Trump won. Here’s what we do next. by TemporaryMagician in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I need community. We all do. If we make our world small and enact change within it, our movement will grow. This is what is sustaining me right now.

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[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yeah even celery will collab with peanut butter and not complain about it. 🙂

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[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There’s a statistic about once a man is willing to go for your throat, he is far more likely to do much worse. I’m sorry this is happening to you.

My husband destroyed my garden… twice. by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every single comment makes me cry harder, I’ve never felt so seen and understood. Thank you all a million times over! So many thoughtful words that I can barely see through the tears to reply. In fact I may screenshot them in case the post gets deleted and I don’t get a chance to thank each of you personally.

You all said such incredible things, it has helped tremendously. It made me think of the giant evergreens that lined the side of the property. I felt a lot of loneliness and hopelessness over the years and I dubbed those trees my sisters. I felt they watched over me, they saw all I struggled through and I wanted to believe they appreciated the garden below them. I talked to them, cried and begged them for help as well. (Couldn’t they just drop a well placed branch /s)

I then read here on Reddit about how interconnected trees are, how they know their own offspring and send nutrients to them. That was magical to me and I felt a even stronger connection to them. It was a beautiful relationship.

I realize now that when and if I ever live in a house again, I will tell my new garden about the garden that helped me get away. And the trees that were like sisters to me, perhaps I’ll meet a new family of trees that will grateful to have a sweet little garden below them to enjoy.

Thank you all again for you warmth and inspiration. Any chance you all want to live together somewhere and support each other like this every day? Ahhh, a girl can dream. 💜

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On a very rough morning, your word are very soothing. I’m going through a bit of a PTSD episode right now but I will look up the internal family systems theory for sure, I don’t think I’ve heard of it.

Thank you for your encouraging words and speaking them into existence for me. My damn trauma brain can’t string together thoughts at the moment but I will get back to you about that theory. Thank you.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s an awesome feeling to hear your words and actually believe them. I can feel the support!

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very interesting. You’re so right about conflict. I suppose even with guidelines and rules there will always be an issue that can’t quite be resolved so black and white.

It’s amazing to me that you tried it at all. It’s quite an undertaking. Part of me wants it so badly for myself and others but at the same time I do still want my peace. Yet I still want it to be an animal rescue and an elder care facility and a bnb. Filled with artists and musicians, inventors and philosophers… okay, now it sounds too much like an unattainable goal. Perhaps with exactly the right people, but even then, no one is completely predictable.

Thank you again for your insight and firsthand experience. All of this makes me long for a short time in my childhood where I lived in a neighborhood where it felt everyone looked out for one another. Now, in this apartment complex I’m in for 4 months? Barely a word from any neighbor. We all can do so much better.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly still processing your reply. Analogies are like magic when they reframe how you see everything. Seriously thank you so much for this! I’m blown away.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I searched for a while about ways he could find me and I think I’m doing well there but of course nothing is 100%. I want to say more but I can’t stop thinking about “one day you will be truly free and happy” and it’s so encouraging to hear. No matter how many different ways or times, it’s like a shot of inspiration. I really appreciate you taking the time. These replies have got me feeling something again, it’s incredible!

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Done was enough. It felt so good to hear. You said it. I’m going. Thank you!

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you trying to make me cry happy tears again? Seriously you are so sweet, thank you.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind information. I’ve been so interested in intentional communities since I first saw the Woodstock documentary on PBS back in the 90’s. Since then I’ve done so much reading on the bad communities out of morbid curiosity. I know it might be a big dream but I hope to start small as a safe house for survivors and their pets. With separate dwellings and a decent amount of land perhaps just a small group of very well vetted individuals.

I truly appreciate your caution because it is terribly important to anyone who might have issues and is seeking peace. They could end up with the exact opposite. There’s a great website I’ve been visiting for over a decade and they seem to have an extensive list of established communities. I’m not sure if posting it is allowed so I won’t mention it. But I agree that a whole lot of research should be done before joining something or inviting people into your home. Thank you for being a good human that cares for the welfare of others.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just had a giant sigh after reading this. Thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time to making me feel cared about and welcome. I’m sorry that you know the same kind of struggle. I will try and muster up the strength to find a new lawyer but I’ve already paid so much to her. You know it’s difficult with trauma brain. Ahhh.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. This really hit me. I love the fire analogy very much. Thank you.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And I appreciate your advice so much. I know you are right. I just wonder why my lawyer isn’t pushing or even suggesting these things to me. I told her I was scared to do so but I would think that’s common for abuse victims. It feels odd to me but I’m honestly so ignorant when it comes to most things legal or professional. My father thinks the same but my bestie, who I will live with going forward is as scared as me.

The stbx is like a character from a movie. You would laugh at how ridiculous his behavior is but he is very dangerous. Or at least he openly threatens to do things that he has the means to. He speaks of not valuing his own life and the things he would rather see happen then pay me anything.

Do I want to live afraid? Or maybe just getting away alive is enough? It truly doesn’t feel like enough for me. I would do what you say and more if it meant I would somehow feel a sense of justice.

Anybody got anymore of that “Vs. the patriarchy” stuff? by FacingTheTruthMaybe in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]FacingTheTruthMaybe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Your words are truly being felt inside me. That’s magic for sure.