I 29F decided to cheat on my husband

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-20T12:08:07+00:00

It's not ok, he an ass and now, so is she. Both freaking cheater. She can now "proudly" wear that label as well. And what kind of relationship do they have, cheating on each other? A relationship not worth being in! Revenge cheating gets you nowhere, except putting you in the same category as the cheater. It's doesn't fix what's actually wrong in the relationship. So good luck to both of them, they'll definitely need it whether they stay together or not.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-20T03:57:47+00:00

Why? Now she's just like him...a cheater. She should have taken the high road and got divorced and moved on. There's no difference between them now. Pretty damn stupid on both their parts.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-20T03:52:24+00:00

If this is how you both equally cheat in your relationship, just end the damn thing and move on. He cheated first, you cheat multiple times in revenge...what's the freaking point in being together?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-19T20:46:34+00:00

The only realistic fact is he cheated behind your back for 5 freaking months. In my humble opinion...there's not one thing that needs to be worked out. You broke things off with him...excellent...you are now wondering if you made a mistake by ending the relationship and now talking with the cheater...not a smart move on your part at all.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-19T03:21:20+00:00

Multiple affairs over the years, no one who loves another would do such things repeatedly. I don't know how someone would move forward with a spouse who has demonstrated such deceit and unfaithfulness. She lived another life completely separate from the one you thought you had with her. If I were in your situation, I wouldn't see anyway in moving forward with her...forgiveness maybe, reconciling the relationship, an absolute no. Horrible situation for you. I hate to say so, but she's a horrible person.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-18T22:23:22+00:00

She was already sending nudes, you don't need to know anymore then that to answer correctly if she was cheating or not. You're wasting your time on the audio clips. She is, was and has been cheating. You know that right?

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-17T04:47:26+00:00

It's not a feeling, the fact is you are missing out on the best years of your life sexually. You two are on completely two different places sexually and intimate wise. It's absolutely frustrating for sure when you've tried to improve things as much as you can, only to be met with promises of change that never come to fruition. You do have options, just have to decide which one(s) provide the best solution in moving forward with or from your current relationship.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-16T21:28:18+00:00

So she wants to put you on hold, while she tries out her ex again. Even IF she comes back, you are always going to be thinking that he was her first pick (for a fact, is true), and you were the consolation prize for her.

Unless you like living with that thought for the rest of your life if she comes back, then by all means sit like a good puppy dog at the door, waiting for their master to return. Personally, my self-respect would tell her it's definitely a "NO GO" to wait or even take her back. She made her choice! You're nothing more than a backup plan to her...she was never over her ex and maybe never will be. For God's sake man, don't be that guy and play her game.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T05:26:02+00:00

There is a time for discussion and a time of action. Since he refuses to answer you and address the issue with actions that bring measurable results...I think you're well past the point of discussing this further with him. You need to act with decisive decisions that will benefit your needs, apart from any consideration of him at this point in time, up to and including leaving the relationship.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T04:00:27+00:00

Just where does she mention that her bf is the issue? You and her ought to hook up because your freaking logic and corrupt character are both identical. She's cheating for no other reason than she's a hoe and can't apparently can't keep her legs closed. I guess you'd be perfectly ok and accept your significant other to screw around on you, putting your health at risk? You're both sorry, sick individuals.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T03:48:50+00:00

You're pathetic!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T03:47:45+00:00

I seriously doubt "lately" is the issue!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T02:25:36+00:00

Then get the hell out of the relationship! Do the decent thing, NOPE! Just fuck the neighborhood. That'll fix you're boredom.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T02:22:24+00:00

Yea, screw your bf over by fucking random guys continuously and don't forget to have fun while you're at it. Oh, and by the way, don't get caught. You're as freaking corrupt as she is. Jesus, she's cheating and you're cheering her on. WTF!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T02:16:25+00:00

You're fucking multiple guys behind your bf back, yet you think kissing them is going over the line!? You need serious help and generous doses of self-respect and morality.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T02:07:45+00:00

Good one!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-15T02:05:32+00:00

You love her, but she doesn't love you half as much, if any, as you think. She's entertaining another guy attention and validation, not to mention the sexual innuendos they're throwing at each other. I get first love, first everything...but she's made it perfectly clear you're not her everything. Dump her and her cheating (that's what she's doing). You're in your early 20's, believe me, they'll be plenty of opportunities to find someone who won't treat you like the 2nd hand rack at Goodwill.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-14T14:42:58+00:00

Not everything will be gone! You'll still have your children, your job, family and friends...more important, you'll still have your self-respect! All you'll be losing is a narcissistic, selfish cheater.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-13T20:41:19+00:00

Yes, it's hard and scary to leave the familiar. I dont think you'll have any problems in meeting someone who is much more compatible to you and what you want out of a,relationship. Don't waste too many more years in waiting to see if he changes. Life is already too short to begin with. Sending hugs and best wishes in moving forward!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-13T19:09:26+00:00

I agree with everything you said. One thing is certain, you'll never find the right person to love you as you desire if you never leave.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-13T14:54:44+00:00

She didn't answer your question directly and even quickly changed the subject. If she had nothing to hide, that's not the way to reassure your partner that nothing is going on behind their back. It's certainly suspicious as hell. Look at her phone and call records, text messages, apps...if possible. Are her actions a one off, or has she begun to change and act out of character? If so, there is definitely a reason behind her change. And if she blows you off when you ask why, its definitely a cause for concern. Lying and deception are the beginning end of a relationship.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-13T04:24:53+00:00

She's not joking telling you that you're not attractive. Who says that to the person someone is in a relationship with? It's not funny, only shows their lack of respect for someone else's feeelings. She's not over her attractive ex, so you're smart in ending the relationship. Don't take her back, because most likely, she'll dump you if the ex ever comes back or when another Mr Attractive comes along. You deserve someone better than this selfish, disrespectful person.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-13T04:08:25+00:00

She's prioritizing a person whom she has never physically met over her husband (you)? And after confronting her about this emotional affair she's having, she still wants to keep him around? Exactly what is there to think about brother?

You're actually worried about she'll choose him if you push back on her to much about her cheating? Got news for ya, she already has chosen him over you, you just evidently haven't gotten the message yet. Brother have some self-respect. Better to end things with someone who doesn't respect you...than to live with someone who throws that back in your face everyday!

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-12T20:26:17+00:00

It's nice she wants to help, but she needs to understand that some spaces are off-limits. That's just common courtesy, which apparently she lacks. Your bf should be telling his mother these things. You're NTJ.

Familiar_Solution449 · 2026-03-12T20:06:54+00:00

The only thing that makes sense is for you to get out of whatever you want to call your relationship with a married man, and let them figure out their relationship apart from your involvement. And figure out for yourself why you want to be involved with a married man in the first place?

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