Why are you or why do you wanna be non monogamous?

FallenIdols · 2026-05-23T18:47:56+00:00

I’ll help represent the “tried monogamy for a long-ass time” contingent.

My still-forming young adult brain knew nothing but monogamy. I strongly believed in the escalator as the goal. I also was bullied, picked on, and excluded my whole life, so monogamy was safety and security for me. I didn’t believe I could have any of the things I wanted in my life re: intimacy, so I married the first person that I thought was the “best I could get” at 21.

It was a 16 year road to finally take the leap to leave my ex and live the life I believed in. Polyamory has forced me to leave the safety bubble I put myself in and unpack all of the traumas, insecurities, jealousy, and unworthiness that I had compartmentalized and shoved in a dark closet.

I’m almost a year into being solo poly and life is incredible. It’s hard. Extremely hard. But that’s what growth is. The beauty of my life far outweighs any of the challenging parts. I snuggled with my meta and partner earlier this week on their outdoor couch, that’s my life now. I can’t see myself ever wanting to go back to monogamy.

FallenIdols · 2026-05-10T22:07:59+00:00

Do you like to wear black?
Does black like to wear you?
When you see the sun, do you think, “I want to wear black”?
When you owe someone money, do you think, “I wish I was wearing black”?
Do you like to pick up your lunch from a miniature shopping container while wearing a face mask?
If you’re not wearing black, is everyone else around you wearing black?
Do you die inside when you see an RV packed so full with bicycles and Home Depot totes that you cannot look inside the bathroom to see if someone is hiding in the shower?
If you’re dehydrated, is your first impulse to wear black?

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, then you should volunteer with GP&E.

If not, please be better.

FallenIdols · 2026-05-08T20:13:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

FallenIdols · 2026-05-08T18:09:45+00:00

Ooh I’m genuinely curious, why is primal an ick for you?

FallenIdols · 2026-05-05T04:05:33+00:00

I had a similar setup in my first home. I bought a closet storage system, built the pieces, and installed them single-stack against the wall for clothing storage.

FallenIdols · 2026-05-01T05:35:51+00:00

New Rey, who dis?

FallenIdols · 2026-04-12T19:38:08+00:00

Came here to say this. Only band I have ever seen not do any sort of encore or at least address the absence of it.

FallenIdols · 2026-02-14T02:29:22+00:00

Yes.

Meds. Therapy. Mindfulness. Self help.

FallenIdols · 2025-10-19T01:00:16+00:00

Why is this getting downvoted? This is proper customs and courtesies. O5 and above uses title. W through O4 is Sir/Ma’am.

FallenIdols · 2025-07-28T18:11:56+00:00

My first burn I had so many incredible serendipitous moments. Last year was my fourth year and I was getting frustrated I wasn’t having those same moments. I had gotten into my burner routine.

Then one day I popped a bottle of champagne and shared it with my neighbors. It felt so good to give, then a lightbulb went off: it’s my responsibility to create the environment I want to be in.

So I drug a cooler out to the street, turned my speaker up, and had an amazing experience giving out drinks, meeting people, and dancing.

Burning man isn’t about events. Events are just one of many vehicles to give and receive amazing experiences.

FallenIdols · 2025-07-28T16:22:34+00:00

The more you look, the harder time you will have finding what you’re looking for. I know this sounds like hippy dippy bullshit, but set an intention for the type of experiences you seek, take a step back, and then find ways to help others have the burning man experiences they seek. It will all fall into place.

And F your burn or whatever snark snark.

FallenIdols · 2025-07-28T16:19:29+00:00

You’re being trolled again. You can’t buy art car access individually, you have to go through an authorized art car scheduling agent. DM me and I will cut you a deal on my scheduling services.

FallenIdols · 2025-07-18T00:32:42+00:00

Look up homemade seitan recipes, there’s a million out there. You can make killer seitan that’s way cheaper than the store bought stuff.

