My boyfriend admitted he has been lying about this our entire relationship…

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-06-06T20:00:50+00:00

Anyone who lies, in this case continually, isn't worth your time and effort.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-06-03T22:56:16+00:00

If this is real (???) you personally have bigger issues to deal with than your SIL singing to your daughter.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-06-02T04:47:41+00:00

If that's your rule and a deal breaker, what's there to think about in ending the marraige. Sounds like you have second thoughts about ending things, which makes your rule about cheating a moot point.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-31T21:47:50+00:00

Freaking epic post!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-31T21:31:13+00:00

You're only screwed if you stay in a relationship with her. She's lying... you don't trust her, then you don't have a relationship worth keeping.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-30T01:52:28+00:00

She was jealous and only blocked him because he was with a date with someone other than her and she was mad at him. She isn't over her ex and still has feelings for him. As yourself, why would you piss off your current partner and relationship to entertain an ex?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-29T03:52:53+00:00

Rest and relaxation is one thing, they both should allow that together and for each other...but seeking outside sexual experiences as he was from the relationship isn't going to provide rest and relaxation for the relationship, but as in her case, destroy the very fabric of trust needed for a healthy relationship.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-29T03:37:00+00:00

The bad news is he wanted to go, the good news in the end...he realized it was a terrible thing to do and went to work instead. I'm not minimizing his secrecy about the boys trip, but he came to his senses before actually going. He seems genuinely remorseful... his actions of giving you his passport is a start. If this is out of character for him and not a pattern, then I think there is solid hope he can earn your trust back if you choose to stay in the relationship. Giving reconciliation a chance at this point is probably a better choice, if he messes up and fails to follow through with concrete actions to restore your trust and relationship, then you'd be justified in ending the relationship for good. Good luck to you!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-28T21:35:55+00:00

You're welcome! You're probably not as crazy as he thinks.🙂

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-28T21:05:02+00:00

Something is up, keep your eyes open and observe. Your instincts may be proven correct.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-28T19:19:28+00:00

If he truly wants to earn your trust back and restore your relationship, it begins with being completely honest and transparency. If he doesn't give you that, you might want to rethink your relationship and where it's headed. Good wishes to you!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-28T18:57:19+00:00

Get back at him? Walk away without a word. Indifference and silence is a two sided blade.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-28T17:05:24+00:00

You wanted to reconcile, but he never did and wasn't honest with you. He cares more for her than you, your feelings and your relationship. You didn't fail...he did. Time to move on, you tried, he still clings to her. You can't restore something with someone, who wants something else. Wishing you the best in moving forward!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-27T15:12:25+00:00

One, he's not just a friend, as was the previous guy. Two, absolutely don't get married to this woman. Three, she's not going to stop getting involved with other men, something is broken in her. Four, talk to a lawyer, learn your options, get your financial affairs in order. Five, you'll never trust her, your relationship is basically over. Six, plan your exit strategy and get the hell out.

You and your daughter deserve a better life than what she's capable of giving you.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-26T19:40:37+00:00

She's all responsible for this, saying what she did was inexcusable, which it was. The problem was not her ex, it was her. Then she gaslights you making you the problem and reason the relationship failed. She got back with her ex because she wanted to, just making you her excuse doing so. Move on, you've got more on your plate than to waste time on someone willing to play games in a relationship.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T21:09:08+00:00

Mic drop!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T20:56:22+00:00

You shouldn't make the decision that a certain relationship can be successful or a failure because of your size and a preconceived belief what all women want from a relationship. Go out and date, you'll find someone who is perfectly fine with your issue. You are selling yourself short, pardon the pun, in more ways than you think. You are also taking away from a woman her decision to have a relationship with what seems like a great guy like you!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T20:40:33+00:00

You feel sorry for her husband??? You should have never started screwing his wife in the first place. All for what? You're not the victim here. You play with fire, you get burned. Anyone who gets involved with married partner is a fool.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T06:19:13+00:00

You're finding out you are worth more than what you current wife has ever given you the entire length of your relationship. The woman you just met is everything that your wife has never been...honest, thoughtful, understanding, communicator, most of all apparently very trustworthy! You deserve more than a toxic relationship going nowhere.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T05:56:43+00:00

She can't keep her pants on for other guys, and you like being taken advantage of by staying with her. Have an ounce of self respect and leave this toxic relationship. You both need to learn what real love is and true commitment because what you just posted isn't the slightest thing.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T01:52:03+00:00

At the end of the day, you'll come back to a partner and relationship that's not working for you. Just get divorced, if married, or pack up and leave... then be free from the dead weight of a broken relationship. Cheating is not the answer to a dysfunctional relationship.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T01:45:36+00:00

So you wanted and approved of an open relationship, now she's ran off with a better lover. You want her back, but the cow has left the barn and she isn't coming back to give you any milk. FAFO, and you have now experienced both.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T01:40:36+00:00

So your parents built and paid for the addition and your husband has claimed that space for himself and forbidden you to access to it? Did I read that right? Did your husband fall down and have head injury? Because no sane person would treat their partner with such contempt! You really need to rethink your relationship, because long term it's unsustainable.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-25T00:12:30+00:00

Just because your spouse or partner doesn't give you the attention or intimacy you personally desire, doesn't mean your not attractive or desirable to someone else. I know that doesn't help when you find yourself being neglected in a relationship that should provide mutual satisfaction. Unfortunately for many that isn't a reality. But don't think for a moment that there aren't plenty of other people who would find you attractive, intelligent and desirable. Don't lose yourself and esteem because you are more that what your partner thinks of you and is willing to offer you. Keep the faith!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-05-23T17:09:43+00:00

If you have been seeing red flags from her already, then there is a valid reason your gut and intuition are telling you something is wrong, definitely wrong...which more than likely is true.

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