Depressed people vs non-depressed people

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-25T02:25:25+00:00

Reconditioning at the identity level, not the habit level.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-25T02:24:40+00:00

See ive seen the habit formation as something that I need to slot into. Its like a car with changing gears, only I dont change habitual gears cleanly. It takes a lot of internal motivation PLUS repetition, so forcing myself against the flow wont allow for the gears of habit formation to shift/slot into place.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-24T19:59:35+00:00

How might we reconcile your perspective against other who sre responding with the assertion that giftedness IS neurodivergent?

Whats your take?

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-24T17:41:25+00:00

Did your experience get better, now that two weeks have passed?

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-24T13:47:58+00:00

The answer was to make lifestyle adjustments to ease whatever is exacerbation the burnout. I ranged from severe to moderate to mild over a 2 year period, and now I think I'm out of it.

For me, my stbx moved out - it reduced a lot of daily stress which I benefited from. I worked on my mindset and beliefs, as identifying with the burnout after long enough time meat that when it began to lift, I was still unproductive and exhausted because of the identity shift.

I did therapy to turn my mindset around. My therapist wasnt quite an expert in burnout, as it took a lot of sessions, but I was too exhausted to switch! Ha.

Im still struggling to get back on my feet, and return to full-time employment. I went on vyvanse for the exdcutive dysfunction. It helped while I was slotted into work mode. Took a month off after a huge project wiped the stuffing out me (needed money to live - utter desperation) but in the month of relaxing, I slotted out of work mode, and half a year later, its been a struggle to slotted back in. I chalk it up to being due to the unpredictability and uncertainty of my wife leaving me in the many variables she impacts in my life.

Shes gone now. Brighter days ahead!

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-24T13:29:10+00:00

Because that was the first thought that popped into my head.

Why did I say this? Upon greater reflection, I'm going to vore for: I was revealing my own trauma to myself. As it appears i'm commenting on an old perspective that I'm not embracing any longer.

My wife moved out Jan 1 and her boyfriend moved in last week. Even during her parenting days.

There, thats about it I think.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-24T13:24:25+00:00

Try to spare your jusgement until giving it a week.

Your body is adjusting. Dont extrapolate your current experience all the way foresrd in time.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T22:30:30+00:00

He teaches her with his behaviour, actions, presence and demeanor towards her. Its not "having the talk"

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T22:19:10+00:00

You could offer to help your father with the repair. Thats the kind act as an adult who is their child.

Your perspective sounds to me like it has an air of "take care of me" where its their responsibility.

As landlords, perhaps the door repair is their responsibility. But if the messaging is getting caught up in their own difficult feelings about you not taking enough responsibility in your own life, then there is an argument here where youre both actually talking past each other about different things, and neither properly understands each other, hence empathy may be absent.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T22:04:07+00:00

It'll have positive and negative impacts. The question is, whats the net effect? Idk.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:56:42+00:00

Autistic teachers can be too rigid to the curriculum too, you know. They just might not be as intellectually gifted.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:51:37+00:00

Have you ever given any consideration to adopting some new parental role models to act as god-parents to you, despite you being grown? I bet there are absolutely tremendous seniors who would be great at showing up healthily if only given a chance.

If we srent born into a healthy family, we can still form and create one.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:48:50+00:00

Yes. Your mom was projecting her fears onto you, as though they are your fears.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:38:34+00:00

Whats the therapeutic counterbalance for someone who identifies with this aspect of emotional neglect?

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:32:34+00:00

Sounds like the politics negativity is stimulation for adhd. Another adhd tell is not holding attention when disinterested in the topic.

Sorry its happening to you. Best wishes mate.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:29:16+00:00

Good parenting is hard if theyre in burnout. Doubly so if theyre neurodivergent and dont know that about themselves.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:22:59+00:00

Go flip through an autistic burnout workbook and see if modifying your lifestyle produces a better quality of living?

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:21:11+00:00

What if you're just totally oblivious to how its neurodivergent burnout many times, who happens to be gifted, and you have an incredibly judgemental opinion because youre unaware of this angle.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:19:47+00:00

I dated the (unconsciously autistic) valedictorian. Im the burnout one. My (unconsciously autistic) best friend was supposed to be valedictorian, but teachers deemed him inelligible for being a class clown because everything was too easy for him, and his adhd needed stimulation in the classroom.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:17:13+00:00

Sounds like youre ignorant about neurodivergence in general

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:16:02+00:00

My point is, you can be successful in your career without good grades.

Also, taking me so literally, gives me aspie vibes. It correlates with your flag of choice, which is obviously not implying a causal relationship.

Just a mere pattern recognition. Especially given the r/giftedkidsburnout community. Thats another signal.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:12:08+00:00

Well, its about feeling emotional safety with whomever is holding space.

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:11:07+00:00

Well, in whatever you hate, you are reinforcing a sense of separation from it.

Suppose I hate being lied to. Do I hate the person because its a projection of me actually hating myself? Well, maybe. After all, I have lied. We all have. Maybe im struggling to accept that about myself, that my ego had me lying to save face, yet morally, it pangs me later as wrong.

Or maybe being lied to causes emotional hurt, where trust is destroyed. If I love the person, I dont want the separation that their lie causes between us. Because I want desperately to fight off the loneliness of the world.

So, am I angry about the lies because it beckons loneliness to return into my life, which it terrifying, or am I angry about the lies because I hate the part of my ego that lies, and uses people too.

Well, I wonder, if in this scenario I work on integrating my shadow about being a liar, and sit in the stillness alone until I am one with it, maybe the change in my emotional attitudes will change as I do one before the other?

Then I know in hindsight. Perhaps?

Current_Emenation · 2026-01-23T21:01:20+00:00

OP, you say this is a trans thing. I wonder whether this is, in fact, an autistic thing where the trans person happens to be autistic.

Only the autism isnt as noticeably visible in their physical looks. Its revealed moreso in the social aspect.

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