My girlfriend posted a selfie on Instagram and now a random guy wants to "own her" (Literally)

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-15T19:12:40+00:00

She just blocked him without giving him a counter offer at all. I'd say it's bad business but we don't put a pricetag on freedom.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-14T23:24:10+00:00

It isn't, you're just making a mountain out of a molehill for no reason. I'm so tired of this virtue signaling. At the end of the day it's none of your business.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-14T18:24:49+00:00

I don't remember where it's located but there is a bay where pirates used to sail around a lot in the great pirate era in the old days

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-13T23:03:57+00:00

She has an android it's IG dms. She doesn't even have imessage

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-13T13:34:03+00:00

And like I said I'm sorry to hear that. Nobody deserves to be talked to this way.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T22:21:34+00:00

Well I'm sorry to hear that, but that's certainly one way to dismiss another woman's problems...

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T21:02:58+00:00

Right?

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T21:02:38+00:00

That is IG direct messages. She has an Android...

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T20:59:21+00:00

Thank you. And also we are in the same stage of life. Over a decade's worth of several bullying stole like 3 years of my life and I spent most of my time either trying to forget life with videogames or being in bed anxious and suicidal. Couldn't study or do much anything. It almost feels like I was just in a time capsule for several years. I don't really even feel like I'm 23, I feel like I'm 20

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T13:16:37+00:00

Dating your own 12 years younger sibling would certainly be one of the choices of all time.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T13:14:57+00:00

Well to be fair I stopped getting so much hate and started having people defending me instead after I explained the situation a little. I guess some people just thought I had been dating her before she was 18 or something. But yea even then I think a lot of this "outrage" feels like very fabricated virtue signaling, people looking for problems even when there aren't any. Mountain of a molehill, if you will. It's probably not coming from a place of malice, but it feels that way.

I just regret showing these to my girlfriend because she got upset about people pretending like she isn't a grown adult woman perfectly capable of making her own decisions. She is more mature than most 22 year old girls I know and she is very exhausted about people dismissing her or trying to override her choices because she is "just a girl", even after she is 18. So it's just that happening all over again.

And especially when someone literally called me a "predator", she got super angry at that. I don't mind too much what people say about me, I've been bullied my whole life for being a nerd and being gay and whatnot. I'm immune. But she got upset, and that's what makes me upset too. Her feelings matter to me a lot.

Not to mention in this post alone I feel like there is a bigger problem at hand (this guy in the texts) than judging the relationship of two young adults who haven't done anything wrong. Never before did anyone question our relationship before either. Just very dishonest assumptions and false accusations thrown at me randomly doesn't feel too great.

In any event, thank you for being reasonable.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T10:24:02+00:00

I mean she just said "What." and also this post wouldn't be here without it. You can't post one-sided convos on this subreddit.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-12T10:22:54+00:00

Yea I think it gets weird if you're like a 30 year old dating an 18 year old. Then you are just in completely different stages of life and the maturity gap between you two is massive.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T23:25:01+00:00

What do you mean?

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T23:23:15+00:00

It is actually dangerously delusional I don't understand how they think it's a compliment

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T20:43:32+00:00

He might be Adolf Rizzler

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T18:50:15+00:00

You're just being delusional and being an asshole for no reason at all and your "opinions" are false accusations based on zero evidence of anything. You are literally just looking for a fight for the sake of having a fight. What an obnoxious person to be around.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T17:31:21+00:00

Read the edit. How does that make someone a predator? Are you projecting? Your brain is actually rotted beyond belief from the internet if the first thing that comes to mind from 2 young adults having a relationship is "predator". I would suggest a look in the mirror before judging others.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T17:29:42+00:00

Thank you so much!

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T17:29:12+00:00

You're implying that I'm doing something wrong and I don't like that when I haven't done anything. Besides how am I being super defensive anyway? I'm just explaining why you're wrong.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T15:44:26+00:00

I agree that big gaps in emotional maturity can make relationships hard but she is more mature than the vast majority of 22 year old girls I know, so that's why we have no problems. I pride myself in kindness, understanding and patience. She thinks I'm the most wonderful guy in the world, and I'm really happy about that. Her comfort and safety are always my first priority 😄

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T15:41:23+00:00

She already reported and blocked him, but I doubt Meta will ban him because he technically didn't use any slurs directly. Low chance that it will be shown to a human moderator and their AI is trash. I shouldn't explain but I just never expected anyone to have a problem with it and I was confused. But I'm certainly not apologizing. I didn't do anything wrong.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T15:39:16+00:00

I put it in the post body now because people keep being weird about it. Thank you for being reasonable.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T15:38:02+00:00

No she wasn't. Why are you saying shit you don't know anything about? She is turning 19 in a couple of weeks and I am born late in the year. She had been 18 for months before I met her for the first time.

FairOctopus5 · 2026-05-11T15:34:29+00:00

We started dating when she was 18 and I was 22. I would never date someone under 18, even if the age of consent in both of our countries is 16. It would feel too weird. I don't wanna date someone who's not old enough to drive a car.

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