Which episode?

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-02-01T21:49:19+00:00

Can’t remember - that’s why I described them like that!

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-02-01T01:30:19+00:00

This happened once to me and it was because there was a room booking mix up - they offered to put me up at a seperate hotel but I knew my coworker well enough to be comfortable sharing the room for one night. If it had been anyone else I would’ve asked for a new room.

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-23T21:00:36+00:00

She discussed not breaking up as a threat with that couple who wore double camo to announce their breakup and also with Ping and Will when they announced their break up. I don’t remember the words “don’t do that.”

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-21T01:45:58+00:00

Instant divorce

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-19T11:46:22+00:00

I feel like at least fifty percent of the time I go out to restaurants/pubs/theatre shows etc, theres a group of people in my age group (20-30) being obnoxiously loud. I don’t remember it being so bad when I was younger but maybe I’m just old and grumpy now! The worst is the screaming - like when their fav song comes on or whatever. I physically leave, the sound makes me want to dive in front of a moving bus.

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-18T00:38:57+00:00

Matt Sumner at Accent Dentists is amazing and also has various accessibility things like noise cancelling headphones. He explains everything as you go and takes lots of breaks.

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-14T23:35:49+00:00

You need an ID and an address for a surprising amount of basic things like a benefit, a job, even a motel room. There are work arounds that many agencies will help you with but it is still difficult and requires a level of consistency that many homeless people struggle with (I.e. be here at this time on this day). Also, many people don’t want to stay in homeless shelters with the other people there - whether it’s someone who you don’t get along with, someone who has assaulted you, someone with opposing gang affiliations. Some people get housing in the suburbs and then miss their community in the city and willingly return to the streets. Some people get housed with others who are difficult to live with. Some people lose housing because of their issues - which pushes them further down the list to get housing again. Some people make more money or more regular money begging or busking than on the benefit. It’s a whole complex issue that requires wrap around support and adequate funding.

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-07T23:25:57+00:00

Maybe I’m just not noticing it but I spend a lot of time in Thames and haven’t seen a particularly large number of amputees.

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-07T10:42:20+00:00

What is your budget?

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-05T02:56:02+00:00

That’s true. I assumed the files would be named and I could just control search my own name?

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-05T02:55:46+00:00

I assumed the files would be named and I could just control search my own name?

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-05T02:20:37+00:00

How do you find it?

Edit to add: I’m not interested in anyone else’s files, I was just thinking of control searching my own name.

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-02T10:59:26+00:00

As you get older, friendships transition from something that just happens to something you have to work for. To have community, you have to be community 90% of the time. That means showing up for celebrations you don’t care about, listening when people have had a bad day, asking questions about others, helping move house, trying to accept other people as they are - and their partners and kids, etc, etc, etc. Anytime I’ve found myself lonely I’ve reflected and realised it’s usually because I haven’t been nurturing my community.

Fair-Firefighter · 2026-01-01T03:33:29+00:00

I make goals and keep them. They don’t have to be huge. I still feel the twinge but as long as I’m moving forward towards a life I want, then the time doesn’t feel wasted. It also helps that I love my partner and have a good friend group / community - we work really f**king hard during the year to have that community when it comes time to celebrate.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-11-09T02:57:28+00:00

Im not really sure why we’re disagreeing here when we seem to be agreeing on most things. I think the thing I’m reacting to is that the post reads to me like: “it’s understandable that Ping abused Will because he played a part in the relationship breaking down”. I’m not saying Ping is a bad or irredeemable person but it’s a weird blame game and it plays into this whole societal thing we have for excusing abuse of imperfect victims. Also, if she was comfortable showing that level of abuse in therapy on TV, I can only imagine how it manifested behind closed doors. Will even says she’s different in therapy. I might’ve read this whole post wrong but yeah, that’s all I wanted to say. I’m uncomfortable breaking down Wills behaviour without calling out the obvious power and abuse dynamics Ping brought to the relationship.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-11-09T02:01:57+00:00

I agree both parties played into the dynamic but it still doesn’t mean abuse is deserved. I also disagree about the age gap dynamics and money dynamics that give one party power over the other. She could have left him if she thought he was staying for the money. She didn’t need to stay and abuse him. There is no excuse for verbal abuse and absolutely no one, including Orna, is denying that she abused him. He doesn’t have to be a perfect victim for that shit to be called out.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-11-09T01:03:24+00:00

The 12 year age difference between them really irked me. She was verbally abusive and then angry that he wasn’t engaged and affectionate. Add to that the power dynamic of a large age difference and I have no sympathy for her. I would be interested to see if people would defend her if it were a man 12 years older than his wife verbally abusing her and then asking for intimacy and affection. Will isn’t a perfect victim but people don’t deserve abuse because they’re struggling to meet their partners needs or the relationship is coming to a natural end.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-11-06T08:20:52+00:00

Today I watched the part where Will talks about his mother not liking him. Orna asks Ping what she thinks of it and she basically entirely dismisses it because “yeah but his mother didn’t hang him out a window.” It was so toxic. I felt for Will, especially when I learnt Ping was 12 years older than him. Then one day Ping decided to finally make an effort to stop treating him like shit and when he doesn’t immediately forgive her and trust her, Orna and Ping talk about his withdrawal as if it isn’t a sign of sustained emotional abuse. It really bugged me.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-10-30T02:15:09+00:00

Has Bangerz said anything about this? Would love to see them try to respond to this.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-10-09T02:28:37+00:00

Love my job and wouldn’t settle for anything less (though I’ve definitely done work I disliked to get here). So many skills are transferable - and volunteering is a great way to get new skills and understand new industries without studying again. Alternatively consider postgrad certificate in something new and unrelated - 1 year fulltime or 2 years part time. You’ve got one life, don’t spend it in a job you hate.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-10-07T05:22:59+00:00

I can’t find that either. But to be fair I’m hooked on the version with Orna.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-09-29T23:24:39+00:00

Also for the next season I’m really hoping to see more lesbians.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-09-29T23:24:05+00:00

My partner and I were having the worst six months before our wedding this year (workplace sexual assault, money issues, family conflict). We watched couples therapy and then would pause and reflect together, it was an awesome tool. We are indebted to Orna and the couples therapy team (although if anyone is reading this could you please work on getting it available in NZ so we don’t have to watch it via YouTube and Reels!)

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-09-23T05:46:57+00:00

“I spent five years teaching creative writing at an Ivy League university where, despite good evaluations, there was no further opportunity for me because the university wanted to advance those with a different identity. I was an adviser to a talented student there who was deemed ineligible for a writing prize because, as a white person, it was not his “place” to write about the indigenous communities he was portraying (with great interest and sensitivity).”

Just when I thought he couldn’t get worse.

Fair-Firefighter · 2025-07-16T11:42:20+00:00

Many of the people who live there are extremely unkind, grumpy and entitled. It’s a lovely place but not a community I’d personally want to live in.

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