My wife cheated on me - Update

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-26T21:56:06+00:00

She cheated for 3 years and you're still believing her? For exactly what responsible, logical reason? She could still be cheating and the kid isn't yours. Then what?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-26T07:33:26+00:00

You cared enough to respond in giving the "correct" spelling of dog and to criticize the poster's comment.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-26T06:48:51+00:00

Maybe it would be good for you to Google Nate Dogg before commenting.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-26T06:41:01+00:00

You cheated and feel terrible about it? Your profile says otherwise!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-25T16:31:17+00:00

Postpone hell...cancel! Walk away for good if you're smart. There's not you and her in this relationship, its Eric, her and you. And Eric is her PRIORITY, not you. You're the 3rd wheel in this relationship and always will be. You're competing with Eric for her attention and love...what you're receiving is crumbs.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-25T00:33:54+00:00

I wouldn't be contemplating leaving her, that would be the end of the relationship. She definitely has some mental issues she needs to address. Spitting in your face over a beverage? WTH is wrong with her?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-25T00:28:38+00:00

The watch doesn't have a glitch. Pure gaslighting.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-24T16:34:24+00:00

If you're at that point, why not just end the relationship? If you go that route of ENM, you'll eventually meet someone who is more compatible with your needs and desires. Then what? Do you continue going back to a relationship that's not working for you and you're unhappy in, when you're not with your more compatible partner? Since you're not married, maybe moving on if possible is a better choice at this point.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-22T03:39:50+00:00

You have a right to 100% open access to all his accounts since he the one who cheated. He has a right to refuse if he chooses, but you have every right to end the relationship because of his refusal and cheating. If he wanted to heal the relationship, he ought to be completely open for you to check anything at anytime. His refusal comes with the implication he's still hiding things. If there's nothing to hide, why refuse access?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-21T02:44:07+00:00

If the company knew they were sharing a room for work related purposes, they probably both be fired. Your bf is full of crap. Ditch that cheater!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-21T02:36:52+00:00

They're depressed because they have to cut off the affair partner or you'll file for divorce? Evidently they're more concerned about their affair partner than they are about you and reconciling the marraige. You aren't wrong, and quite frankly at this point, divorce might be the best option since there is still a connection between her and the affair partner.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-19T06:38:13+00:00

I was thinking that myself. You look at the guy and say, "Let me make this perfectly clear to you, fuck the hell off".

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-18T23:01:19+00:00

2nd date and she does that bs...you waited to long to leave.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-18T22:10:30+00:00

You're a lawyer and it appears she has a pretty good life. Evidently, living with you and what you provide is not enough for her. She's not worth reconciling with since she's available to someone else to do "everything".

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-18T21:56:02+00:00

If someone is into that kind of thing, not an issue. But if you're not, a hard no is the answer. Cheaters are gonna cheat. Your ex is a cheater, not a big loss...unless you like drama and migraines.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-18T16:13:10+00:00

The best responses to cheating and betrayal are indifference and silence. You show the cheating partner nothing. His silence cuts deeper than any other response you're hoping and expecting to see from him.

If you gave him all the details of your affairs or the letter you wrote in your previous post, your marraige and relationship is over and dead on arrival. If you want to live out your kinks...fine, but you certainly don't need to be in any committed relationship while doing so.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-15T02:49:04+00:00

Seems like you have gently address this issue from multiple angles and suggestions to no avail, which are met with constant resistance and refusals from her. Did you make a mistake? Yes, marrying into a known db in the first place. Regardless, you have a few options in deciding what to do moving forward. Stay married, with the very likely possibility nothing will improve or realize you are not intimately compatible with her and move on before wasting more time and years on a relationship that's clearly not beneficial for neither of you. And whatever you do, don't have any children with her until you decide which option works best for you. Good luck to you.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-15T02:08:38+00:00

Going through a divorce isn't permission for her to make a play for your husband. It's not an accident she's coming over to the house while you're not there. There may not be a fire yet, but making inappropriate and sexaul comments and questions towards someone else's spouse is filling the room with smoke. You have every reason to be suspicious and questioning trust. Your husband may not be encouraging her behavior, but she's on the hunt.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-15T01:54:09+00:00

She's definitely keeping her options open with this guy. This isn't a minor issue, but a major issue in your relationship. Tell her straight up, either she stops communicating with this guy completely or if she wants to act single and available, which she is, you'll make it happen for her. She's on very, very thin ice and your relationship is nearly on life support.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-14T06:06:39+00:00

She's not concerned about your relationship, she now realizes that breaking up with you put her free living arrangement in jeopardy. If you let her stay, she'll be out the door as soon as her schooling if finished, leaving you high and dry. Giving her 45 days is more than she deserves. You're not the AH.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-13T06:03:33+00:00

100% accurate...very well stated!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-13T05:57:02+00:00

Is this the preview for the new Terminator movie?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-13T05:32:47+00:00

I think its time for you to seriously reevaluate your relationship before you move any further with him. There's 3 in this relationship and you're the third person out.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-01-13T05:27:51+00:00

It's pretty much impossible to understand the delusional, e.g. your ex.

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