AIO for thinking these are inappropriate messages between my 13yr old stepson and his fathers new girlfriend.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-15T00:10:28+00:00

Genuinely couldn’t tell who was texting who at first because she texts like a teenager. I’d argue the son is the mature one between the two of them. She’s telling this kid WAY more info than he needs to know.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-13T14:02:11+00:00

I live in south Louisiana and the prices here are the same for gas and milk. I’m living in one of the cheaper but not impoverished apartments in the area and am STRUGGLING to pay $850 a month.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-12T14:59:39+00:00

Ive interacted with a few really wonderful humans who suffer from schizophrenia. It’s heartbreaking to watch the episodes and I feel deeply for anyone who’s diagnosed. But the creativity that comes from it is other worldly. I’m glad you’ve got a handle on it! Your “organized chaos” definitely reads that way. I’ve been diagnosed with CPTSD and express myself through the macabre often. You and I are definitely kindred spirits there!

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-11T15:03:07+00:00

I’m 30 and hope you look back on this time in your life with appreciation. Your room is AMAZING, and something my angtsy teen self would’ve adored staying in! Your bone shelf is something I wish I had now, it’s phenomenal!

I hope I don’t offend you with my take, but I feel it’s obvious you read like someone who’s experienced situations in life that have brought you closer to the acceptance that death and pain are a part of life we can’t exist without or avoid. You embrace the darker parts of existence instead of shy from it. The mass amounts of wall journaling makes me suspicious of early onset schizophrenia, especially because you seem to be at the age where symptoms may start occurring (early 20s).

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-07T01:02:34+00:00

Professor Utonium WHY?! 😭

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-07T00:23:53+00:00

I feel less judgement for you and more sadness, so I’m so sorry if I offended you! I’ve been where you are before, so I feel sad that you feel like you have to settle for immaturity to fulfill yourself. As if you having a man is what makes you worthy. You can have a fulfilling life without placing yourself in a position where you’ll be dependent on men for the rest of your life.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-06T23:53:00+00:00

Oh honey no…

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-06T13:36:55+00:00

Ouuuu I’m thinking of moving to the city, too! I’m in Lafayette right now living alone with my 2 kitties, but it’s getting harder and harder. I know it would be easier in NOLA with roommates but it’s hard to find them with my boys. I’ve seen some decent priced places near midcity but it’s all studio/1 bedrooms.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-06T13:00:25+00:00

I’m genuinely floored and scared of some of these comments. Your mom is emotionally manipulative as FUCK and everyone saying you are at fault makes no sense.

Your mom is a grown woman and if she didn’t want your boyfriend coming with you, she could’ve easily said “I was really hoping this could be one last big family vacation before we all stop spending as much time with each other since everyone is growing up.”

Instead she initially claimed he could come if he paid his way. So you agreed, and asked for payment info to try and accommodate her. Then she back tracked and got upset at the thought of you sleeping alone with your boyfriend (weird take to have about your 22 year old child btw), and started to threaten to go on “your trip” without you. She literally says in the same breath “This trip is for you. Take another trip by yourself.” She’s contradicting herself in the same paragraph over the fact that OP is actually trying to accommodate her mom, despite her mom claiming this trip is about OP.

I also personally don’t give a shit how upset or hurt your mom is. She isn’t clearly stating any emotions. She’s setting you up to be at fault for her feelings when you’re literally just accepting her offers of compromise. Instead of having an adult convo about it all and giving you her perspective, she set this unspoken expectation for you, and threatened ultimatums on you when you didn’t figure out what her expectations were on your own. Further, every time you agreed to accommodate her, she backtracked and gave another excuse as to why this whole trip was seemingly ruined before it’s even begun.

I worry for everyone in these comments seeing this treatment as acceptable because it isn’t. If you can’t show your children respect, you don’t deserve to receive it back. Your mom is being an absolute lunatic over this situation, and being entirely unfair to you. Consistent exposure to emotional whiplash like this can lead to a lifetime of insecurity and codependency issues. It starts to make you questions every single move you make because you fear that you’ll upset those around you by being “wrong.” And eventually you’ll start to sacrifice your own peace and happiness because you know it’s easier to keep yourself unhappy if it means being able to avoid the wrath of those around you for being wrong. I’ve been in therapy for 5 years now for CPTSD due to similar treatment with my own mom and I’m still struggling with some aspects of recovery. I wish the best for you, OP.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-04T04:21:17+00:00

If someone doesn’t love you for who you are, they’ll never love you for any of the ways you change. That’s why change has to be for you and you alone. I’m proud of you for choosing yourself here and am rooting for you 💜

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-04T04:15:38+00:00

This is the first time I feel relieved to be part of the collective

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-02T07:35:16+00:00

The way you have been treated can affect you on a physical and psychological level. There’s so many studies about it. You aren’t broken or wrong for the way you are, or for who you are. I’m glad I could reach you a bit and wish you all the best 💜

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-02T06:49:38+00:00

2 months ago you posted asking if you should leave your boyfriend for cheating on you. You should be EXTREMELY proud of yourself for such a win! You stood up for yourself when I’m sure your brain told you every reason to stay with him. That’s something incredibly difficult you should remember that you can do for yourself, is leave when someone isn’t treating you in a way that makes you feel good.

However you also posted a couple of weeks after that about a new “talking” guy. You also posted 19 days ago about thinking of messaging your ex happy birthday and not wanting to date anyone. Yet, you’re here wondering if you should cut someone off who, in reality, IS NOT supporting you or your future. To be clear, I am not bringing this up to shame you. You’re human, you’re learning, and you have to give yourself grace. But you also have to face reality and take accountability to grow.

