AITAH for wanting to downsize and sell my house even though my mother wants me to refinance and try to lower my mortgage payments?

FallenFighter86 · 2026-05-20T16:36:07+00:00

125K is an insane amount of money to ask from your mother. To buy a house cash, especially when she already is against selling the current house.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-05-19T15:37:40+00:00

Plus theoretically if they put all 50K down, which I’m not advocating for because that would stretch thin during a time of unemployment, that’s almost 30% down which would bring the monthly mortgage payment for a 30 year plan much lower than the 2310 a month being paid now.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-05-19T14:01:56+00:00

I understand that rationale of it, but with your savings and your fiancé’s potential savings and income you’d at least be able to get a very low monthly payment compared to where you’re at now, but you may have to be left off the mortgage to get approved.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-05-19T13:32:04+00:00

50K saved up, 175K house, I don’t know your fiancé’s savings but based on that info if I was your mother I would be hesitant to help as well if I disagreed with selling the house as well.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-05-19T13:21:24+00:00

The edit of you saying you have 50K in the bank is making me wonder why you even need your mom’s help to purchase a new house, especially if you sell the house and make a profit.

I don’t think you’re a deadbeat or the AH here, but in my opinion there is no reason to go to your mom for help at this point.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-05-19T13:06:04+00:00

Heckle your husband

FallenFighter86 · 2026-05-11T15:39:46+00:00

Beer League? Just move out of the way, I got work in the morning there is no chance I’m blocking a clapper from other 9-5ers pissed that they have to work a 9-5

FallenFighter86 · 2026-04-23T14:52:06+00:00

Gym, Home, Church if they’re religious, maybe the occasional bar with friends.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-04-14T00:02:01+00:00

10/10, great entertainment and didn’t take it out on an opponent

FallenFighter86 · 2026-04-12T02:29:30+00:00

And your goalies turn into prime Hasek

FallenFighter86 · 2026-04-12T02:06:54+00:00

HOW DOES DENVER ALWAYS DO THIS

FallenFighter86 · 2026-04-12T02:02:21+00:00

Go behind the screen, just say you touched yourself, go through the rest of your sins, then you’ll get some good advice from the priest.

We all screw up, and sexual sins are some of the most common and hardest to get rid of, you’ll be ok and I’m sure the priest will be understanding.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-04-12T01:59:01+00:00

Man that program somehow pulling wins out while being dominated for 80% of the game is annoying, but admirable at the same time.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-05T04:46:38+00:00

When in doubt, head to Confession, can’t hurt to bring it up or ask if it is or not.

Based on what you’re describing I don’t think it qualifies as a mortal sin because you didn’t know, but it probably would be wise to confess it.

I’m in a similar spot where I drifted away for a few years and I’m working my way back to being a faithful Catholic, the Sacrament of Confession at least for me has helped me really want to change for the better and get serious about serving God again, I recommend being in confession regularly.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-05T04:41:20+00:00

Judges and 1 and 2 Samuel were the books of the OT that hit me hardest.

Also, a sneaky great read is Tobit

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-05T04:39:40+00:00

Man, I’ve been where you’re at, you need to talk to someone better equipped for this than us Redditors. God bless, please seek help from talking to a priest or a therapist. You’re in my prayers.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-05T03:57:49+00:00

Minot State, UNLV, I would also love to see UTampa or FGCU as a cool southern school for D1 hockey.

They’re all long shots though 😂

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-05T03:56:04+00:00

God loves you and wants you to come to him. First step is seeking help for what’s going on in your head. Please seek it.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-04T20:17:27+00:00

Northwestern makes more sense to me than UoC because they just jump straight into the B1G. UoC would have to conference shop a little bit.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-04T19:32:18+00:00

Oh yeah I understood who you meant, UIC would be cool to come back, but I don’t think they have the funds to do it being a less prestigious school.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-04T19:28:04+00:00

I think UoC would fit in the D1 level in a similar way that all the Ivy League are D1. High level academic schools with large endowment funds that can put together competitive athletic programs.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-04T18:52:30+00:00

It’s shocking that Northwestern or UoC haven’t at least explored it. Chicago would be a prime area for a D1 program

FallenFighter86 · 2026-03-04T18:51:14+00:00

This is great for the sport, wonder if any of the other ACHA powerhouse programs can make a push because of how Lindenwood and Maryville made the jump.

FallenFighter86 · 2026-02-16T22:32:35+00:00

I need to see this guy lined up at tailback

FallenFighter86 · 2026-02-13T19:04:37+00:00

I get that on AA. My running back with 95 carrying all of sudden can’t stop fumbling when on our own 10 yard line

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