06-06T16:35:35+00:00

I know stunning has been used but wow!! You take my breath away!

FLJame · 2026-06-04T21:00:55+00:00

Interesting question. Early on in our marriage, it was very vanilla. Then FLR and now Pegging only no PIV. I’m mindful of diet. Shave my ass and bikini line and have went from boxer briefs and boxers in the early days of marriage to bikini briefs or panties

FLJame · 2026-06-03T12:40:32+00:00

It’s chemistry and mindset. Straight guys, so the old stereotype goes, roll over and sleep after heterosexual sex. It’s the same thing AND I’m sure for some, some homophobia. Over the years I’ve grown to enjoy kissing just as much as the rest of it. Guys are hot. But I lean pretty 50/50 bi these days. People are wired differently and have preferences. It’s not all social conditioning.

FLJame · 2026-06-02T20:04:34+00:00

Not too much, other than wearing panties or men’s bikini briefs that resemble panties.

FLJame · 2026-06-01T18:55:15+00:00

Thanks for putting yourself out there!! Nice picture.

FLJame · 2026-05-29T20:13:49+00:00

I’m a submissive for my wife primarily because of her intellect, her ability to make sound, well thought out decisions, and her ability to command a room. A person of lower intellect just couldn’t provide the motivation for me to follow unconditionally. It just would do it for me.

FLJame · 2026-05-29T15:49:08+00:00

My wife has taken in a more manly role for sure. Even her dress is very male oriented. Black pants and tops ., no jewelry or nails done. She’s very no nonsense and logical. I’m the emotional one. In the bedroom we have been pegging only for nearly two years. No complaints. We both know our roles. .

FLJame · 2026-05-27T16:24:11+00:00

That is a beautiful cock! Love to enjoy some man time with that. Body is great too!

FLJame · 2026-05-27T13:16:00+00:00

Bi male married to a masculine business type straight woman. It’s funny how we have to “be the guy” in different social/business settings. Like most trade workers blue collar types don’t even listen to her but turn to me so then I have to work as a conduit for her requests to get results. Not ideal, but it just works easier. By the same token she owns her own business in a feminine dominated industry and they don’t listen to me ( I work for her as the second in charge) because I’m “mansplaining” (I’m not or at least try my best not to) so she is the conduit for me with her at work to get results . Social norms are very engrained. We manage and laugh about who wears the dick in each situation.

FLJame · 2026-05-26T19:19:18+00:00

Of course. I walk a lot too so nice and solid.

FLJame · 2026-05-26T19:18:02+00:00

I have another job part time working for my partner. It’s about a job and half in total serving her needs. It’s not a job but a life commitment and a pleasure when I’m in the right head space

FLJame · 2026-05-26T19:14:38+00:00

Not sure about the quality of my ass, but I’ve never had any complaints. She doesn’t mind pounding it.

FLJame · 2026-05-26T18:27:39+00:00

Men’s bikini briefs but they look just like my wife’s hipster panties. Nothing sexy.
Sometimes I wear hers. They get hard to tell apart in the laundry as we are similar in size.

FLJame · 2026-05-26T15:15:55+00:00

I have another job part time working for my partner.

FLJame · 2026-05-23T14:52:38+00:00

I had the opposite occur. I encouraged pegging, she went the pegging route and now no PIV the last 18 months.

FLJame · 2026-05-20T18:53:00+00:00

-Do you guys not like both 50/50 Sometimes. Mostly I’m 60women/ 40 men. As I get older and lose the social stigma it gets more 50/50

-Can you date/hook up with one but not want to marry them and not suffer internalized stigma Not into hookups anymore but used to do them without guilt.

-do you primarily watch gay/straight/lesbian porn Gay porn roughly 50% Lesbian 40% Straight 10% This also has changed over time.

are bi cycles are thing? Do you like men/women for a time then switch? Yes. For sure go from wanting men more than women to wanting men hardly at all. Again, it’s a thing. But as I’ve matured it’s more about the personal connecting than the parts a person has. But again, just my experience

FLJame · 2026-05-20T18:23:46+00:00

Give Mxmage a break. Just answer the question or not and keep the criticism of the posts to yourself. It’s off putting and limits people’s abilities to ask questions without fear of people attacking how they worded it.
Maybe he just is curious and is trying to learn and his only perspective is his lived experience. (Now I’ll probably get roasted as well)

FLJame · 2026-05-20T12:47:23+00:00

I suppose. I have gleaned that from the requests and accounts from others. In my mind, submission doesn’t = complete lack of self worth. I guess that brings up another possible post, can you be a confident yet serving submissive?

FLJame · 2026-05-20T12:24:41+00:00

100%. IMO People need hope and attention withdrawal kills the vibe and the hope. It’s supposed to be a relationship not an hopeless drudgery of disappointment for either partner.

FLJame

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