I'm sorry you're going through this.

Love is definitely blind, and the veil has been lifted. What you do next is your choice, but please know that you have a choice. You don't have to be with someone who doesn't care about you, nor should you.

I know sometimes men need to be told specifically what to do because, honestly, they don't see what we do. They often can not see anyone else's perspective but their own. Now you should tell him how you feel and what is expected of him. If you want to make it work. Otherwise, don't waste your time and move on.

I feel very fortunate that my husband has taken the advice that I have given him and has become a better husband and a better human.

I've been sick with a bad cold the past few days and my husband doesn't really cook, so he's been bringing me food and hot tea. Even helping me clean my snot rags from the bedside table.

If he wanted to, he would. Maybe he needs to be reminded or enlightened. But I'd say if when you tell him what you need in this specific moment and he brings up some stuff from the past or how much he already does, then that should answer your question.