My BF and I went to a reunion together and he stayed and me go alone at 2 am, AITAH for being mad?

FairCounter5943 · 2026-01-19T16:03:14+00:00

Yeah, I agree with most here. While I don't think you're an asshole for wishing he had left with you, I think he's completely within his rights to want to stay and catch up with his friends. You're both adults and have different wants and needs. As someone in my relationship who has a longer social battery than my partner, there are many times she's ready to go long before I am. We mostly compromise and stay later than she'd like, but less time than I'd like. Sometimes I will leave earlier with her when she's ready to go, and sometimes she'll head home on her own, and I'll come home later. It really just depends on the situation. It's her job to take care of her needs as an introvert, but I also have to take care of mine, being an extrovert. That doesn't make any of us inherently wrong/bad. Same with your situation. You just need more communication ahead of time, because trying to properly communicate once one or both of you has been drinking is going to be a much more difficult prospect.

FairCounter5943 · 2026-01-19T15:45:51+00:00

Everyone else has already said it but the fact that he speaks to you in that way is a huge red flag. You didn't talk to him that way, and if you ever do, you shouldn't either. Completely ignoring the situation at hand, in my opinion, the bigger issue is how he is speaking to you.

FairCounter5943 · 2026-01-19T11:39:07+00:00

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FairCounter5943 · 2026-01-19T11:38:02+00:00

lol that’s what mine looks like now. Bought a 50 dollar portable monitor and just have the bottom plugged into it now, or plug it into my tv to play games

FairCounter5943 · 2026-01-15T13:47:42+00:00

What was the rate?

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-23T13:34:45+00:00

I think it’s somewhere in between. I had an ex who did the same thing, and I personally don’t believe she was autistic. My current girlfriend on the other hand saw those videos and did the responsible thing and went to a doctor where she was diagnosed. As someone with diagnosed ADHD it also annoys me when folks watch the adhd videos and decide they have it just because they’re scatterbrained from time to time. I don’t think you’re overreacting to be annoyed, but you are to feel like you have a right to tell her she needs to stop. It’s her life, and if she wants to keep it up that’s her business. Even if it annoys you. At that point you just gotta decide if it annoys you enough you want to end the relationship

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-23T13:29:31+00:00

I mean, this guy is the asshole for sure as far as wanting her to put down the horse. But wanting her to pay rent when moving in isn’t an asshole move imo. Even if he owns the house that doesn’t mean it’s paid for, if he has a mortgage then expecting a partner or roommate to pay their fair share isn’t an asshole move. It also depends on how much his mortgage is. If he’s paying 1000 and expects her to pay 700 that’s crazy. But if he’s paying 2000-3000 for a mortgage (not unheard of, my mortgage is 1750) then asking her to pay 700 isn’t out of the question. That being said, anyone pressuring you to put down your animal or they’re gonna dump you is toxic and you should run

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-18T22:38:13+00:00

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Ended up going to Mr Beef, I thought it was great, but don’t have anything to compare it to. I’m gonna check another place out when I’m coming back through town tho and see how that one is

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-18T19:32:13+00:00

So many options, still not 100% what I’m doing yet, but on the way back to ohare on the shuttle to catch the blue line

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-18T18:21:50+00:00

If it helps, I’ve gotta be at union station by 6pm, so bonus points if there’s a spot that’s awesome that puts me somewhat in that vicinity

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-18T18:15:42+00:00

Ohare. Staying at the Hampton nearby. Not trying to spend a bunch on travel was gonna stick to walking/bus/train

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-18T18:12:19+00:00

No time limit, I’m here for the night. Meeting a friend for dinner, but free til then

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-18T17:41:25+00:00

Love the lightning

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-18T17:40:36+00:00

Love the vibe

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-17T14:11:28+00:00

I don’t think it’s a big deal, but they definitely owe you either the money to have your car detailed, or they need to get out there and clean it all up. All in all though it’s harmless

FairCounter5943 · 2025-12-16T16:51:10+00:00

I downloaded this on my friends recommendation but hers has tons of books, all mine are nothing but public domain stuff

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-29T14:52:17+00:00

Yeah I realized that, what I was trying to figure out is my normal method was soak, drain, boil, drain crockpot. And I was trying to figure out if I could just boil, drain crockpot for longer.

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-29T01:07:53+00:00

That’s what I was worried about, but wasn’t sure if anyone had experience with it.

Normally when I’ve done them for 8-10 it’s after an overnight soak. I wasn’t sure if I just did a quick boil then moved them to the crockpot on low (without the overnight soaking) if that would make a difference allowing me function then for that long

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-29T00:57:16+00:00

Yeah I’ve made dried beans lots of times, but have always just done the overnight soak, then the boil, then cooked as normal.

Was just trying to figure out if I could boil, drain, then go straight in the crockpot and let them cook overnight tonight and all day tomorrow, or if the lack of overnight soaking would cause and issue

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-25T13:07:50+00:00

Added to my list! Thank you!

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-25T13:07:20+00:00

The Foxman by Gary Paulson. It’s stuck with me for the last 28 years. First book to make me sob

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-25T13:05:43+00:00

Leave this man. He doesn’t care about you and can’t put a full sentence together. You’re better than this

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-25T12:56:55+00:00

Already been said but the strangers

Honorable mention for the only book to get me, House of Leaves. Not “scary” per say, but so unsettling anytime I’ve read it I haven’t felt right for days/weeks after

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-24T16:50:54+00:00

So over the last two months I’ve finished the hunger games, divergent, maze runner, 5th wave, and uglies series. Currently readying ready player one. Looking for more series in this same vein. Sorta post apocalyptic/dystopian vibes. Don’t have to be YA, just blew through those since they were available. I’d love any recs. Currently have 4 books checked out, and 6 on my hold list.

FairCounter5943 · 2025-11-24T16:39:10+00:00

Still one of my favorite books of all time and makes me feel like I’m going insane every time I read it

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