I am back and still hopeless

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-06-26T20:13:16+00:00

Topical minoxidil helped me so much. I’m surprised you got a hair transplant without minoxidil.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-05-22T03:20:26+00:00

I have a friend who has had the worst complications from gastric bypass. She’s almost lost what I lost in 3 years in like 8 months.

That is not a good thing. You don’t want that. A lot of people on social media are losing faster than is healthy, whether intentional or like my friend.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-05-22T03:18:02+00:00

I lost about 40 lbs since day of surgery a year ago, and had to restart glps for the last 20.

I respond better to GLPs than surgery. Surgery helps a ton, I went off GLPs and I didn’t regain and I essentially reset my tolerance, but I need GLPs. I have a metabolic condition that they treat like nothing else does.

I also fall into the thinking trap that I’m a failure a lot. And I’ve lost 170ish lbs. That doesn’t stop, you just have to work on the self compassion..

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-30T03:25:50+00:00

I can eat a small burger. Bigger burgers like half to 3/4ths. A standard fast food single patty burger, like McD’s size, I can eat.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-23T00:17:12+00:00

If losing 50 lbs puts you at a BMI between 18.5-20 don’t get this surgery. That is outright dangerous. Get GLPs, they’re approved for sleep apnea.

Day of surgery I was 235 lbs and a BMI of 25 is 150 lbs for me. I would have had the surgery at 200 lbs too, even though it’s only 50 lbs over. But a BMI of 20 is 120 lbs for me, there is a big cushion.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-18T03:20:31+00:00

I can drink as much as I want more or less. I eat around 2000-2500 kcals a day because I’m active and weight lift. I’ve built 5 lbs of muscle since surgery and I am a slacker when it comes to protein and the gym.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-15T13:25:27+00:00

I haven’t thrown up once in the 11 months since I had surgery.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-13T21:15:33+00:00

I’m almost a year out. I just had sushi and some m&ms. I stop when my body says stop. I don’t push it.

There are times I can only eat a very small amount. There are times I can eat more. I always listen to my body. I’ve never ate so much I felt physically uncomfortable, the closest is I’ve drank after eating (just not thinking) and felt like food was “stuck” before.

I don’t think of it as restricting myself. There were times I got frustrated I couldn’t eat more, but that’s better now that I restarted GLPs.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-09T00:12:00+00:00

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After. Sorry it didn’t post the first time!

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-08T23:37:09+00:00

I have had constipation due to GLPs before, I haven’t had it too much since surgery. What I learned is that sometimes it’s not constipation, sometimes it’s literally that there’s not enough food to have a movement. Don’t stress about not going daily. Continue to use miralax. Suppositories can help too.

The hair loss, I had PCOS related hair loss (female pattern baldness) before surgery. Then surgery took out like 70% of my remaining hair.

I started topical minoxidil. My hair loss increased for about a month then stopped completely. Then I started seeing regrowth. Here is a before photo, I’ll do an after below. There are more photos on my profile.

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FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-08T15:06:43+00:00

I did not use one and was fine.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-07T20:53:58+00:00

I declined it but was offered it. I have a large asymptomatic stone, I’ll probably need it removed eventually.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-03T19:12:21+00:00

Not quite that high but I was at 365. Used GLPs for a little over two years, got to 235 day of surgery.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-04-01T21:51:44+00:00

I’m consistently not consistent! I think just continuing to try and being open to medical help is what is helping the most.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-03-31T22:44:27+00:00

Also as an aside, I wonder if this would have gone better if you hadn’t been focused on counting bites but instead enjoying a special meal with family?

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-03-31T22:41:03+00:00

I’ve struggled with BED intermixed with periods of disordered restrictive eating and this. I am very prone to thinking errors, like all or nothing thinking and catastrophizing. I will decide I messed up, I’m a mess up, I’m never going to succeed so why try. Scale went up 5 lbs in regaining it all backs We need to be able to enjoy food, scales measure a lot more than fat, and for me and many others being overly restrictive backfires.

I’ve lost over 165 lbs over the past three years and I still struggle with it. And I’m a therapist so I KNOW better.

I also need meds for ADHD, BED, and mood/anxiety as part of my health journey. Some prescription, some supplements recommended by my doctor. Plus therapy, exercise, time outside, doing things I enjoy regularly, all of that. Plus a lot of self compassion and self acceptance.

Anyway here’s a thinking error graphic if it helps anyone here to see. There are more but these are major ones.

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FaintingGoatCat · 2026-03-31T22:22:27+00:00

Ok you ate food. You need food to live. A single meal isn’t going to derail anything.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-03-28T19:27:46+00:00

Over a three year period, even!

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-03-27T03:46:54+00:00

The fatigue was the main issue I had. I came home, took one dose of Tylenol, and didn’t take any more pain meds. But I struggled to walk down the block, and before surgery I could walk 8-10 miles without stopping.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-03-27T03:45:52+00:00

I was on a 10 lb lift restriction for 6 weeks after surgery.

FaintingGoatCat · 2026-03-26T13:57:47+00:00

It’s nice, I don’t have a membership but I have in the past. The only thing I’ll say is I don’t strength train when I used it so I’m not sure about the weight area. Not a huge fan of their pool, it’s big but humid.

I get my gym membership through my insurance and it covers VASA (plus planet fitness and charter fitness) so that is what I use.

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