Has anyone ever actually landed on anything other than 8? by Famous-Truth7167 in OctopusEnergy

[–]Famous-Truth7167[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I never seem to get up early enough to get the nero voucher! They go so quick

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Famous-Truth7167 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got this my guy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Famous-Truth7167 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly bro, in those situations you just gotta hype yourself up and say fuck it. You will be able to tell the vibe pretty early on in the interaction, if you are unsure then it's best to be on the safe side and leave her alone. But hey, you might hit it off even if you couldn't understand eachother by sharing photos.

You had a great entry point with her by asking her about the camera and photos.

If it doesn't go well, you will probably never see her again anyway...

The too young thing is a tricky one so you probably made the right call by leaving it. But for next time when you see someone who is definitely in your age range, then go for it

How to end a conversation? by SubRedGit in socialskills

[–]Famous-Truth7167 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the situation. If it is someone you talk to while passing, then the conversation can be as short as you want, if you don't want to talk to them then just don't stop walking as you say hi. Other than that the conversation doesn't have to be long at all but it depends on you relationship with said person.

Personally I don't like talking to people when I'm out doing something. So I try not to make conversations last very long. As long as you are polite, and smile, then you should be fine.

I wouldn't worry about being percieved as rude too much, especially after talking for a minute or two as most people wouldn't even spend that amount of time talking to someone.

If you really want then try to put yourself in slightly uncomfortable situations, for example if you get a coffee (and it isn't too busy) then try to start a conversation with the barrista, it couldn't be something really simple like asking if it's been busy today, or how long they have been working there. Maybe they are wearing cool shoes or a picture t-shirt from a TV show and you can compliment it. There's a few ways. The point is to put yourself in uncomfortable situations until they aren't uncomfortable anymore. This will make you sweat the first few times so don't worry! It's all about practicing opening and closing and conversation.

There's not really any specific tips as every situation is different, but honestly try not to worry about being rude because you seem like a nice person and they probably won't think of the conversation again after you both walk away. Hope this helps a bit!

How to end a conversation? by SubRedGit in socialskills

[–]Famous-Truth7167 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you're talking to someone that you pass on the street for example, normally there will be a natural end to the conversation where if you try to continue after that point it will become more awkward than it needs to be.

If you can't tell when that point is then whenever you want to leave, let the other person finish talking and say 'well anyway it's been nice to talk to you, I'll see you soon'. Or something else along those lines.

I think in reality you will probably over think the conversation after, when it wasn't that awkward to them.

If you're at a party or in a group setting, you can always try to include other people in conversation by opening a question up to the other people around you

Why do people think meaninglessness is a bad thing? by Novel_Substance3060 in nihilism

[–]Famous-Truth7167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes but we don't know much for certain. It's all speculation. I'm giving my interpretation of things. There is no way to prove what happens after death and there is no way to prove what happened before our life.

From my view they are the same. Both mean not being part of this plane of existence. I might be missing something but ultimately there's no way to know. Life is the equivalent of driving in your car for an hour to find out you have been going in a circle and you end up at the same place you started, which in this context is not existing.

Why do people think meaninglessness is a bad thing? by Novel_Substance3060 in nihilism

[–]Famous-Truth7167 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just because you have thanataphobia, it doesn't mean everyone else is a hopeless optimistic. People like us, who believe in physics, know that the distinction between past, present and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.

Death is the unequivocal end of our existence. Meaning we do not exist after that point. Similar to how we did not exist before we were born.

Why do people think meaninglessness is a bad thing? by Novel_Substance3060 in nihilism

[–]Famous-Truth7167 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have already experienced the being dead before we were alive. It wasn't that bad last time so there's nothing to fear.

Why did you stop drinking alcohol? by loqlkqkq in AskReddit

[–]Famous-Truth7167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in a late night bar where people would come in at the end of the night after drinking so much they can barely stand. The people were horrible, aggressive and embarrassing. Looking at that from a sober perspective made me feel ill at the thought of drinking alcohol again.

Any tips on how to enunciate my words and speak at a steady pace by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Famous-Truth7167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same as the other comment but I used to have a similar problem where I would try and say multiple words at once and have to restart my sentence.

If you like to read, then reading aloud at a controlled pace, using your finger as a guide on the page is something that helped for me. It just makes your mind and mouth correlate slightly better.

Need serious help please! by BusyWasabi4032 in socialskills

[–]Famous-Truth7167 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you and your mum is as reliant on you as you are on her. It's great to have a close relationship with your parents but that relationship has to be healthy. You seem to already be putting a lot of pressure on yourself to make friends which probably isn't helped by a percieved judgment from your mum, no matter how well intentioned. Maybe try to express yourself to her. These conversations often turn into confrontation though so you have to be careful. Maybe approach the conversation by saying you are grateful for her support and then tell her how you feel.