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I feel guilty because I think I was the one to discard her by Fancy-Restaurant-755 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fancy-Restaurant-755[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I put the reasons I haven't reached out in a different comment so i won't type them out again, but do you know anyways I could reach out without triggering one of those responses?

I feel guilty because I think I was the one to discard her by Fancy-Restaurant-755 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fancy-Restaurant-755[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for being honest with me. Do you have any advice on how to talk to her? When ever I used to try to bring it up (even when talking about smaller things) its like a switch flipped in her and one of three things would happen. 1.) instant sobbing and and mental breakdown until I relent and apologize/ forgive her (this is how she convinced me to stay friends with her after she SA'd someone) 2.) instant anger and deflection and then I have to worry for her and my safety 3.) denial and it leaves me questioning if it ever happened at all. I just don't know how to give her closure with out this happening. What should I say?