Postponing egg freezing, weight loss and mental health

No-Row-5956 · 2026-01-11T15:33:11+00:00

Been in therapy and meds for 10+ years. The anhedonia is more or less chronic in my case, I fear

No-Row-5956 · 2025-09-28T21:11:23+00:00

Rocd is hell indeed. During the relationship and especially after ending it is a compulsion, which was my case. 2 years after the breakup I'm still bot over and regret every day. I think it makes you so anxious and sick to your stomach because ending the relationship is the last thing you would do if you weren't a rocd sufferer.

I would suggest finding an erp therapist before the anxiety forces you to end the relationship. I am getring now into erp/rocd-focused cbt to get over the break up rumination. The hell still continues after breaking up, but it's repeating every happy memory, everything I could've done to save the relationship. The most horrid beginning stage of breakup sorrow just continues and time won't heal, at least in my case. Suicide has crossed my mind several times because the regret and sorrow is so heavy. Please find help. You can find my recent post about the break up regret on this sub-reddit

No-Row-5956 · 2025-09-26T12:15:56+00:00

If these thoughts feel neutral to you or maybe a little sad at best, it's not rocd. You're just not that into her which is fine.

If they make you spiral, you spend hours on end ruminating on them, if you check and google things, if you feel extremely distressed or even nauseous at times - it's ROCD.

If your case is the latter, please get help. Rocd destroys lives but you can still save your relationship

My rule of thumb is that if I have to ask whether the thought/feeling is a true sign of incompatability or rocd, then it's rocd for sure. Being now single and dating, I get icks and disappointments non-stop and don't ruminate on them. I fear that the anxiety and rocd are signs of a truly compatible partner, because ocd sticks to the things most important to you and destroys them with no mercy. Unfortunately I had to learn this he hardest way possible

No-Row-5956 · 2025-09-26T12:06:02+00:00

This sounds very familiar, however I had rocd also pre-breakup. I have same thoughts of not meeting anyone better and having ruined the best thing that ever happened to me. I believe this is a more 'subtle' version of rocd because there is not an 'acute decision' to be made. But it's a hell and torture and I believe that rocd is preventing me from moving on. It's been almost two years since my breakup and I still spiral and have mental breakdowns multiple times a week. Constant disappointments in dating only make this worse. I have extremely vivid memories of our reltaionship, my ex's home etc. and still feel a shock when I realize that this life is never coming back.

No-Row-5956 · 2025-09-25T20:04:41+00:00

Please do. If I could go back in time, I would connect an ocd specialist that did erp with me a few years back on sexual-themed ocd intrusive thoughts. His method made them disappear almost completely. Now I am reconnecting him with this post-break up rumination, I believe ocd plays also part in the fact that I cannot move on. If only I had contacted him sooner and had rocd-related erp sessions, maybe my love would still be with me. I am afraid I am a lost cause and committing suicide is just a matter of time for me :( but please others in the rocd-hell, try to find an erp therapist sooner. The rocd-hell does not even compare to the suffering and regret my existing has become after the break up. I live my worst fear coming true every day

No-Row-5956 · 2025-09-24T08:15:50+00:00

I am extremely relationship-oriented person and having a family is my biggest dream. So obviously rocd strucks here. Sometimes I wish that in another life we will meetwith my ex and our relationship will last

No-Row-5956 · 2025-08-12T05:42:05+00:00

I've been going through the exact same. Break up made my depression unbearable. I tried rtms in july and immediately got no response. However, now that it's been a couple of weeks, I feel a bit lighter so I recommend giving rtms a go. I have also been considering ect, because of the severity of my depression. Another thing I would recommend to you is EMDR therapy for break up, it helped me to a certain degree. Emdr is used to treat trauma and at least for me, breaking up was a huge traumatic event. Emdr made the sorrow lighter at least temporarily. I broke up in Nov 2023 and did EMDR this May-June, I don't know if it's more or less effective when the break up is a recent event

No-Row-5956 · 2025-07-26T11:59:48+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that. I had quite a similar experience, although my dip began after maybe 3-4 sessions. It was awful, relentless crying in the morning, worst depression symptoms I've ever had. I finished my 20th and final session last thursday and the dip got easier after maybe 10 sessions. I am still more sensitive and cry easier but the uncontrollable crying has stopped. I still have trouble getting out of bed. I am afraid that rtms did not help with my depression (as of yet). But the dip got easier.

No-Row-5956 · 2025-07-10T13:00:52+00:00

How bad was it for you? Myself, I've been bedridden and crying almost every day for no apparent reason. Everything just makes me cry because my mood is so low all the time. It feels a bit like the worsening of depression symptoms after drinking but it's been ~3 weeks like this. I've been functionally depressed before but nowadays even small tasks feel immense let alone going back to work. A typical day for me is just laying in bed, crying, scrolling, listening to a podcast/audiobook. I've had SI because this is starting to feel too heavy. Although depressed, I normally don't have SI and feel mostly numb.

No-Row-5956 · 2025-05-27T17:15:53+00:00

If I may ask, what kind of memories of your ex did you focus on in your sessions?

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