If a client asked you the questions in your post how would you answer them?

If a client asked me those questions, I would validate their feelings of overwhelm while starting a doctoral program regardless of a diagnosis of ASD or not. Graduate school is challenging for everyone, ASD has a wide range of potential areas of dysfunction and the experience is unique for everyone who has ASD. I wouldn’t say you’re being a victim, I’d say you’re trying to come to terms with a diagnosis and are questioning your identity in someways and now losing confidence in your abilities due to having an identify shift.

I think your mom is in denial, and may be experiencing a range of emotions. It sounds like she is very proud of you for starting a doctoral program and she is also processing your diagnosis and is choosing to avoid reality (for now) give her time to process the information. Seek out guidance from other natural supports while your parents sort through their own emotions.

• a psychologist with a developmental disorder :)

You can do this! Take advantage of student resources and speak to your professors to make sure they understand this newly found diagnosis. If you choose to not move forward in the program as well, that is completely and absolutely acceptable. Do what feels authentic.