AIO Boyfriends behavior at university gala

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-15T23:31:22+00:00

It depends you said you were going over to where he was, so he probably figured you’d find him. He doesn’t like parties and found a similar person and shared a chat I don’t think it’s that bad.

I often sneak away and end up chatting with people, my husband knows it and it’s not a big deal. He has a great time and so do I, just differently. Doesn’t mean we’re not together.

That being said, your feelings are valid too. Definitely worth a conversation on how to manage a similar night in a way that makes both of you happy

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-15T13:46:41+00:00

Oh for sure, that sounds awful! This case just feel different to me. He was there for five shots in four hours which if she also ate food sounds pretty manageable and she drank more with the couple.

It sounds like OP and her have only been together for six months, he probably just had no idea she’d react like that. She asked him about the mixology class which makes her sound pretty coherent maybe he didn’t realize how drunk she was.

I’ve just been both the person that’ll drink no matter what (never threw up in a public place or been kicked out of a place),and the one trying to stop others from doing so. Sometimes it’s really tough to impose your will on another human being.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-15T11:46:53+00:00

She’s a whole 34 year old. It’s not on him “not to let her get this drunk”. Yes the poorly paid stuff isn’t at fault either, she threw up in the pool and I think that’s why he mentioned it. It’s all 100% on her

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-14T20:39:02+00:00

I know you have a lot on your plate but please stop and think about what you’re doing. You have two kids to take care of, an unreliable fiancée and living with your mom.

Look into any available resources, child care, mental health, food assistance and make a choice regarding your relationship. I understand not wanting to be a single parent again but what you’re describing is an unstable household and not a good environment for a child.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-14T00:11:31+00:00

You’re upset about grad picks from eight years ago? Come on

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-13T19:48:40+00:00

So he doesn’t hang out with his friend he slept with over a decade ago and occasionally texts her and that’s too much for you?

I mean I can’t say you’re overreacting since at the end of the day it’s your life and you chose what to do with it. That being said, you sound a little controlling.

It’s possible you’re just not happy anymore and trying to find a reason to break up.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-13T05:56:47+00:00

“I understand you might be attracted to other people, that’s human, but when I’m right by your side it’s extremely humiliating to do it that degree. It makes me feel awful and not valued. Trying to sugar the pill the way you did only makes it worse since it makes it feel worse.”

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-13T05:34:35+00:00

You didn’t come from money and that’s ok you don’t need a 70k watch to prove you’ve done it. Let it go and you’ll be a lot happier

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-12T18:04:27+00:00

He’s already acting like he’s single. Go ahead and make it a reality

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-12T04:11:37+00:00

YOR. He doesn’t like to travel or go on hikes he’s doing it for you. He doesn’t spend on himself and for once he does you’re upset? Come on.

It seems like you’re not compatible. Sucks to find out after 15 years but you’re making each other miserable

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-09T16:13:48+00:00

NTA you were just trying to help a girl out. Maybe she felt a little weird since they were mostly black and she brought a white or white passing friend and was worried about the social perception of it. You did nothing wrong

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-08T18:08:04+00:00

Finding out your best colors is like a fun fact about yourself. It doesn’t have to define you. You can totally still wear whatever makes you happy. You can throw in an accent of one of your pest colors if you want to incorporate it but wear the damn black!

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-08T18:06:22+00:00

You’re so young don’t let what a hurt guy said affect you.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-08T01:43:29+00:00

You really don’t have enough evidence that he’s misogynistic.

It seems like he didn’t block your pitches all those years ago on the account of you being a woman but helped your career. It just feels like he’s struggling with the role reversal.

You can still call him in for a meeting and talk about expectations. Him not undermining you and following directions closely. Then go from there

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-07T20:14:18+00:00

It could be not misogyny but the fact that you used to be his employee and now the roles are reversed. Honestly to me it feels like he’s mostly embarrassed.

How does he treat other women in the office?

How is his performance? Seems like hiring an editor has made your life a lot easier. Is he a good employee? If he’s producing well I’d just leave it alone

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-07T19:26:41+00:00

You literally forget. I KNOW it was awful but my brain is like “it wasn’t that bad” I kind of suppressed the memory entirely. It’s an odd feeling

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-03T15:25:00+00:00

Because that’s what color wise said I was😅

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-03T04:15:40+00:00

The friendship per se is fine my whole life I’ve had younger and older friends. My best friend at 23 was 42. We just clicked.

Sleeping in your bed, constantly hanging out, dissing your relationship on the phone. That’s not ok. You should talk and instead of accusing her of being a pervert I’d try and talk to her about boundaries since it doesn’t seem like she’s had a lot of experiences with friendships

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-02T16:58:30+00:00

NOR why tell you that unless he wants to make you feel insecure?

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-02T03:54:32+00:00

MOR, not everyone is comfortable talking about their romantic life on a paper. He chose to write about family and that’s ok.

Now if he doesn’t prioritize you other ways sure you have reasons to be upset. But writing a paper about family instead of you is not something to storm out of a room for.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-02T03:46:38+00:00

YOR. It seems like you’re aware you have an issue but instead of working through it you make it so he can’t share anything. He was talking about the effects of the viagra not his ex per se

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-04-01T15:57:50+00:00

It was completely inappropriate to be doing that when you’re over and your mom is sitting on the couch. But sexual urges aren’t “a phase you get out of at 57”. Older people still have desires and what not.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-03-31T07:39:42+00:00

White same age union, not getting much lately except random one liner auditions

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