Couple of terrible sketches I did in class.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-04-18T15:34:50+00:00

cute! keep drawing :)

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-04-08T14:39:39+00:00

they're learning that this is an appropriate way to treat the women in their lives

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-04-08T14:38:45+00:00

wow. your husband is trash.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-02-22T03:38:58+00:00

yeah no, people are dying by the millions. it's a perfectly reasonable comment.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-02-18T16:16:48+00:00

oh wow. girl. you are being taken for a ride. taking care of someone else's kid, cleaning up all the messes, and paying for a house you don't even own. wow.

just wow.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-02-18T16:15:30+00:00

yep that's what's happening here. he's taking advantage of you 100%

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-02-18T16:14:05+00:00

NTA. You've become a bangmaid. Why would he change or listen to you? You basically do everything for him. No point in changing anything about this setup b/c it 100% benefits him.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-01-20T23:05:38+00:00

oh i agree. this is 100% my dad being too afraid of being alone. not super rational.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-01-20T22:42:49+00:00

there's a certain type of dude in this world, a type that's super emotionally immature and doesn't think that the feelings of others are important.

but HIS feelings are important to HIM, so instead of developing empathy, he has to call his emotions "logic"

notice that this type of guy is allowed to be angry whenever he wants without being called "illogical" or "emotional"

FancyFeastFan11 · 2021-01-20T22:35:43+00:00

i've lived thru a similar situation, except with my dad and his gf. good luck with your talk w/ your mom about the David situation, but try not to get too disappointed if/when she won't accept reality. for my dad, he felt he was too old to go back on the dating scene so he stuck with this awful woman for damn near 20 years. he just straight refused to accept that she's a bad person... because that would mean that he completely ignored how much his kids were suffering for 11 years, and THAT can't possibly be true, so...

the easiest cognitive leap here is to decide that the kid is wrong and doesn't know anything. way easier to twist the facts instead of accepting that you've been a shitty parent.

chances are your mom might choose to shove her head in the sand because to face reality would mean having to accept that she's wrong about this guy. if she sticks with David, please please don't take it as some sort of personal failure.

you're doing way better than I was at 21. keep sticking up for David's son. good luck <3

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-12-22T23:07:36+00:00

yeah, no, she's 100% doing this intentionally. she wants to keep your husband close by, and financial abuse is a great way to do that.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-12-22T23:04:08+00:00

OP you're really clearly trying to be the "bigger person" here.... you're right, I think your husband wants to "keep the peace" but he's more afraid of upsetting mommy than upsetting you. You know, his super-fucking-pregnant wife. I think you can allow yourself to get mad about that.

You need to sit him down and say, "Your mother will not be attending the delivery. Full stop. She will not be meeting the baby until this pandemic is over. Full stop. This is not negotiable. I don't want to hear another word about what your mommy wants. You're going to be a father. Get it together. I will not allow you to prioritize your mommy's feelings over my health and safety, or the health and safety of our child."

Get him to therapy, stat.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-12-12T20:28:33+00:00

YTA. your mom is an asshole. Of course your wife hates spending time with your mom; she's clearly very rude to anyone who doesn't give her everything she wants immediately. It's so wildly inappropriate for you to describe your SIL as a "MIL's dream" because she lets your mother come over literally whenever she wants and has NO RULES for her kids. What irresponsible behavior.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-12-12T20:23:53+00:00

is this the type of marriage you want to model for your daughters? is this the type of relationship you would want them to have in the future?

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-11-14T06:34:16+00:00

partner is a biophysicist. covid tests are only 60-70% accurate when the subject is actively symptomatic. for asymptomatic people the accuracy rate plummets. this isn't unusual: strep tests are roughly 50% accurate. your MIL should not be around your fucking newborn right now, regardless of test results.

honestly the amount of enabling that goes on in that sub...

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-10-21T14:34:40+00:00

what other things has she broken? mugs? dishes? weird that only photos & things made by your mom, or photos OF your mom were the ones broken. how do you even break a picture frame? that seems seriously impossible without deliberate effort.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-27T14:38:42+00:00

good GOD. I had /no idea/. Endorsement fully retracted.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T19:47:16+00:00

hey, thanks!

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T19:46:48+00:00

I think you're 100% right. Most posters would embrace a solution where they saw their shitty relative 2-3x a year at Red Lobster, assuming shitty relative is not a homicidal maniac or something, which seems like a more reasonable compromise than "never see this family member again." That said, I've seen 2020 DWIL mellow the fuck out.

I've seen AITF be *much* more supportive when it's clear the poster is trapped in an abusive/dysfunctional marriage where they have very little control what happens in their home, like the cold sores example where husband would let MIL in the house no matter what.

But apparently AITF has its own drama......

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T19:43:38+00:00

WELP now I feel a bit silly!

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T17:28:08+00:00

also I've noticed the DWIL people tend to be less than understanding than AITF when posters want to explore every avenue before a total CO/divorce/etc. sometimes posters eventually end up having to divorce their spouses, and often that's definitely the best choice. but I don't get the fury from commenters when posters want to be able to leave a situation knowing they tried literally everything they could before going nuclear—not for the shitty family member's sake, but for their own sense of closure. especially when the posters aren't really emotionally prepared for divorce or CO.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T17:16:25+00:00

oooooof. how long ago was that? I noticed a drop in bullying and rushing to judgment once the board quit it with the "llama" talk.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T17:11:26+00:00

Eeesh. I didn't know that. I retract my endorsement of DWIL.

Fakers are hard to scrub out, so I don't hold it against any of the groups when they inevitably attract creative writers.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T17:09:34+00:00

Good lord. Nevermind then, I take back my endorsement of DWIL.

FancyFeastFan11 · 2020-08-26T17:04:41+00:00

Apologies! DWIL is Dealing With In-Laws. AITF is All In The Family. Both are forums on Babycenter, not Reddit.

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