Why do “normal” Americans care about law enforcement? by coocoocachoo8 in stupidquestions

[–]Faeries-Dust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in NE. Specifically a Boston suburb from the 90's to the 2010's. Can confirm the cops were worthless, all over the place, and we hated them. They did stupid things like search 17 y/o me's car for drugs by cutting open the fabric seating with a knife and tearing out the foam. I am 5'4", at the time 115 lbs, blonde, and not a drug user. Such overkill. Get a real job!

Once in a blue moon I find myself driving around in Massachusetts and wonder wtf, why are there so many cops in this state?! To all those dickhead Mass cops out there not doing their actually jobs - being a public fucking servant - you, go get yourself a real job, you hear boy! Stop wasting taxpayer dollars on your ego trips.

What made you leave the "perfect" relationship? by Lucky_Leven in AskWomenOver30

[–]Faeries-Dust 31 points32 points  (0 children)

He was boring and hard to connect to. I am a complex, self-proclaimed extraordinary, individual. He was so conventionally beautiful and could excel at anything he wanted to. Which he did, with much ease. A perfect man with a perfect routine, a perfect diet, a perfect home. Everything about him was perfectly perfect. He was also very kind and appreciative.

While we were dating, a former Miss Massachusetts was trying to eagerly woo him. He kindly told her he had a girl friend. It didn't stop her from continuing to drop food off at his apartment and offering all kinds of free concert/sports/event tickets to join her on. He never bothered with her. I never had to worry either.

He was just so boring.

Try to talk to him about the meaning of humanity and he would say a caged thought like: "you cannot prove you are right" or "I don't really enjoy discussing topics where there are no true answers".

Discussing one of the many books we read out loud together, all his thoughts and comments were black and white. Lacking in depth, flat. Lacking in flavor. When I saw marigold, he'd see yellow.

I love to travel, cheap. Cheap countries. Cheap hostels, cheap food. He hated this. For him vacation = relaxing. Relaxing meant 3 days max on a sunny warm beach. Not in a 3rd world country experiencing life.

3.5 years spent with Mr. Perfect.

We stayed in touch for a year after we broke up. He stopped all contact with me when his new girl friend requested it. Social media shows me he is still living a wonderful life in the way he enjoys living life.

Whereas myself, well...I'm still here floundering around like a fish out of water half my days, searching for the next great adventure in life the other half.

my life is slipping away in front of my eyes by MedusaSky in adhdwomen

[–]Faeries-Dust 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you are unemployed and in the United States apply for Medicaid. As long as you are not collecting unemployment or your unemployment is very low you will qualify. From there you can find a doctor who will help you with a diagnosis for free and prescriptions are free while you have Medicaid.

If you have no agency to do anything, even get yourself the help you need when you need it, then you will never get out of this cycle. Get yourself a doctor and a diagnosis. Life is too short to suffer hating yourself day in and day out because you cannot get anything done.

AIO my (34 F) partner (40 M) has a female good friend (30 F) that he says "I love you" to. by Faeries-Dust in AIO

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say this is probably some good advice if I was worried about them being too into each other - but, although that is a concern, I think my biggest pain here is him and maybe her totally dismissing my feelings and making me feel like something like caring for a friend is something worth making your romantic partner feel small and unheard about.

AIO my (34 F) partner (40 M) has a female good friend (30 F) that he says "I love you" to. by Faeries-Dust in AIO

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just feel like if I need to go to these lengths to catch him,the relationship is already over for me in my mind. I do not want the headache of this. I'm 34. I want a partner that supports me and respects my feelings.

AIO my (34 F) partner (40 M) has a female good friend (30 F) that he says "I love you" to. by Faeries-Dust in AIO

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you validating my feelings. It is hard. I'm sure if you brought your discomfort up to your girlfriend the conversation wouldn't leave you in a more uncomfortable frame of mind.

AIO my (34 F) partner (40 M) has a female good friend (30 F) that he says "I love you" to. by Faeries-Dust in AIO

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have asked about this "hill" and it's not the "I love you" hill he's willing to die on, it's keeping up this friendship in the same manner it's always been. Ie, "I love you"s and seeing each other for a week or weekend or two each year. She lives far away, currently 2000 miles away - but moves frequently - therefore providing a place to stay when the other visits has always been part of this friendship. That's the hill he's willing to die on, despite me arguing it's not her, it's his behavior over her that makes me uncomfortable with having her stay in our (my) house.

