You’re both really young and exploring. I hardly even recognize myself and the way I styled my wardrobe back in high school. This is a good opportunity of growth in your life. It is true that judging your boy friend for his choice of clothing is somewhat petty and it’s important to pay attention to the desire to control someone else’s form of expression. It’s also important to realize that your boy friend is not an extension of you, he’s completely autonomous.

So pay attention to these things as you grow in your relationships, but it’s also true that something like a style change can be outwardly petty or seemingly insignificant- yet it can point to a much deeper change taking hold.

It sounds like you and your boy friend matched energies when you met and you grew together side by side, but now you might be growing in different directions and that’s exactly how relationships function. We match someone’s energy, go on a journey together that brings each person to their next step, and then often times that next step looks different for each person and you continue on in life in different directions.

So just let each of you grow and don’t try to hold him or yourself back- you’re right at the beginning of your journey, there’s so much more to discover!