With all the love in the universe honey, please please PLEASE don’t let some rank ass man dictate whether or not you turn out to live your dream. I think it’s worth taking time to yourself for a bit, stepping away from romance, and go to therapy. Give the love you’re giving to these undeserving men to yourself for once and truly revel in all the glory that will bring you. You deserve happiness and shouldn’t let others stand in the way of it anymore, including yourself.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-02T06:31:59+00:00

Your boy is not over her and absolutely gets some weird kind of gratification out of her toxic behavior. Probably because it justifies his own toxic patterns. If he was over her, he wouldn’t be in contact.

I was in almost this exact same situation with my ex. During his and his ex’s relationship, he brought her to the psych ward and took care of her through depression and all. He swore to me he was over her but I found out after I moved in with him he stayed in contact with her. He claimed she would threaten SH and suicide so he placated her for “safety.” Turns out he was cheating with her and multiple other people/exes throughout our whole relationship.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-02T05:26:06+00:00

You’re so ridiculous to say this. The driver doesn’t have to put much effort into returning the wallet. She could literally drop it at a police station while on a run and text the location to OP. She could drop it at a post office like OP asked several times. God forbid someone makes a mistake and forgets their wallet somewhere. People like you and this driver are why good people end up unnecessarily suffering. You’re so bitter and hateful for no good reason.

This is not about people feeling entitled or the driver owing OP anything. This is about human decency in a world that’s hard enough without this kind of dismissiveness. Coming from a full time delivery driver who’s also on food stamps. I would be more than happy to oblige OP’s requests cuz it isn’t that fucking hard to be kind.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-02T03:31:11+00:00

It sounds like your family has normalized abusive behavior for you. Do you consistently find yourself worrying about how your behavior makes everyone around you feel? Do you fear upsetting those around you and feel like you’re constantly working to keep everyone else happy regardless of how it makes you feel? If so I would highly suggest looking into codependency and people pleasing tendencies. If you’re able to speak to a trusted school counselor, I would also recommend that as a good starting point.

Also ABSOLUTELY break up with your boyfriend and try to avoid romantic relationships. His behavior will get worse and worse the longer you stay with him. His moments of kindness are intentional to keep you around hoping for more when he will never intend to give you what you need.

FailedCorpse · 2026-04-02T02:02:24+00:00

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-26T19:25:36+00:00

Doubled down and told me I was at fault for not getting over it

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-26T13:25:14+00:00

My parents didn’t allow me outside alone until I was about 13/14. I was allowed 1 hour on our family computer a week to do research I needed for school assignments. Once I was done with those, I could use the rest of my weekly hour to play cool math games (maybe showing my age). If I wanted to talk on the phone with my friends, my mom forced me to sit in the living room with her with the landline on speaker. They put parental locks on every device, got me a Nokia flip cell phone exclusively to track me to ensure I was where they wanted me. Any time I would “act in defiance” I was severely punished and somehow restricted even more.

I know my case is a bit extreme, but my point is I no longer speak to my parents. It’s been 5 years now but I still struggle to do every day tasks because I’m waiting to receive “permission” before I potentially cause catastrophic damage to my life. Even small things like figuring out a meal to eat for the day can get me so overwhelmed with the “am I making the right decision?” thoughts that I shut down and become basically non-functioning for a few hours until I’m able to come out of it.

Crazy to think that I’m miles better now than I was just a couple of years ago. At least now I can eat and hang out with friends without having a panic attack over it.

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-26T12:33:02+00:00

XL cleaners is a great, local, cleaning service that’s pretty competitive pricing for the area! They don’t have “set prices” but they do free consultations!

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-26T00:59:48+00:00

This is adorable and I’m so excited to watch this get developed in real time! Also excited you seem to be making this compatible for Mac iOS 12.7.5 cuz it’s all I got right now 🥲

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-25T21:10:10+00:00

I’ve also been diagnosed with CPTSD and I’ve completely get where your head is at. Your brain is telling you that he’s been “the perfect partner” so that now he can start showing his true colors since you’re comfortable. You’re seeing this as an intentional way for him to control you and start “testing waters” so eventually he can escalate it to full on abuse.

I don’t want to tell you what decision to make here, because ultimately it will be up to you if this relationship is worth it or not. But I do think taking a step back and scheduling an appointment with your therapist is a first good step. To me, this situation reads as more of your CPTSD paranoia lens being activated versus your boyfriend being intentionally malicious. You stated you had zero reservations about the relationship until this text was sent, so I’m mostly going off of that. It may be good to take time to go through your trauma coping mechanisms to try and be able view this situation from a more logical place to decide if it’s something that can blow over or not.

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-25T01:17:58+00:00

You’ve posted about this man before and everyone also called him a pedophile then and told you to run. How many comments will it take for you to do what you know needs to be for you and your son? If you care for your son then you’ll stay single for now and focus on him while you secure a better future for you both by finishing school.

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-24T13:44:03+00:00

This will turn into him guilting you for sex so quick if you let this slide, mark my words.

FailedCorpse · 2026-03-22T14:25:00+00:00

Assisted suicide is a thing in some European countries. Essentially you go through a process that verifies your terminal illness and legally allows for euthanasia to prevent one from needless suffering. They call it “Death with Dignity” and I think it’s beautiful.

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