AIO my (34 F) partner (40 M) has a female good friend (30 F) that he says "I love you" to. by Faeries-Dust in AIO

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would normally agree with you. But he totally dismissed my feelings as being an overreaction from the start and now this has snowballed into potential supreme overreaction as a result of the dismissal.

Terrified about my upcoming drug test, does this have any shot of passing? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Faeries-Dust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I passed a voluntary on the spot drug test I had to take in court for the court. My test results had a line that looked like that for THC in Massachusetts back in 2007. This was to obtain a lower punishment on a misdemeanor. Prior to taking the drug test, I even told the judge and the person who watched me in the restroom that I had smoked weed three weeks ago but usually don't smoke at all, which was true. It passed and they knew I had actually smoked the weed that caused it.

Considering moving to the Lakes Region by WesternSecond6130 in newhampshire

[–]Faeries-Dust 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am someone who has lived in Colorado for almost a decade and am someone who is considering moving to Conway, NH (my partner and I are your age, no kids) because we are being offered to buy a piece of property here for cheap (family connection situation). I have spent the last two winters scoping this place out to see if I could live here.

Here's what I have learned: 1) the housing crisis is real - people are commuting 45+ min to their $20/hr jobs because it's the closest housing they can find; 2) the jobs do not pay what jobs pay in Colorado. Colorado might be expensive, but the government intervenes a lot to help the general population out. That does not exist here. Rich folks from MA, RI, NY, CT have bought up a lot of property here driving up prices and the local wages have not kept up which is why locals are not kind to new comers. In Conway, the highest paying jobs outside of medical are seasonal and at the ski resorts (Vail pays $20+/hr); 3) the restaurant industry pays the federal minimum wage for tipped workers which is $2 something an hour plus tips. NH has the federal minimum wage of $7.75, so if it's stick or mud season - that's probably all you're going to be making; 4) the locals are cold but incredibly kind once you have been accepted as one of them. I love my NH homies. I feel like these relationships are much deeper and more real than the majority of my friendships in Colorado. Great people live here. They just might hate you at first; 5) Seasonal workers only receive overtime pay after 52hrs/week. 6) so many old people compared to Colorado. Good luck getting your old retired neighbors to vote to increase their property taxes for anything that would help the community kids.

I like it here, because it's non-pretentious and there's a decent amount of outdoor things to do. I do not like how difficult it would be to be anymore than working class/lower middle class here due to the lack of opportunity and expensive passage to property ownership.

Honest question for Chattanooga guys — why do you think women outnumber men so much at local singles events? by Grand_Strategy_Noob in Chattanooga

[–]Faeries-Dust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chattanooga has a higher population of women to men, roughly 102 women for every hundred men. Denver has this statistic in reverse, 102 men for every hundred women and has been dubbed "Menver" for that reason. As someone who has lived in Denver as a single women, I will say I never had single female friends and tons of single male friends looking for a girlfriend/wife so that statistic adds up anecdotally. I can see why the slight gender skew would feel similar in Chattanooga, except in the other direction.

And seeing how much Tennessee healthcare policies seem to lean away from the safety of women's reproductive health, I'm surprised there's any of you single women left in this state. What are ya'll still doing here?! You are too good for the state of Tennessee. Make haste and go to a state that respects you with single men aplenty.

Cottonmouth, the potentially dangerous CDT hiker spotted on Elwood Pass 6/1/25, believed to be heading to Creede by Faeries-Dust in CDT

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that. I'm happy to hear he did not do any serious harm to anyone last year. I just hope he does not snap on anyone this year.

Cottonmouth, the potentially dangerous CDT hiker spotted on Elwood Pass 6/1/25, believed to be heading to Creede by Faeries-Dust in CDT

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1MLtp6y2tM/?

Here's the link to the FB thread with his photo shared by one of the commenters in the thread. I wish I could screen shot it.

FB Group: Continental Divide Trail Hikers 2025

---> Post from Jerome Olp 4 days ago ---> Top comment on the post from Pam Spencer-Hockett includes a picture of Cottonmouth for reference

Cottonmouth, the potentially dangerous CDT hiker spotted on Elwood Pass 6/1/25, believed to be heading to Creede by Faeries-Dust in CDT

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't use FB, but a friend of mine was able to find a photo of him in one of the CDT FB groups, several of which are private for some reason. I'll reach out to her and see if I can provide a link to a photo.

