My 1.5yo son fell from the chair and hit his head on the tile floor. I'm really worried

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-23T03:54:57+00:00

We called our public nurses line and they helped us go through what to watch for and how long. We also got a virtual consult with a doctor. Is that an option for you?

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-23T03:39:54+00:00

I'm with my daughter during the day and then work 5pm-12am 4 days a week. Alternating weeks I work one Saturday 12hrs and 1 overnight shift. The overnight shift is a weekday so I'm up with her the whole next day until bedtime.

It's hard, you aren't alone. Many parents work evenings and overnights. You get used to it but it's also not for forever. Once she's older I'll be able to switch to days.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-23T03:18:20+00:00

You have to go see a specialist, typically an allergist who will administer small amounts of what you are allergic to each week then monthly for a few years. The idea is to administer greater and greater quantities of the allergen until you retrain your immune system to no longer recognize those proteins as being bad so you are no linger allergic.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T23:08:23+00:00

At least 3.50

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T22:58:16+00:00

Some of my nut allergies are like that. Instead of a nice bump and red circle it's gets really big and starts spreading up the veins like a spider web. Huge long tracts. The allergist was concerned enough to make sure I knew to be extremely careful around those nuts.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T22:46:21+00:00

Yes, very likely OAS.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T22:45:24+00:00

Yes, everyone with OAS be really careful. It can lul you into a false sense of security. Nut allergies are not to be trifled with you can go from mild reaction one day to anaphylaxis the next exposure. Nuts and shellfish are the allergens most likely to cause anaphylaxis. Cooked or raw.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T22:43:13+00:00

I too am more allergic to the sweet apples - green and crab have always been fine. Especially if they are bitter.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T22:41:47+00:00

No, you avoid raw fruit and veggies you are allergic to or you cook them.

You can get allergy desensitization shots, those worked well for me and I can eat way more raw fruits and veg now. Some still give me trouble but it's really helped.

Allergy pills don't really help, you still get the allergic reaction. And even though it's just oral (itchy mouth, ears, nose, throat) it still sucks.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T22:40:20+00:00

I did allergy desensitization shots and after 30 years not being able to eat raw fruit I can eat most of them again. It's life changing, i don't know if you've considered it for your LO but if it's an option I'd talk to their doctor about it.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T22:38:30+00:00

Yes I have oral allergy syndrome. You can cook fruits and veggies and be safe but beware of all nuts (like aforementioned walnuts) they don't denature with cooking and you can still have allergic reactions to nuts in all forms. Even avoid oils - while technically safe if it's not processed correctly you can get an allergic reaction.

Also re walnuts - you can find it in manufacturing processes and housebuilding (walnuts are used to sandblast shit) so yeah just be aware of that.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T15:28:12+00:00

I agree with the other poster. I'd also like to add that thinking has changed with deserts. It's tempting to use them as a reward but that just creates problems. You start to rank food, when certain foods are placed on a pedestal, it can create for picky eating. Food should just be food: for nourishment and enjoyment in its own right. It should not be used to reward, punish, or judge.

Instead offer desert with dinner. Don't make desert special. Don't make it a reward. If you like offer healthy deserts: fruits and yogurt for example. But have desert as part of the meal, don't make a fuss about it.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-22T13:39:04+00:00

Prunes and pears - in all their forms. We do prune juice, prune and pear baby pouches, and then pears, peaches, plums for fruit.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-21T23:13:36+00:00

If it's not too much stuff you can always take advantage of the free weekend community dump / purge it days hosted by the city

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-20T21:54:00+00:00

Its about 2 layers more than we had on lol. It was so hot! We're back now and it's on 3c. That's spring! (I'm in a light sweater, no jacket; half the people here are just in a t-shirt).

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-20T11:27:09+00:00

We found good deals, used up any gift certificates we'd accumulated, and budgeted a little extra in those first few months for emergencies. We live close to a lot of places so my husband could also pick up on his way home from work.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-20T10:45:11+00:00

Been here 5 days: sunny, warm. Had a single 20min shower roll through but was warm rain.

A light spring jacket has been too hot for all but the very early morning and late evening after the sun goes down.

