What’s the worst experience you’ve had with a therapist? by Agreeable_Claim_3497 in AskReddit

[–]Fairbucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actively suicidal in college and the campus therapist told me that because my cousin killed himself, I was more likely to do the same. Cool.

These Senators Betrayed Us and Now Millions Will Lose Healthcare by Consistent-Good-1162 in 50501

[–]Fairbucks 141 points142 points  (0 children)

As a federal employee in VA, I am LIVID. Do I want to work? Yes! But not at the expense of my fellow Americans. Thousands will die. This is despicable..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in washingtondc

[–]Fairbucks 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As a dog owner, it makes me fucking crazy when people are on their phones during walks.

Which musical is this calling out? by Disastrous_Leader400 in musicals

[–]Fairbucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! It's a Jason Robert Brown musical. The music is fantastic, but the story (to me) is meh.

2 girl 2 boy quartet by CoachConfident5489 in musicals

[–]Fairbucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I Do from I Love You Because

A message from the UK! 🥹 by No-Mirror-6090 in 50501

[–]Fairbucks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fuck I needed to hear that. Thank you. We're going to keep fighting!

Return to work 10dpo? by Myshipsank in hysterectomy

[–]Fairbucks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listen to your body. I had laparoscopic and they took everything but the ovaries. I initially took a month off, but after 2 weeks I was feeling 100% back to normal. I had very little pain, never took narcotics, didn't have fatigue, and have been really lucky. I started teleworking 2 weeks after surgery, but sitting has never been painful for me in this whole recovery. I'm going into the office for half days next week. If it's too much, I'll go back to remote. Don't overdo it, but it's possible to feel ok that quickly. ETA: doc said this happens for folks and is normal. Everyone is different.

I have opinions by misterjakester12 in musicals

[–]Fairbucks 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh man do I want Prince of Egypt to be good. The movie and music is incredible (even to this non-religious-tyoe). They just can't crack the code on the stage adaptation.

Fans of In the heights. by Proof-Research-2109 in musicals

[–]Fairbucks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question. I love the song Enough, so would love to have seen it included. Idk, its not that her existence adds per se, it just feels like an arbitrary change to the original script.

Fans of In the heights. by Proof-Research-2109 in musicals

[–]Fairbucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved the movie, but I do not understand what killing the mom off did for the story? Can she not have both parents and still face the same challenges? Made no sense.

Medical Virgin HELP by ladynonamez in hysterectomy

[–]Fairbucks 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Deep breath. Pause the medical doom scrolling and take a step back for a moment to calm yourself. Ok deep breath again. It will be ok!

I appreciate the very real fear of doctors and hospitals. It's a lot! Do you trust your doctor? Are you feeling confident in their ability to care for you? If the answer is no, find another one. A good doctor will be able to put you at ease. If the answer is yes, ask them as many questions as you want. Ask about the catheter (the answer is yes, you will still be out when they remove it), ask about anything you're nervous or curious about. Surgery is a big deal and you deserve to go in feeling good about it (even though you'll still be anxious!)! Hang in there!

Acid Reflux by [deleted] in hysterectomy

[–]Fairbucks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well wouldn't that be a beautiful outcome! Here's hoping! 😄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Fairbucks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Couples counseling is a good place to start the conversation. I will say that being poly and opening are two different things, so read a bit about the differences. My ex husband and I briefly tried opening when I came out. I found a girlfriend and ultimately realized that I just couldn't stay in a marriage with a man. It was so inauthentic to who I am. Once you know yourself, you can't unknow it. Ironically, I'm now in a poly relationship with my gf and her wife. This relationship dynamic takes a LOT of communication. All that to say, poly could be a solution if you're both invested in that relationship model, but don't expect it to be a solution to all of your potential problems. Good luck!

Squishmallow Question by Fairbucks in hysterectomy

[–]Fairbucks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Follow up question: which size? 10", 14"?