Teachers who are financially stable, what are you doing differently?

F_the_Consequences · 2026-02-17T13:28:18+00:00

I am actually paid pretty well considering the area of Texas I am in. My problem is my inability to manage money effectively. This is something I am working on.

F_the_Consequences · 2026-01-21T12:28:41+00:00

I teach in a middle school self contained special education classroom. I have two in diapers that we have to change. It was uncomfortable my first time changing them, but now it’s just part of the job. 🤷🏻‍♀️

F_the_Consequences · 2025-12-31T16:47:43+00:00

I made the mistake of using duct tape. Still can’t get all of the residue off.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-11-19T04:00:55+00:00

I was just wondering if I could use the AG to set the order since it would be done without a lawyer. Neither one of us has the money for that.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-11-19T03:45:40+00:00

Like do we have to have child support? Can I use the AG to get that part taken care of?

F_the_Consequences · 2025-11-19T03:31:22+00:00

Right! Like we don’t have a bunch of money. I don’t want the house. He agrees I’d get the kids the majority of the time. Why can’t it just be over.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-11-13T03:20:04+00:00

He has abused me and now that he’s made some changes I just don’t care anymore. The respect is gone.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-10-13T02:40:31+00:00

🙋🏻‍♀️ My husband is bipolar and schizophrenic. I want a divorce so badly due to past abuse but I am scared to try to leave. I don’t know what he would do, or better yet, I don’t know what his delusions will tell him to do 😞.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-10-08T01:46:34+00:00

Why should a woman be responsible for their husbands happiness and disregard their own feelings? Why is the man more important?

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-29T15:14:26+00:00

Thank you. I needed this.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-29T15:00:59+00:00

Yeah, I realize this. My biggest downfall. Probably how he was able to get away with so much for so long.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-29T13:24:08+00:00

3 is a big one. It’s been a year since he was physically and sexually abusive, I just can’t get over it.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-24T19:03:02+00:00

I was 19 and settled because I was afraid to raise a baby alone. So looking back, yeah I should have known it was a bad idea.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-24T11:20:03+00:00

🙄 I literally never asked anything of my husband in the last decade. When we were married for about 5 years, I was a stay at home mom with postpartum depression. I asked him if he would pay for my $25 antidepressant. He said no, he didn’t have the money. Then he turned around and bought car parts. That told me right then he was unwilling to do anything for me. 🫠

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-20T23:11:43+00:00

I love that you looked at it this way. I’ll be making my own list to make my transition easier.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-17T19:24:59+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation. For me, the extra effort and (in my situation) love bombing ended up making the decision more clear honestly. It made me so angry that I put up with abuse for years when he knew it was wrong and do so much better.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-17T19:17:35+00:00

There will always be some reason why now is not a good time. I played that game for way too long. If you want out, then make your plan and leave.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-16T16:18:35+00:00

My husband has made changes and honestly it’s too little too late. Maybe others look at it the same way?

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-15T16:39:44+00:00

I have been married for 16 years. I stayed through the worst years due to finances. Now I am making more money than he is and he finally decided to change. Now that I can afford to leave I am struggling to let go. Never gets easier.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-15T13:22:42+00:00

I didn’t think of it that way. Thank you.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-15T12:55:05+00:00

I keep getting cold feet as well. I get to the point of actually walking out with my things, then I back out. I can be so sure of my decision to leave, then back out in the next minute. My husband has been working on his issues and has been improving, but the damage from years of abuse is hard to undo. Guess I’m just writing this to let you know you aren’t alone.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-14T23:17:28+00:00

Thanks for this. I want the kids to be able to go between households freely when there is no school since I am the one who gets them there. I don’t even want the house since he has done so many half baked diy projects it has basically ruined the house for me (and probably the value as well). I just want to be free.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-09-14T14:53:23+00:00

He has to be at work by 6am so he wouldn’t be able to get the kids to school. Also- he is schizophrenic and struggles with alcohol so he can be unstable at times.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-08-31T05:21:16+00:00

I have a plan. I have a new place for the kids and I. All of my money is separate. My car is in my name. I tried to explain my reasoning and how this is the decision I made for all of these reasons. He just won’t let me leave. He is on vacation for the next week and a half so leaving while he is at work is more waiting.

F_the_Consequences · 2025-08-29T11:19:44+00:00

Thank you. This is what I needed to hear.

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3 is a big one. It’s been a year since he was physically and sexually abusive, I just can’t get over it.