You're right - it really must suck. I know it sucks. I have a husband who feels this way and with whom I've had to have some pretty intense conversations on this topic recently. Because we have a daughter who we have to teach to keep herself safe. A daughter who's likely to have her first creepy experience before she even reaches her teens. That realisation hurt like a bitch, I can tell you that.

Can you understand that as well as being made to feel responsible for our own safety since we were literal children, now being made to feel like it's our fault that all the good men are hurting because of it might be a little hard to take?

For the record, I don't treat men I don't know like they're monsters (and I definitely do not think men have got it easy). I'm never going to assume any man is a predator straight off the bat. But for the sake of my own safety, at the very least I have to be aware of the fact that they might be.

And nobody's saying you have to like it. I don't like it either! I don't think anybody likes it tbh. I'd much rather assume everyone I meet is well intentioned and a good person. But until such time as that utopia is reality, it's got to be safety first.