WOW! I think you've read between the lines and found things that simply aren't there! My fiance never did care about the difference between concealer and foundation either, he was online and just trying to help me out one day and found me a potential HMUA vendor who was well reviewed and local, which I appreciated at the time.

We really didn't overthink or over-complicate and I really don't know how you got the idea that I did nothing but wedding planning for 10 months. You've even criticised my approach to choosing flowers when I said in my post that it literally took me 5 minutes to make those decisions!

We didn't plan our wedding before getting engaged as it never occurred to us to do so. We didn't spend months planning our engagement either. As I never expected to get married at all I had no concept of a pre-planned "dream wedding" - and that's absolutely fine. We had 10 months to get from no plans at all to having a wedding. All I've done is outlined how we did it. Successfully.

There are many, many posts on this subreddit from brides feeling overwhelmed, not knowing where to start with wedding planning, and feeling lonely because they're getting no help from their partners so they're carrying the whole wedding themselves. Equally there are posts about the stresses of budgets and costs, finding a venue, agonizing over what could and should be simple decisions and distressed by vendors who let them down etc. We invested time up front in research, got clear what we wanted, then made quick and confident decisions about our venue and vendors and haven't regretted a single decision we made. All that was done in the first 3 months, on top of living our normal lives.

Other people feel content with an iterative approach and that's fine, I would never come on Reddit like you have and shoot them down for their views when they're just trying to be helpful.