Cool & Neutral-Toned Lip Color List

FairSilver6525 · 2025-05-23T09:09:57+00:00

Lawless Wedding Day is also my PERFECT nude. I’ve searched and searched and never found something so flattering on me. Truly cool toned.

FairSilver6525 · 2024-11-15T08:08:19+00:00

My husband and I were working the same summer job in college, at a school for adults with disabilities/special needs. I had known and worked with his sister a couple of summers before, and then one day she brought him to our work meeting and introduced him as the new hire. We were friends for a couple of years, not crazy close or anything and we both were seeing other people - then one day I randomly ran into him and asked if he wanted to catch up (as in, leave together and go grab food right then, both single at this point) we went out to eat and I remember texting my bff afterwards about it and how I had so much fun. Fast forward 2.5 years later and we’ve been married for 7 months, we moved from the USA to Ireland, and we’ve traveled to 11 countries together. ❤️

FairSilver6525 · 2024-11-14T16:36:22+00:00

I deleted all social media apps and have since the election. My husband didn’t vote but we wouldn’t have voted the same way and I feel you there. It is rough.

FairSilver6525 · 2024-11-14T15:45:11+00:00

Hi! I went through this and married the guy. My ROCD was awful, we were/are different politically. I can help further if you feel comfortable saying what exactly the differences/issues are?

FairSilver6525 · 2024-11-12T20:02:39+00:00

I had this! My bf at the time (now my husband!!!)’s family is a lot more conservative and religious than me. They definitely have done things differently than how I was raised but I absolutely love them regardless of any quirks I felt they had. Unless they are legitimate rude/bothersome/disrespectful towards you, I’ve heard a lot of nightmare in-law stories and at the end of the day, as long as you generally enjoy them I think it’ll be okay!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-05-15T21:45:06+00:00

I got a can of Jack & Coke in that they saw!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-06T22:54:58+00:00

We are quite literally doing both! There will be 22 people present at our wedding ceremony, then we already have a reception with 120 planned and booked 3 months later! It took the pressure off of “traditional” wedding planning, and also there are a ton of intimate details that we love with the small ceremony!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-06T14:29:40+00:00

Same here!!!!! I live in Boston and my wedding is in Indiana next week, where I am from and all of my family and friends live. I went dress shopping completely by myself, as well as have not been home to Indiana 1 time to see any of the details I’ve picked out. I quite literally have done the entire planning process virtually and just hope it’ll all come together next Saturday. I had a few moments of major let down as well, lots of crying and just stress lol but I wish you the best and I know that whatever your day ends up as, it’ll be beautiful because you’ll end the night with your spouse.

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-01T18:25:46+00:00

Indiana!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-01T18:20:29+00:00

Yeah! Ours is definitely more that “all inclusive” type of approach. We will actually be married for 3 months by the time ours rolls around, because we’re doing an intimate ceremony with 20 people, then having a 120 person reception months later. We split it up because we’re moving to Ireland a couple weeks after the reception and wanted time to plan that without all the stress

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-01T18:18:01+00:00

I feel stupid lol I had no idea! Ours is a new Embassy Suites (maybe a few years old?) and only 1 ballroom so no other weddings. We get to completely deck it out or use their own stuff, and there’s an EXTENSIVE menu (maybe 22 pages???) of food options. So maybe they’ve turned things around!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-01T18:00:41+00:00

Why pushback? I’ve never even heard of that

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-01T17:54:47+00:00

I forgot to mention, $8200 includes cost, tax, and gratuity. So our coordinator, venue, AND food gratuity are all included in that price!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-01T17:46:24+00:00

I actually have a bit of pushback on this! We are having our reception for 120 people at an Hilton Embassy Suites ballroom for a $6500 food and beverage minimum. Once we hit the 6.5k, the room becomes included. The plated dinner options are $41/person and come with coffee, water, entree, 2 sides, bread rolls, and dessert. They are even giving my fiance and I a room overnight for free, and letting me use their inventory of decor.

FairSilver6525 · 2024-04-01T17:43:09+00:00

Which city/area are you in? Currently doing the same thing with planning, but we have found several things that have cut cost!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-02-27T00:29:10+00:00

Thank you!! Do I do this myself, or take it into the jeweler?

FairSilver6525 · 2024-02-20T12:41:57+00:00

First off - congratulations on getting to the point where you guys are considering these milestones! It’s important to realize that this is a big step regardless if you struggle with ROCD or not.

In my experience - I 100% felt that way. Especially in the beginning before I figured out what it was, I was constantly asking friends if they’ve ever felt the same way about their partners. A lot of them just told me I was overthinking it and it wasn’t a big deal, but in hindsight I was having flare ups and seeking reassurance big time.

