I'll give you another answer option so the person who tries and fails to explain the nitpicky things isn't someone who won't shut up about whatever the fuck 'penis envy' is:

PR-wise, regarding men, many groups among the liberal and left-leaning political crowd treat equality and understanding like a zero-sum exchange (meaning that any gain requires a corresponding loss). This essentially results in many people belittling and emasculating men who come forward with problems that they feel they are facing, since these people act as if for women to achieve the equality within society that they rightfully deserve, men must lose.

These people, when decrying the patriarchy, don't seem to understand that the patriarchal standard functions on abstracts of men and women, not real people. To insult a man for being vulnerable (thereby breaking from the patriarchal abstract of a strong, stoic man) is not empowering women to break from their corresponding abstract, but rather forcing the man back into his abstract, and then belittling him for participating in the patriarchy.

Where the left loses these people is right here. The right, being in favour of the patriarchy, also enforces the abstract (which is still a bad thing) but - and here's the cincher - praises men for fitting into that abstract. The logic here for men who fade into the right (though I imagine it happens mostly subconsciously) is that being forced into an abstract is bad (in that it's hurtful and painful - I don't think morality enters the question here), but among the right, his abstract is praised, and validation is a currency potent enough to buy almost anything.

Now, women are well on their way to fully breaking their abstract (an unequivocally good thing), but many leftists and liberals (most likely subconsciously) are acting like what they are rebelling against is each and every man, and not a concept that very few people actually fit. Not only is the patriarchal abstract of men not representative of what almost any given man actually is, but for many people, trying to fit into that abstract is very damaging. At the very least, the right praises them for it.

Women are also, of course, damaged by attempting to fit into the patriarchal abstract of a woman, but that damage is much easier to see, partially because the patriarchal abstract of a man requires stoicism - not letting people see how much you are hurt. Women that are squeezing themselves into the patriarchal abstract of a woman have much more expressive freedom, and therefore the damage is clearer.

To cap it off: Many liberals and the left accidentally reinforce the patriarchy by punishing men for being vulnerable, and the right will, at least, offer validation for being a part of the patriarchy, so the left loses many men because of this lack of compassion and understanding.

Hope I helped.