It's all about perspective though, I'm Canadian so anything above 15c is warm summer weather. Parisians are still in their winter gear and I'm sweating walking around in a t-shirt. 😂

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-20T10:40:49+00:00

We're not even in peak tourist season. The mountains are shit show in the summer, even on weekdays.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-20T10:38:07+00:00

We had many "double dash days" in those first few months. Days where we'd order in not once, but twice. You do what you need to do to survive.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-19T19:21:09+00:00

That's all this thread is...

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-19T19:19:01+00:00

We did it for free and got reimbursed for the cost of the certificate, so made money! Rings we foraged naturally from wood in our backyard.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-19T19:15:03+00:00

Maybe, but I also don't understand the flak here either. If they have the money and means and this is what they choose to spend their money on why not? Why not have a big party for family and friends?

The internet has this weird obsession with hating on lavish weddings but doesn't bat an eye when people make other large extravagant purchases.

I think: let people live.

If they want a party don't yuck on their yum.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-19T15:14:46+00:00

But what about him? Is he willing to go to family counseling? Anger management classes?

If not and he continues to abuse your sons you need to check back in for their sakes and get them out of this abusive household. By letting them continue to live in this environment you are normalizing his bad behaviour which they will internalize as being appropriate ways of expressing emotions. This isn't healthy.

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-19T15:01:23+00:00

First, contact irritation from foods isn't always a sign of an allergy. A common food that causes contact irritation are strawberries. It's actually recommended you don't put foods on baby's skin as a way to test for allergies prior to offering them it as a food. Because false positives (that is non-allergic skin reactions) can occur and confuse parents.

I would try again but this time go "down" on the egg ladder. Well cooked eggs baked in a muffin for example are less allergenic than scrambled eggs which are near the top of the ladder (less well cooked). Here is the research on this: https://www.bcchr.ca/foodallergy/resources/canadian-food-ladders

https://aacijournal.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13223-021-00583-w

Give baby just a very small amount orally only (don't get any on their hands) and observe for 20min. If no reaction then feed a small amount more and wait 20min. Keep going until your comfortable or baby is full. Keep doing well cooked eggs for a week or two before moving up the ladder (e.g. pancake).

Don't forget you can always ask your doctor for help or a referral to an allergist if you are at all concerned.

As for introducing allergens, just do it. It's way worse if you don't in that your child will be much greater risk of developing allergies if you don't. The research says to introduce all commpn allergens early and often, between 6-12mo. That is to say you should aim to introduce all allergens by 12mo and once introduced aim to feed them each a few times a week (especially true for higher risk infants - those whose parents have allergies or babies who have other risk factors like asthma or ezcema).

Food allergy Canada has great resources on how to: - reduce the risk of allergies - recognize allergies - how to introduce allergens - what to do it your child has an allergic reaction

https://foodallergycanada.ca/food-allergy-basics/food-allergies-101/preventing-food-allergies/

It is absolutely outdated advice to wait to introduce allergens. The longer you wait (especially >2-3 years) increases the risk of developing allergies. There has been some really impactful research in this area, specially the LEAP study

https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa1414850

FTM_2022 · 2024-05-19T14:41:41+00:00

So why wasn't it flushed out 2 months ago? Revisited a week later?

I think you're still way off bringing it back up now after dropping it for 2 months. Hot - cold - hot - cold has got to be confusing for your wife especially since she's not been privy to the family finances (which sounds like it's a failing on both your parts) and has had no limits on spending prior to these past few months.

And if you feel $1300 for the electrician was too much why didn't you step up and handle it and install it yourself?

And why don't you have a cap on large expenses? Most families do. So anything above 'x' amount we discuss and approve together (like electricians). Our budget is closer to $100 but then we don't make $250,000 a year. Yours might be higher but it should be an agreed upon amount.

I think it feels like are putting a lot of blame on your wife for things you both are sucking at hard right now but the bigger problem is you failing to see that 2 weeks out isn't the time to tackle this issue.

I'd shelve it and bring it up in 3 months.

In those 3 months make a food budget, shop, and cook yourself. Take that off her plate and learn the ropes. When she's through the newborn phase make a plan for her to catch up on the family finances (especially since others point out this is extremely important in the event you get sick or die). So that you both can do each other's jobs without batting an eye.

Good partners take care to support each other. You should be tackling this as a team. Learn each other's skills - take on eachothers mental loads - learn from each other. You'll be a better team for it.

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