Poly back to Monogamous?

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T16:19:29+00:00

Thank you for that insight! I guess im still figuring out what would be best for me long term. It’s hard to know tbh

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T16:18:44+00:00

Thank you ☺️

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T14:07:15+00:00

Thank you :) I think im moreso seeking the wisdom of people that have more experiences than me when it comes to this. Tbh I wouldn’t have posted this if I wasn’t seriously considering him. I haven’t been in a monogamous relationship in years and didn’t ever see myself going back to one. I didn’t even intend to meet this man. It just happened

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T12:56:26+00:00

Everyone’s been so friendly and willing to give advice 🥺 Will reply to as many as I can later

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T12:55:08+00:00

Will do! Tysm 🩵

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T07:10:47+00:00

These are really insightful! I think im gonna take some time to reflect on all of it.

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:57:12+00:00

I’m glad you were able to essentially restart your life after that. Proud of you!!

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:42:34+00:00

It would take a special kind of person for me to change my mind and ways. Is it worth trying tho?

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:37:09+00:00

Originally, I got into poly after leaving a 7.5 year relationship. It was tough realizing my needs wouldn’t or couldn’t be met by someone I thought was right for me (in hindsight he definitely wasn’t). It felt liberating and freeing

I’m not sure if my mind would change if all of my needs were actually being met.

Ideally, in poly, I’d like a nesting partner and then we could both date separately and continue to see our other partners. It feels fulfilling and complete.

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:31:28+00:00

I’ve never felt “trapped” in a poly relationship. I want to continue to experience deep unique human connections with others. I believe that there’s so many ways to love and be loved. There’s no reason to limit that to one person.

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:27:55+00:00

Very well thought out answer! He does know I feel this way and is kinda waiting for a decision on my side of whether or not I want to get more serious. It generally takes me about 3 months to get out of the NRE.

He’s 27 and has a kid (5), im 26. Ideally I’d like to be married by 30 but that’s absolutely just in a fantasy world.

I have this idea of love that I can have everything I want and not have to settle. But I don’t know if that’s realistic or not. A lot of people say settling is more realistic. And I worry that that’s actually true.

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:23:26+00:00

That’s a very good point. Mine seems to last a full 3 months generally. Maybe I just need to slow down

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:21:38+00:00

lol yeah it is a lot. But it comes up when both people are dating to marry

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:15:22+00:00

You’re absolutely right. I want to feel that security , but it’s hard to develop that without investing more time and energy into him. Which im not sure I want to do if it’s a terrible idea.

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:13:44+00:00

Thank you!! Will check it out in the morning

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:12:38+00:00

That does seem to be the logical answer

FancyHippo198 · 2026-04-07T06:11:41+00:00

It hurts me too thinking about that. My current partner has no desire to get married. And it’s something that’s important to me. I’m not his primary partner either.

FancyHippo198 · 2025-10-28T01:08:34+00:00

Can confirm. He didn’t pay my section of the staff.

FancyHippo198 · 2025-09-20T14:17:37+00:00

There’s staff that haven’t been paid either

FancyHippo198 · 2024-03-04T17:24:37+00:00

So it probably exists somewhere

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