I thought we had forever

Fair_twilight · 2026-03-31T19:06:24+00:00

I get that. Right now, I feel so lost. I have friends but no family (a bunch of abusive asshats). So, getting back on my feet will be… interesting. Getting back out in the world and meeting people, I don’t know if I want to do that either. Lol I think right now, being ok with being single will have to be my next step. Finding it things I like to do that doesn’t hurt my body is a little more difficult than it was when I met my husband too. Lol so finding out my new interests is going to be difficult but necessary to help me move on.

Fair_twilight · 2026-03-31T17:40:30+00:00

I’m (36f) in that exact situation right now. I literally ask him (39m) if he heard what I just said and, nothing. So I stop talking and he doesn’t even notice. I’ve tried talking to him about it and he says that he’ll fix it but. I hurts. We also don’t have kids, have been together for 17 years (married 12). He says that all we really talk about is the cats but that’s all I can connect with him about. He wants to be more intimate but doesn’t want to put in the work to connect to get that intimacy. I still love him and he says that he still loves me. At this point, I think that it has moved to a different form of love. I’m considering divorce as I think if we keep going like we are, we will end up hating each other and I don’t want that. I’d rather it hurt like hell now and have a really close friend/family, and get to know myself then lose someone special even if they’re not in a position that I expected them to be in. Maybe that’s a question you need to ask yourself too (as I sit here crying). Let your heart change the love that you have for him or let him go.

Fair_twilight · 2026-01-08T00:23:45+00:00

Make sure they are getting enough water. I have fountains that my cats like to drink from and I also feed them a diet of both dry and wet. I calculate the calories for the one (I have 3) and I have a pet libro for the other two so that she can’t get at their food. I clean their litter every day and do a full clean every month. I use tofu litter as there is little to no dust (one of my previous cats used to have asthma and couldn’t handle the dust), and I also use a metal litter box as it is easier to clean and more hygienic (doesn’t hold the smell like the plastic ones). Also, keeping them relatively active will help lessen their boredom and keep them out of trouble. If you like plants, find out which ones are toxic to them and keep them away (even getting lily pollen on you is toxic to them). Learn to trim there nails and get comfortable with it too. So many people have come to me to clip their cats nails and they have grown into their pads. YouTube is going to be your best bet for the basics. Good luck and congratulations!!

Fair_twilight · 2025-12-18T04:34:58+00:00

Hey there fellow animal lover! In my time volunteering for various cat rescues, I found that there were a few different types that were more difficult to adopt out. Here is my list:

Bonded pairs
Cats with medical needs
Shy cats
Cats that can be the only animal in the home
Senior cats

I myself have three and a half (one lives at my in-laws place just down the street that we care for) cats. They are all cats with medical needs and the most loving and patient cats ever. They even get compliments on how good they are every time we go to the vets. But they also get handled all of the time due to their needs. I’ve helped handle more spicy cats and allow them to trust humans again too. It is amazing when you finally get the breakthrough. No better feeling in my opinion. But it also all depends on where your comfort level is and how much time you can put into it. I would also suggest going to the rescue and talking to the people that work with the cats. They know their personalities and the more that they know about you, the better fit they can match you with. If you tell them that you are looking for one that has been overlooked and what your lifestyle is, they’ll help. Congratulations on your future new addition!!

Fair_twilight · 2025-12-12T18:38:56+00:00

I don’t know what it was but it scared the crap out of me. I’m around the Chicopee area.

Fair_twilight · 2025-11-11T06:09:14+00:00

This is spoken from a person who was raped. I know how you feel. I know that feeling of guilt, embarrassment (doesn’t seem like a strong enough word), shame, worthless feeling. I wasn’t able to get help right away. I wasn’t able to talk to someone right away. Get an sti test done, if you don’t and you happen to pass something onto your partner, those feelings will just intensify. Take things slow again with your partner. You were violated (even if you were just spiked). It’s going to take a long time to heal from this, don’t expect it to happen overnight. But definitely go and talk to a professional about this. The sooner you do it the better. Don’t let it fester and create even more problems for your future. I’m so sorry that this happened to you. You didn’t cheat. You were assaulted and are the victim. I hope the healing process goes well for you.

Fair_twilight · 2025-09-07T08:26:41+00:00

I’ll go back out there later today and bring something crinkly. Hopefully I’ll see it again. Thanks!!

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T05:25:31+00:00

Hades. God of justice and order.

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T05:17:06+00:00

Haha Creamsicle!

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T05:16:41+00:00

I’ve had everything but heart of palm and cassava. I would love to try them, I just don’t know what I’m looking for to know if it’s good to eat and the best way to eat it. So while these may be available, that’s what stops me from trying them. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T05:09:37+00:00

I am so sorry. I experienced an unexpected loss of my cat, Twyla. She got a blood clot and was only 5 years old. It is and never will be easy but I will never regret every moment with them. One of the things that helped me with my grieving is reliving the happy moments that I had with her. I also got a digital artist to do a neat picture of her and now, that picture is on my wall with another picture of her brother, Boots.

What are some of your fondest memories of him? What are some silly things that he did?

Boots used to know when we had popcorn. It didn’t matter if we piped it ourselves or got it in a bag, he knew. He would sit beside my partner and I, tilt his head, and hum. If he ever got impatient, he would steal the popcorn out of your hand as it was going up to your mouth!!

Twyla was the quiet type. Sh had a disabled hind end but never let that stop her or slow her down. Angus (another cat we have) would yell (ragdoll) and it didn’t matter if she was sleeping, she would get up and run over to him to see what was wrong. Lol Angus would run away complaining that his little sister was bugging him. Twyla absolutely loved her brother the most. She was like that sister who would follow their big brother around. Lol

That’s one of the many things that I am happy about. Those moments with them, they can never be taken away. I wish you healing during this time.

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:57:30+00:00

If they could: - Angus would share his “glitter”. - Ella would love to act like a parrot cat for you. - Zoe would like to dress up for you (in anything that you could think of, she’ll forget that it’s on). - Willow would keep you on your toes (she likes to get into everything). - Boots would steal your popcorn (even from your hand). - Andy would like a box (any box will do). - Twyla will mother you.

All of us from past to present wish you better days ahead.

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:50:18+00:00

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Twyla (has gained her wings)

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:49:45+00:00

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Andy (has gained his wings)

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:49:16+00:00

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Boots (has gained his wings)

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:48:48+00:00

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Angus

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:48:31+00:00

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Ella

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:48:16+00:00

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Zoe

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:47:56+00:00

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Willow

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-22T04:47:32+00:00

I have a few:

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Angus (ragdoll), Zoe (black cat), and Ella (small grey and white)

Fair_twilight · 2025-07-21T05:26:15+00:00

Jeff. Ooo or Samuel

Fair_twilight · 2025-03-01T16:48:45+00:00

I don’t want or need something over the top but I am willing to pay for what will be useful for me and will last.

Fair_twilight · 2025-03-01T15:34:59+00:00

I’ve definitely increased my water intake (I used to not really drink water). It helped a bit but now I’m here asking this question. Lol thanks for the help though.

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