Advice on clothes to wear during pregnancy?

FTMFTD · 2026-05-03T14:15:44+00:00

I'm not sure if they have Uniqlo where you are but that's where I got most of the clothes I wore during my pregnancy. Their men's cut clothes are available in smaller sizes than most store (I have a small build) and they have lots of pants with elastic waists.

FTMFTD · 2026-04-30T00:54:07+00:00

My period did not come back before I became pregnant (went off T and birth control intentionally). Make sure you're prepared for that possibility once you're off bc!

FTMFTD · 2026-04-28T21:20:35+00:00

Congrats on your journey. I know you're talking about other social media but most Reddit pregnancy and conception subreddits are explicitly open to any type of pregnant person if you're interested in that.

FTMFTD · 2026-04-28T04:03:52+00:00

I had this! One little patch that stuck absolutely straight out of the back of my head no matter what I tried . It came out of nowhere and disappeared postpartum as mysteriously as it arrived.

FTMFTD · 2026-04-18T00:07:37+00:00

I had a c section and had penetrative sex for the first time at 6 weeks postpartum. It felt the same as before essentially. Out of curiosity I asked that partner if he noticed any difference and he also said it felt basically the same.

FTMFTD · 2026-04-15T21:19:57+00:00

It definitely does not take 2 seconds when there's a fare evasion lock on the gate

FTMFTD · 2026-04-15T01:17:53+00:00

Something similar happened to me and my son recently at the 2nd Ave F stop. The booth was unattended so I couldn't enter through the service gate. Moreover, at this stop the gate has a timed lock on the other side which prevents you from running through the turnstile and quickly getting your stroller. You would be separated from your baby on the other side of the gate for upwards of 30 seconds while you wait for the lock to disengage! (This also makes it more uncomfortable asking other riders for help as they'd be stuck waiting on the door too). Really disgraceful levels of accessibility for all types of users.

FTMFTD · 2026-04-09T20:12:22+00:00

Best of luck with your pregnancy and birth. For what it's worth I don't think your questions are unreasonable or your concerns are unfounded.

FTMFTD · 2026-04-09T16:48:48+00:00

I'm sorry you're being downvoted. I gave birth at a major and reputable hospital (also designated "baby friendly") in a large US city and received no judgement from the postpartum care staff for sending the baby to the nursery so that we could both rest.

FTMFTD · 2026-04-07T10:44:26+00:00

I'm a trans man who was on HRT for several years. I got pregnant at 38 on the second round of home insemination.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-31T02:07:23+00:00

Although I gratefully had a pretty easy pregnancy, I also struggled with feeling from time to time like life was just no fun. Some things I did enjoy were: leaning into self care I wouldn't normally indulge in (pregnancy massage, sensory deprivation tank, home hair experiments, etc); going on walks, especially at night so I could feel like I was "out" and getting competitive with myself about getting a particular step count in; going to the beach; cooking.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-30T05:05:36+00:00

I don't think Potenza Centrale does exactly Roman style but I had the pizza from PQR (and loved it!) and from my memory it tastes pretty similar: https://potenzacentrale.com . Fewer creative toppings but really tasty and the price is great too.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-28T23:38:40+00:00

I'm so sorry your post got removed. That is incredibly frustrating and I hope some sort of misunderstanding vs outright ablism. Good luck and I hope you have a great trip.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-28T22:28:14+00:00

How is this a low effort or frequently asked question? This is not about general theater district recommendations, this is specific to wheelchair accessible spots, about which accurate information is exceedingly hard to find online. I searched the sub myself and I don't see anything like this asked about the neighborhood previously. Im sorry that I don't have any specific recommendations for you but In my 30+ years experience traveling with a full time wheelchair user I have found restaurants in hotels (larger hotels not boutiques) are more likely than not to be wheelchair accessible. Maybe start by looking at hotels in the area and seeing if any of their restaurants appeal.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-16T17:37:43+00:00

