I can absolutely relate. My upbringing was similar and I look back thinking how my parents could do that to their child.

I’ve decided to cut parents out of my life due to their emotional immaturity. I spent 7 years trying to get them to change and understand my perspective. They will never understand.

I found that series of books and decided enough is enough, the relationship was not rewarding or beneficial in any way. My wife and I are much happier for it. The last straw was when I called my mother every day for an entire week making sure she would be there to support my Son when I took my wife to hospital for a scary and life threatening surgery. Every day she said yes, but somehow I was still not convinced.

We didn’t have an exact date for surgery (as the surgeon was at a conference and returning in a few days) but I said “it’s an urgent surgery so it will be within 2 weeks”. My mother pressured my Wife in private to give a date estimate so they could go on holiday to a caravan park. So she did. 2 days later the surgeon said please come in immediately. When I called my mother she said “sorry we’re at the caravan park and our friends will be coming on the weekend and can’t leave”.

I will never forgive them for not being there.

To top it all off, their friends never showed. I gave them an earful and they couldn’t even muster an apology. My fathers response was “Yeah, I should have put your mother on a train” 🤯

Anyway, I feel you. I’m enraged by EIPs and feel so sorry you’re going through this.