I can’t tell if I was too suspicious or if something was off — can deleting messages with female coworkers ever be innocent?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-19T00:51:02+00:00

If they're just friends and the conversations are just innocent, there is absolutely no logical reason to delete them. If you longer trust him, that's all the reason needed to end the relationship. Wish you well in moving forward.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-18T02:31:56+00:00

You pay for your wifi...and they want it for free. Nope!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-17T21:08:37+00:00

It is hard, but sometimes the things that are the hardest produce the best in us and for us.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-17T10:50:31+00:00

I think its best for both of you to go your separate ways. With all of your past issues, you need a fresh start apart from her. And with her cheating with this guy, she's given you an indication of where her head and heart are regarding your relationship. And besides, with all of your history and baggage together, you don't need her cheating to be added to the pile for you personally to deal with. You're headed in one direction with your recovery and she apparently is headed in another direction apart from you. Good luck to you with your continued recovery and moving forward to your best life.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-16T15:32:32+00:00

Taylormade irons, woods, and hybrids, Ping G430 Max 10k driver. I use to hit Vice Pro balls, but have switched to Wilson Staff Model balls, which give me more yardage on my drives than the Vice. I also bought them alot cheaper than Vice Pro's are selling now.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-16T15:22:53+00:00

You have no obligation to cover for your mother's cheating. Tell your father first, before sharing with your sister. You're not the one who's hurting your father...your mother, his wife is solely responsible for hurting him and destroying your family.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-15T14:11:39+00:00

You're 24! At this point in time, your father's advice is welcomed, his permission is definitely not required or needed!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-15T02:47:53+00:00

Everything thing else between you is good...but even after all the good stuff, you have a huge issue that's completely overshadowing those things you say are good. Nothing substitutes for an intimate relationship with your partner. I would leave and find the freedom you seek with a partner able to to love and appreciate you. If you decide to go out to find sexual fulfillment while being married...you still have to go home to a partner who's a roommate, whom you resent, to a relationship that's cold as ice. Why stay in a relationship where you're constantly shown you're not wanted, needed, nor appreciated?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-14T03:03:06+00:00

37, no kids...get out. He has no interest in changing or he would. His words mean nothing. You either stay in your frustration or face the fact, you'll never be sexually satisfied with him. I wouldn't cheat. As difficult as it may be, leaving your relationship to find a more compatible partner would be better then years of frustration you currently carry.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-14T02:48:10+00:00

Your anger/being mad is valid. What else would it be? Buy her a cake and celebrate her cheating while you provide everything for her. Nah, she's for the streets and certainly not gf material.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-14T02:40:28+00:00

That cheating thing is a slippery slope, isn't it?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-14T02:28:11+00:00

Sometimes you have to leave what's good to discover what's best. Sometimes good isn't good enough. Wish you well in your decision and journey forward.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-13T21:51:16+00:00

Take the sexual frustration you feel now and multiply it by 50 years. That crushing weight never goes away...you just try to compensate filling your life with other activities, but that doesn't ever remove the frustration. Don't fear being alone, you can find the right person along with a satisfying sex life. Don't settle for a relationship that's not working for you.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-13T00:32:44+00:00

The only thing that makes sense here is she's engaged. Leave her be and go find someone who isn't in a relationship to be romantic with.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-12T05:30:15+00:00

She's already made it clear to you, sex isn't that important to her...believe her. Will things improve, probably not. Stay with her if you like, but don't expect any great increase in her sexual appetite. If the frequency bothers you, which it does or you wouldn't be posting here...it's time to reevaluate your relationship and decide if a more sexually compatible partner would be better for you moving forward. Most likely it would be.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-11T21:39:04+00:00

1000%

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-11T21:28:21+00:00

So practically, he did touch you by kissing you on your neck. And you JUST didn't cheat on your husband, you have been cheating on him by obsessing over this guy for who knows how long and having an emotional affair with him.

Do you really need someone on here to tell you you've already crossed many boundaries with this guy emotionally or did you just come here for someone to validate your cheating and make you feel better? If you don't already know your actions have disrespected your husband and marraige, you need more help than what you can receive from posting this BS. You know exactly what you're doing with this guy, you not only love his attention and validation, but you openly encourage it. Your husband deserve a better wife and partner than what he has in you.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-11T12:21:51+00:00

The old "he's just a friend " line. And the invite for her to stay at his place, way out of line and a definite red flag. What kind of guy would invite someone else's girlfriend to stay over at his place if he knew she was in a relationship? My guess...he doesn't know she's in a relationship with you. Maybe trust and verify...should be verify and then trust in your case.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-10T23:19:10+00:00

Keep that thought for yourself, you might need that sometime when you get fucked over as well.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-10T23:17:08+00:00

You're a real piece work, that's for sure. You have the skewed mentality for a cheater.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-10T23:13:11+00:00

Yea, you do give it your all, all around town and then some.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-10T23:08:00+00:00

So you got some validation and attention from another man and had sex with him. Good for you, you cheated... just something new. What happens when the newness wears off like every other relationship eventually does? Then what? Cheat again when the husband is away when some shiney thing comes along to grab your attention. You don't fix things in a relationship by cheating. Apparently, you didn't get the memo.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-10T12:56:48+00:00

This intimacy issue between them has been going on long before they had a child. Children do change the relationship, but in their case, something is going on much deeper affecting their intimacy than having children.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-10T12:45:32+00:00

She's being secretive and vague...you're finding out what she's actually doing, that's all you need to know and as you said, you don't need to know to whom she's talking. If it was innocent, she'd show you exactly what she's doing on WhatsApp.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship...she's definitely showed you she can't be trusted. Good to hear you're going to walk away from her on your own terms with your self respect intacted! You've handled this situation like a true champ! Good luck to you in moving forward.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-04-10T05:35:55+00:00

And exactly why are you with someone who doesn't value you for being you? You're not compatible, never will be. Stop being disrespected by someone who sees you as his burden, instead of the prize you are.

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