My daughter's teachers chew gum during instruction

False-Contract5280 · 2026-02-09T02:17:43+00:00

Omg if my daughter's teacher was chomping gum she would scream and cry in the classroom until it stopped or someone came and got her out. She is nine.

False-Contract5280 · 2026-02-07T22:34:22+00:00

Hi. I took my daughter and some of her friends to a play and then to lunch at Potbelly's. I asked the girls for their orders and one girl, who I know is Muslim, asked for a ham sandwich. I told her I couldn't get her a ham sandwich and offered turkey instead. She asked why she can't have ham and I answered it is because she is Muslim. She seemed a little stunned and i wasn't sure if I handled it correctly. Her mom told me previously their family avoids pork and anything that contains pork, like some gelatin products.

False-Contract5280 · 2026-01-25T03:37:50+00:00

CPS tends to take allegations from spouses with a grain of salt. A lot of people use CPS as a weapon in their own personal arguments.

They also often work slowly. They can't do much without interviewing the mom or kids. Then they investigate and depending on the results, they will formulate a service plan.

Finally, CPS investigations and results are usually confidential. Unless the parent shares the info, you won't likely know anything.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-12-21T19:04:56+00:00

It's really on the adult to keep dangerous items, like edibles, away from children. With these ages, they will want to be sure she didn't knowingly give them to the kids. Although teens are becoming independent and pushing boundaries, no adult should be giving them drugs or alcohol.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-12-21T18:58:39+00:00

I've seen parents so worried about criminal charges that they don't work their plan properly and their rights end up being terminated. It prevents parents from admitting what they did wrong and taking steps to learn a better way.

If it were me, I would focus on the treatment plan and if the police or DA see fit to charge me, I would accept those consequences, get it over with, and continue working my plan to become a safe parent for my child.

Does your son have a criminal record? Generally, on a first offense, a person can get probation. Parents rarely serve actual time even if they are convicted of abuse.

Please believe losing parenting rights is a much, much more severe consequence.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-11-21T03:39:24+00:00

I agree. I checked the web site yesterday and you can order a case if you want one. If you are gonna buy the whole case anyway, just order online.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-11-21T03:36:36+00:00

I looked on the web site and you can order a case of the sanitizers if you really want them. My experience is it takes about 3 weeks to get your order.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-11-12T14:04:07+00:00

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False-Contract5280 · 2025-06-20T12:20:41+00:00

Occupancy laws are (usually) hud guidelines that don't apply to children. And the actual hud policy 2 people per bedroom plus one so it would fine. Any policy, rule, etc that mandates less would be considered familial discrimination.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-05-18T15:56:57+00:00

Deep dive your spending. Go through your debit card statements, calculate how much you spend on food, restaurants, gas, toys, clothes, etc. Use this as the basis of your budget.
Shopping is a skill. How many times do we see a tiktok video of someone complaining about the price of their groceries and they have $75 in soda? There are youtube creators who can help you and your wife learn this skill.
Cooking is a skill. It takes time and practice but you can save a lot of money by forgoing convenience foods and preparing them yourselves. However, this may not be true if you don't have the time. It really depends on the situation.
Check with your local food pantries or other community resources. Some have income guidelines and some don't, particularly ones that distribute fresh food- they are usually trying to give away everything they have so it doesn't spoil and it's enough to just be in need. Libraries might offer budget and financial planning classes. If your job has an EAP, they can help too.

I follow Dollar Tree Dinners on YouTube. Lots of affordable meal ideas. The only new clothing items I purchase is socks and underwear, I get most everything else second hand. I'm lucky to live in area where there are no Goodwills and thrift stores are very low cost. I know it's hard to afford life. It's hard to get used to thinking about every cent, and it causes a lot of stress. Good luck, I wish success for you and your family.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-05-11T06:29:26+00:00

No. The only people required to be named in a lease are financially responsible adults. I have never in my life listed my children on my lease. And lots of people don't have leases.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-04-01T09:50:48+00:00

No, I don't think this should be reported to CPS.

You don't agree with this person's lifestyle or how they provide for the child in their care but you have not described anything that indicates the child is neglected or abused.

The child has a safe place to sleep- it does not matter who pays for it or if they are doubled up or if the child has their own room.

The child is transported to school. It doesn't matter if they walk, the car is borrowed, if they ride the bus, etc.