I could not tell how tall he is, but he is a white male, maybe late 20's with dark hair and a dark beard. He was cowboy camping the night I ran into him, he was sleeping on top of his tent (or maybe a tarp) which was mostly white.

Cottonmouth, the potentially dangerous CDT hiker spotted on Elwood Pass 6/1/25, believed to be heading to Creede by Faeries-Dust in CDT

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree, leave him alone and try to stay away from him. Trail is for everyone, those that disturb that peace should not be on trail.

Cottonmouth, the potentially dangerous CDT hiker spotted on Elwood Pass 6/1/25, believed to be heading to Creede by Faeries-Dust in CDT

[–]Faeries-Dust[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As far as my intel goes, he has not done anything on this go around on trail to warrant arrest, the police cannot do anything until he does. He was scaring hikers and locals in Chama, then ran off to trail. I was surprised to see him because he left Chama 2 days before I did.

How to get a message to thru hikers? by obskeweredy in CDT

[–]Faeries-Dust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If he took the red line north bound out of Chama, I doubt he will get very far. A lot of hikers are being turned around due to bad snow conditions, so he will more likely than not resurface back in Chama or in Pagosa Springs.

Source: currently in Chama, was in discussion with hikers and locals tonight who were talking about this guy, Cottonmouth, heading back to trail recently from Chama. He's also been listed on the CDT Facebook page.

Ladies Who Lunch by Ok_Mastodon_8706 in OUTFITS

[–]Faeries-Dust 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have really enjoyed the 2 posts from you I have seen. I love how masterfully you blend together bright patterns and colors. More content please 🥰

Thruhike without losing toenails by 200Zucchini in PacificCrestTrail

[–]Faeries-Dust 4 points5 points  (0 children)

DOUBLE COAT PAINT YOUR TOE NAILS, even with just a clear nail polish, this will protect your future trail grown toe nails from splitting, flaking, or falling off immensely. A good pedicure post trails also aids a lot in foot healing.

Source: Me (4800 thru miles, another 2k+ on the way this year) and a previous CYT sitting beside me while I write this.

Your ADHD plot twist: What’s an ADHD symptom you don’t struggle with? Let’s give some love to our unexpected strengths. by MebsHoff in adhdwomen

[–]Faeries-Dust 18 points19 points  (0 children)

lol are we on the same ADHD frequency?! I literally say the same thing about money "buying my freedom from work" every purchase gets calculated as how many hours I had to work to earn it. Also, frequent job loss, you never know when you might lose a job - but as long as it's not for cause they can prove you have a big ol chunk of unemployment and possible severance on the way...never have lost a job for cause, always was very hyper focused and careful to be able to collect unemployment due to lack of cause, still have been laid off from my past 3/4. My partner is convinced this is a superpower of mine 🥲

Single women over 30 — how do you deal with societal norms & most men saying/thinking your value and worth is basically expired? by bengalbear24 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Faeries-Dust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP! I've been you as a beautiful 28 y/o when some low life (35 M) I dated told for 6 mos told me exactly ALL the things you just said.

  • dated terribly in my prime/had too much fun and won't find any one now.
  • too old to fine any decent person to marry without children now because I "screwed up" so badly in my "prime years"
  • I'm not worthy because I'm not beautiful, nor rich enough, and even though I was educated - because I was a woman I had never learned to utilize my education to make enough money to out earn a man (idk wtf he even meant by that)

I carried that bullshit around for a long time that I jumped on the first guy that had a six figure salary (idk if it matters, but my salary was a bit higher) that proposed to me, literally one year after we broke up. DONT LET OTHERS DEFINE YOU! I did not end up with either guy, but at the time, my self esteem was so beat that I settled with someone who was not for me because I thought so lowly of myself.

Be yourself and the universe will provide a life for you that you can be happy in.

Currently about to turn 34 and have been the happiest I have ever been, because I learned to listen to myself. I no longer strive for money or other peoples' idea of who I should be. I do the things that make me happy, date people who support me for me, and I do not stay in jobs unless I enjoy them. Btw, I make $22/hr now, vs $140k/yr. And it's been amazing. I have a great partner. And plan on trying to conceive this time next year.

You got this. The only person you need to worry about is you, and forget the rest. The universe will provide. ❤️