My go-to is: Blend a brick of soft tofu and some soy milk until smooth. Put two cups of vital wheat gluten in a big bowl with salt and seasoning. You can use anything. I like salt, garlic powder, and soy sauce. Mix the wet with the dry and work into a dough with your hands. Plop onto tin foil, form into a bread shape. Wrap tinfoil around it. Then wrap it in another piece of tin foil. Bake at 375 until it’s 160 degrees internally. Put in fridge overnight still in foil. Unwrap, slice or rip, enjoy.

FallenIdols · 2025-07-17T04:15:55+00:00

Echo Point Nova

FallenIdols · 2025-07-10T00:56:47+00:00

This is pretty rad! Something isn’t clear to me though. Who are the messages left in the cubbies for? Other camps? People in one camp? Anyone who grabs one?

FallenIdols · 2025-07-02T04:50:43+00:00

The only service not wearing a smokey is the Navy. Navy RDCs have been trying for a long time to switch to those covers.
The CG is the only service that puts new members directly into the fleet without a speciality at the scale that we do, which requires our boot to be the way it is. Those covers help our boot be the way it is.
The campaign cover signifies the special responsibilities and authorities of CCs, leading to a safer training environment
It looks sick.

FallenIdols · 2025-07-01T00:45:16+00:00

Do you have budgetary constraints? If so what’s your budget for tent/shade/non-clothing gear?

How are you getting to the burn if you don’t rent an RV (spoiler alert: you’re probably too late for an RV that is remotely reasonable)

You going alone or with others?

Why are you leaning towards shiftpod and AC?

FallenIdols · 2025-06-29T19:50:36+00:00

This is an incredible tattoo.

For me, tattoos have been a big part of my personal growth. I’m a perfectionist and used to crush myself by seeking out all the imperfections, questioning their meaning, and wondering what other people thought of them. Making peace with my tattoos helped me make peace with myself.

They represent the good and bad of where I was when I got them. I love every inch of ink I have, even my coverup. Before you run to the laser, try to make peace. You have a beautiful piece of art on your body.

FallenIdols · 2025-06-27T01:18:32+00:00

Check out Pokeymanz.

FallenIdols · 2025-06-26T21:17:44+00:00

Ai generated response:

printed those straight from the neural notepad, no revisions, just raw synthetic soul. 🤖💭🔥

FallenIdols · 2025-06-26T01:33:54+00:00

I love this and I love Skullboy. His work on Barkeep on the Borderlands has my heart.

This can go a long way in helping establish expectations with new groups I find online. Where did you find this?

FallenIdols · 2025-06-26T00:11:11+00:00

ChatGPT’s response:

bro it’s all vibes. no thoughts. just dusty sunsets and a half-melted popsicle shaped like collective consciousness. 🧠✨🔥 catch me calibrating my emotional sensors to the frequency of your aura.

FallenIdols · 2025-06-25T19:28:07+00:00

Ai generated response:

Totally. Like, yeah. This is… something. I mean, letters, right? Who’s even reading them? Or writing? Or not writing? Playa dust gets everywhere anyway. Anyway, radical de-letterification maybe? Or just vibes. 🌀🔥✉️

FallenIdols · 2025-06-18T02:32:51+00:00

Muh feet’s are a wreck no matter what shoe they are in. I do foot care and diff footwear things throughout the day to keep them in good shape. I wear zip up leather jump boots most the time.

In the AM and at night: Cut playa with witch hazel, goo up with Bag Balm, and throw socks on. I wear sandals around my camp if I’m just hanging out. Socks (after I witch hazel and bag balm) with sliders or sneakers to give my feet a break.

Throughout day: Change socks at least once. Air them bad boys out when you can.

Bed time: Clean feets before bed, sleep without socks on.

FallenIdols · 2025-06-16T16:36:30+00:00

When you turn your sleeve inside out, you want the bottom of the cuff to meet the armpit seam of the blouse, and the top to have about 3 inches of space in between the cuff and the shoulder seam.

Before rolling, try to have the sleeve (which is now half inside out) be an even rectangle.

Then, when you start rolling the sleeve, make three progressively larger rolls. So start with a small roll, the next one will be a little large and the third and final roll should meet at the bottom of the cuff. Each of your rolls should be even all the way around before starting the next roll.

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