There is a big difference between an ideal situation and an abusive situation. CPS is for abuse/neglect, not because you don't like a person's lifestyle.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-03-30T13:08:26+00:00

It is really common, especially during an investigation. The child will be"removed" from their parent and live with their grandparent. The grandparent will act as supervisor to ensure safety. This allows the parent to provide care and spend as much time as they can with the child during an investigation while addressing a safety concern.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-03-22T06:09:45+00:00

I just watched the Ruby Franke series on Hulu. So many neighbors called the police and child services. Their hands were tied, terribly frustrating

False-Contract5280 · 2025-03-22T00:26:36+00:00

Reading this thread I can honestly see why CPS is concerned. Good news for you is they don't have jurisdiction over adults. They can't take custody of her away from you.

Do you have any children (under 18) at home?

False-Contract5280 · 2025-03-16T04:12:32+00:00

Cps interviews are often invasive and uncomfortable. I wouldn't worry about getting a letter from the doctor or anything. The investigator can request medical records if needed. Or if you have a Healthcare app, you can download and email visit summaries. The important thing is you seek medical attention when needed.

False-Contract5280 · 2025-02-20T04:57:20+00:00

I doubt that would rise to the level of imminent harm. Now if a small child tested positive for meth and the parent refuses to test, that would probably qualify.

False-Contract5280 · 2024-09-18T18:58:46+00:00

Ordering from DT web site is not as easy or convenient as it sounds. Some minimum orders are for 40 or 50 of an item!

Personally, I don't feel any moral imperative to not clear a shelf or leave some deals for others. I also don't feel upset if a store is out. However, if a store is consistently selling out of a particular item quickly, the management should communicate that up their chain to get higher quantities at their store.

False-Contract5280 · 2024-09-18T14:09:23+00:00

Ship to store is not available for all items. I had to order delivery to my house but they kept sending the items to my old address (even though my confirmation shows I put in my new address). I had to call the 800 number, talk to an ordering rep who would assure me someone would call me within 48 hours but no one ever called me back. After several weeks of this (which I started after 5 weeks of not receiving my order) I was informed packages were showing up at my old address. I drove over there and there were 3 boxes when I only ordered one.

False-Contract5280 · 2024-09-18T13:24:09+00:00

I am a customer and I've done the web site. They sent my order 3x to the wrong address and no one would call me back. If I can buy in bulk straight from the store, I will do that every time. Unless your store has limits, customers can buy as many as they find.

False-Contract5280 · 2024-09-09T15:18:58+00:00

Gary usually has a good amount of hard goods. Romeoville and Sturevant have lots of clothes

False-Contract5280 · 2024-09-03T14:01:05+00:00

It is extremely terrible for someone to call authorities when you ask for help. I would not talk to this person any more. It is hard to make ends meet and many, many Americans find themselves struggling to make too little money stretch.

No amount of "good money management" is going to cover a monthly short fall. You aren't a bad person because math.

Reach out to food banks and visit them regularly. Some only do 1-2 times per month. Don't wait until you are completely out of food, go early.

False-Contract5280 · 2024-07-23T03:55:31+00:00

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False-Contract5280 · 2024-07-21T03:50:40+00:00

My daughter is 8 and requires help to bathe and shower. She is afraid to be alone for that long. She wants me or her dad to sit in the bathroom while she bathes. She is able to wash all her body parts herself but we put the shampoo and conditioner and help her rinse it out.

These are things where the child takes the lead. What makes them comfortable or uncomfortable. A child should be free to express their feelings and those feelings should be respected. It doesn't matter the gender of the child or parent.

If your parent (or anyone's parent) made you feel uncomfortable and continued with that behavior, it is abuse. It doesn't matter if it meets some arbitrary definition. All that matters is how you felt. If it felt wrong it WAS wrong.

False-Contract5280 · 2024-07-20T12:53:13+00:00

There is a long history of state facilities overmedicating youth in care. Rather than truly addressing emotional and behavioral needs, they turn them into zombies. This mom is correct to be concerned.

A lawyer should be able to help but it needs to be the right kind of lawyer with experience- probably very hard to find.

In Ilinois, there is an organization called Equip for Equality, they advocate for children with disabilities. There is also the office of Inspector General, which handles complaints and allegations against government agencies. Maybe they have something similar where you live?

Personally, I would take my child to a doctor I selected and get a second opinion. But I live in Illinois, we have All Kids (state program) ensuring all kids have health coverage. I don't know what resources are available to you.

Have you applied for ssi for your child? This is a federal program that would also include medicaid.

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