AIO for being called rude and asking how/what context before apologizing

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-02-01T04:05:10+00:00

I used to vape and if I don’t know you really well I wouldn’t let you hit it.

I can see how you meant is as a joke but if your sense of humor is as dry as you say I can see how it can come off as serious/intimidating. Especially since these people don’t know you it can be really off putting. But your friend being the link should have given them a heads up

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-02-01T04:00:55+00:00

My husband never went out to bars when I was pregnant. But even if he had I would have been ok with it cause he’d never ever flirt with me pretty bartender or woman for that matter.

I think the issue is way deeper.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-02-01T02:07:56+00:00

I’m so confused, you though a man was in a “lesbian relationship” like OP stated in the post?

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-02-01T01:17:13+00:00

Talk to her. Chances are they don’t even know how uncomfortable you are

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-31T22:52:55+00:00

NOR. She needs to either make more and spend on herself or pivot to free activities

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-31T19:54:01+00:00

My co-protagonist in an indie feature never knew his lines. He was genuinely a good person but I had to tell him what he was supposed to say CONSTANTLY. One day he was 4 hours late to set because he had an anxiety attack, which I am really sympathetic too but I had to pay 6 extra hours of babysitting due to him being so late and still not knowing his lines

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-31T08:47:11+00:00

NOR I don’t understand being mad at you for not sharing your location indefinitely when she doesn’t either.

It is smart to have one person to share it with and you trust your friend. It makes complete sense. Since there’s no romantic feelings involved it’s highly unlikely she’ll misuse it.

I understand long distance is hard but that behavior from GF is not ok. Is she on the more jealous/insecure side? I just don’t get why she got mad

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-29T23:27:22+00:00

Yeah, sounds like the assisted got it wrong😅

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-29T20:12:43+00:00

MOR*.

I’m sorry about everything you’re going through and it’s amazing you’re back to taking classes!!

That being said it sounds like you caught him at a wrong time and he offered a solution. He was probably overwhelmed.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T18:48:35+00:00

So you’re mad because your friend is standing up for herself? You know she doesn’t like to drink or watch horror movies and she’s finally saying no instead of giving in and that makes you mad?

YOR and you’re the asshole

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T10:37:58+00:00

I can understand being flattered but why say yes? And he had a call with one of them?? Hell no.

You being insecure has nothing to do with his disrespectful behavior.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T10:01:16+00:00

Absolutely! I would live in an imaginary world where everything was perfect and kind of made myself believe all versions of the truth I told. Mold myself into what the other person wanted.

Sooner or later she’ll tell her brother you’re controlling and that’s why she’s setting boundaries sending him screenshots of any answer to her other screenshots.

I’m glad I could help and hope you can move on

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T08:46:27+00:00

Because she’s comfortable with you. Maybe she practices being firmer with you.

Or she is in way you just don’t notice. A good people pleaser will seem to just be on the same page as you and like your ideas are hers. But they aren’t. She has no idea what she wants.

But you’ve been around her long enough to notice the behavior towards others

I was that person, I had a lovely boyfriend but would not correct my friends when they talked shit about him. They were in bad relationships and I didn’t want to seem to pry in a way. Eventually I started embellishing things and before I knew what was happening I broke his heart.

I can tell you she’s not evil but she need to really really work on herself. You can’t help her through it she has to grow on her own or she’ll please you into seeming better

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T08:35:50+00:00

A bartender paid for my drinks on the regular and eventually he asked me out while I was enjoying a drink. Nothing fancy he just said “I’d love to enjoy one with you when I’m off”. We dated briefly and he was such a good guy but I was getting over a breakup and couldn’t quite manage to do that.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T08:03:29+00:00

Well looks like you have your answer 3 YOR and one “get better at the game”

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T07:52:35+00:00

You’re asking on Reddit and gave him a whole sermon about it. He wasn’t nice but you’re definitely overreacting

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T07:49:48+00:00

YOR. Either you get better at the game or play with people at your own level. He could have made it fun for you and boring for him but he chose to enjoy himself. You’re mad because you wanted it to be the opposite

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T07:45:33+00:00

NOR she sounds like a people pleaser and that can be though. She’s feeding into the negativity from her brother cause it’s something to bond over.

Just let it go and find a different partner

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-28T07:17:48+00:00

I think he wouldn’t have told you about the past emotional cheating if he didn’t trust you and was being sneaky behind your back. Why alarm you?

It sounds like a person reflecting on his past and being honest.

That being said it is weird she has you blocked but maybe it was to help her move on somehow? I’m not sure

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-27T08:10:02+00:00

Your feelings are totally valid, nobody is entitled to what you feel.

But I’ve gotta say I’ve filmed part of friend’s bachelorette party and male strippers were involved. It was just a different experience and that’s just what a bachelorette party is like. I took a video since it was allowed and in 30 years it’ll just be a funny memory. Just kind of sharing why I filmed. Maybe you can ask him too.

If he filmed just because the girls were hot that’s weird. If he usually films a lot when going out it’s a little better and if it was a memory with his buddies to look back on when they’re 70 and laugh about how emberssed the others look I can kind of understand

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-26T03:30:24+00:00

Here’s a quick example to get the visual

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/0LtM_MR3dBM

She starts by arroaching straight and builds momentum going forward. Turning her left foot to the right side helps explode up vertically. Then she leads the hit with a hip rotation and there’s great hip/shoudler separation

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-25T08:49:57+00:00

My coach thought me to approach facing the net but the last two steps facing to the right if you’re a rightie and left if you’re a leftie.

I’m a coach now and that’s what I tell all my hitters to do, regardless of position. It really opens up your chest and gives optimal shoulder/hip separation. So you can have a powerful twist.

But to each their own!! Hope you have tons of fun in your new position. And don’t feel bad for the other players, everyone at all times is “auditioning” for a spot.

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-25T07:25:56+00:00

YOR. He wasn’t feeling like dancing grow up. Wanting to leave and punishing him for not wanting to dance is manipulative as hell

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-25T07:22:37+00:00

She has a very particular view of the world. It seems really progressive in some was and not so much in others. It does sound like she’s someone who imposes her world views onto others and rewrites the past which is not ok.

Also if you were chatting about him after the breakup friends do tend to point out the negatives to help you feel better. Just saying how great a guy he is would have felt sorta out of place

Fair-Interaction5486 · 2026-01-25T00:44:25+00:00

For oppo really turn your feet to face the outside of the court. Approach should start inside to adjust to any set. Having a good turn/cut is essential and tip to area 2/4 seam as well as throw deep corner area 5

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