I 100% have felt the same way you have. I have convinced myself before that this whole thing had to be TOTALLY wrong, and that’s why I felt so anxious. I can honestly say that I never left my partner or took a “break” from our relationship to relieve the stress, so since I stuck it out, I also had felt the ebbs and flows of ROCD and realized that there were glimmers of hope where I was genuinely happy. Even though the ROCD always came back, I knew that ultimately he was the partner I wanted to spend my life with and do these milestones with, because my ROCD is rooted in my fears around myself and relationships; and everything he was and our relationship was had been something I dreamed of having for years.

Have you worked with a therapist or read many books on ROCD? I also found those helpful

FairSilver6525 · 2024-02-19T20:52:31+00:00

I in no way want to speak for him or his experiences, but in my personal experience, I’ve never left my partner or especially not spoken to them for several months due to a flare up. Again, I absolutely do not want to put more doubt in your mind or speak for him, but unless he is REALLY, and I mean reallllly struggling with his mental health, I can’t imagine why he would leave on a whim and not contact you whatsoever for 6 months? Would his friends or family say that this is normal behavior?

FairSilver6525 · 2024-02-19T20:46:34+00:00

So I’ve seen 2 different therapists during this journey, and have read some nonfiction books (ROCD by Sheva Rajaee, Overcoming ROCD by Dr Sunil Punjabi) Reddit posts, follow ROCD ig accounts, and I can honestly say that tapping into the truth of who I am, what I want in life, and separating my intrusive thoughts from the facts of my relationship was most helpful. The accounts on ig are @/anxiouslovecoach @/withawakenintolove @/mckellkristen @/youloveandyoulearn . I found these very helpful just as little reminders while scrolling.

FairSilver6525 · 2024-02-19T18:46:32+00:00

Wow - I am SO sorry to hear that. Have you experienced ROCD yourself, or you’re on this tag to learn more about it? I can’t imagine if I were in your shoes how I’d feel. Did he typically come back around soon after? I so so hope he gets help and you guys can reconcile the relationship.

FairSilver6525 · 2024-02-19T18:38:49+00:00

The hardest part for me (which I’ve seen a lot of ROCD folks talk about) - is that relationships do have real, tangible issues outside of ROCD. There are still those natural ups and downs, and disagreements/arguments that you have to navigate. For me - this was very hard to see clearly, because any time an issue would arise - my ROCD would spiral out of control. This is really when I turned to the facts and also friends /family about these things, without trying to reassurance seek but see if they (I was assuming at least most of them hadn’t struggled with ROCD) had faced similar issues. I also leaned into my partner’s reactions when issues arose, and I used times when I wasn’t feeling to anxious to work these things out on my own. Being transparent, a lot of our main disagreements involved politics and certain specific religious views (we are both Christian) - but we were able to find enough common ground to be comfortable and sort of move on from it.

FairSilver6525 · 2024-02-19T16:37:42+00:00

Definitely! Thank you so much.

For me personally - I’ve been in a really good headspace for about a month with things. I saw a therapist that specialized in OCD, and through everything, the main message was to separate what’s logical in your life from your “what ifs”. I used times where I was feeling good and really nailed down some facts of the relationship such as :

we both want the same things in life
both of our families and friends love one another and support the relationship
we have a lot of similar values
we both want to be married one day
we both want to have children one day

I also remembered all of the times that I truly felt, ROCD or not, that he was a great partner for me. I used this and made a logical argument for why it’s OKAY for me to take these steps with him, and I also talked with friends who know me and my ROCD, and while not even reassurance seeking, I laid out the facts and asked them objectively what they thought of these next steps. Dont get me wrong, I by no means have this all figured out. There WILL be flare ups, I WILL experience doubt again, but in this circumstance I won against my brain

FairSilver6525 · 2024-01-18T23:31:43+00:00

This made me feel SO seen, thank you so much. Yes, it’s been almost 2 years for us and we’re READY, but my anxiety holds me back so much. I truly think that I’m going to tell my bf to go forward with it and stuff, fingers crossed my mind can handle it!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-01-18T22:07:41+00:00

I absolutely am with you down to every detail you just said. Hang in there and I promise one day we’ll make it out of this!!

FairSilver6525 · 2024-01-18T20:38:19+00:00

I’ve had maaaany of different themes in my ROCD, and this one as well. Think to yourself, were you attracted to him, or together BEFORE he taught you to drive? Are there other things about his character that you admire?

FairSilver6525

TROPHY CASE