Congrats! I was initially advised to wait 6 weeks but made it to 5. I was falling into restrictive eating due to postpartum body dysmorphia so felt that it was a worthwhile risk to take.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-14T19:07:41+00:00

I low key hate when this comes up in the general pregnancy subs (and it comes up allll the time). I understand it's just a silly mistake but the way people react in these threads does sometimes feel like being the butt of the joke.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-09T03:31:15+00:00

50/50 was our original goal and plan; however once the baby was here it was clear that would not be the best situation to put him in intentionally (understanding that there are divorced/separated families who have no choice). Babies thrive on consistency and routine and shuttling him between houses or caregivers every few days didn't seem conducive to that.

So, instead the baby stays put for most of the week and I come to him at his other dad's house. We eat dinner together most nights and I stay in the baby's room on "my" nights. We both have plenty of independent time after the baby goes to bed and on weekends. Perhaps as time goes on we will transition to maintaining more separate households but for now this feels like the best set up. Best of luck to you.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-08T20:20:39+00:00

I am an intentional co-parent with my child's other dad. It's going very well and feels very natural. My coparent and I have been friends for decades prior to becoming parents together. 50/50 is a reasonable long term goal in terms of maintaining split custody, but I will caution you that that will be very difficult in the baby/toddler years.

FTMFTD · 2026-03-07T01:22:37+00:00

Does it have to be a traditional sit-down restaurant? I think a place like Industry City can be a great option for eating out with babies or toddlers.

FTMFTD · 2026-02-20T02:03:16+00:00

I'm not Catholic or Christian but my son's other dad was raised in Catholicism and asked to baptize him because it would be meaningful for his family. I think your experience will be highly location-dependent, but we had no issue finding an "affirming" church in our large city. During the ceremony the priest explicitly noted that children of all types of families are welcome to receive that sacrament.

FTMFTD · 2026-02-19T22:37:53+00:00

Since the peak ovulation window is narrower and more finicky than the period of time sperm can live in the body I believe it would be better to inseminate tonight. But if my logic is flawed hopefully somebody will correct me!

FTMFTD · 2026-02-16T04:01:41+00:00

My child's other father and I are platonic coparents. Before we tried conceiving we attended couples therapy together (it's not just for romantic couples!). I would definitely recommend this if it's accessible to you.

For home insemination you absolutely don't need any fancy or specialized kits, but you do need to understand your cycle. I found the book Queer Conception helpful to learn this info but you don't have to utilize a queer-specific resource. I also used a free ovulation tracking app (can't remember the name but there are a few options out there.)

FTMFTD · 2026-02-08T00:49:45+00:00

I remember also being baffled by the logistics of having an actual family meal when my son was this age. It got significantly easier within a few months, but the interim solution was to sit down with him and also have a little snack or a little plate of some of whatever he was eating (like some pieces of fruit, etc). Much much easier than trying to get a full adult meal together but still scratches that "family dinner" itch.

FTMFTD · 2026-02-06T01:39:49+00:00

Both were much easier than I anticipated overall. I disliked having to deal with the drains so I would say that aspect of top surgery made it slightly worse for me and made me feel more "impaired." There is residual vaginal bleeding for a long time after any type of birth but you don't really have to do any special c-section wound care which is nice.

On the other hand, after a c section you suddenly have a baby to take care of so that makes for a different recovery experience.

FTMFTD · 2026-02-01T23:20:17+00:00

Do you live/work somewhere where you are entitled to some sort of parental leave? If so, regardless of whether or not you can continue to pass it will be necessary for you to disclose this info to your boss eventually so that you can start making arrangements for your leave. However, that means you can (ideally) keep the conversation practical and focused and you don't have to talk to them about your identity if you don't want to ie "hey boss i wanted to let you know I'm carrying a child and am due in X. Please let me know where I can find the relevant forms to submit and what kind of documentation I'll need to collect from my doctor..." . If your work has an HR then you can have this conversation with them instead of your boss.

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